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April 28 2016

Why Weight Loss Doesn’t Promise Happiness

By Mark Sisson
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Why Weight Loss Doesn't Promise Happiness FinalThere are any number of amazing reasons to lose weight that will offer incredible benefits in the long- and short-term. You’ll be in better overall health. It’s very probable that you’ll live longer and have more vitality in those years—particularly if getting in shape was part of your weight loss strategy. You’ll enjoy more energy for the people and activities you love. You may have more or preferable clothing choices. You’ll have a better chance of kicking many prescription drugs to the curb (and save a little dough in doing so). To boot, you’re likely to experience less chronic pain and a better night’s sleep, etc., etc. All that said, let’s be clear on something: weight loss isn’t a guaranteed stimulus to your personal happiness. Here’s why.

It can seem like an affront to all we hope. “If I’m at a healthier weight, that means I’m healthier, which of course means I’ll be happy!” The media and commercial images tell us so. Every check-out kiosk is lined with celebrity tell-alls sharing the boon of weight loss to the happiness of said personalities and their families. Television and online commercials tell the same stories. A spokesperson loses weight and thereby has the life he/she always dreamed of.

I’ll be the first to admit that for some people it really does work this way—but there’s more to those situations than people think. Weight loss and the resulting health enhancements can top off the natural contentment and confidence some people for the most part already have. Alternatively, it becomes a catalyst for psychological work that matches the same vigor as their physical transformation.

For many people, however, neither of these is the case, and therein lies the disappointment.

A University College of London study followed nearly 2000 people who received instruction for improving health and managing weight. At end of 4 years, 71% remained the same weight, 15% had gained at least 5% body weight and 14% had lost at least 5% body weight. You’d imagine that the 14% group would be the happiest of the bunch, but not so. In fact, they were twice as likely to be depressed as those in the other groups. Even when the study team accounted for health conditions and key demographic and psychological (e.g. bereavement) variables, the weight loss group still fared the worst in terms of personal happiness and overall well-being.

It’s true that other research findings don’t necessarily concur, but they complexify the question. In one study, obese subjects who lost significant weight (again, more than 5% of body weight) reported better mood along with sleep. However, temporary improved mood doesn’t always correlate with overall happiness.

Another study brings to bear additional considerations. The National Weight Control Registry enrolls participants who have maintained a 30+lbs weight loss for at least a year and defines “clusters” of subjects based on personal history, employed strategies and common attitudes. An analysis project of 2,228 enrollees showed those in the cluster that struggled most with ongoing weight maintenance and used the most outside resources (e.g. commercial weight loss programs, health care providers) reported significant issues with stress management and demonstrated higher depression rates. (PDF)

This is, of course, no surprise, but it underscores the phenomenon of weight “cycling” and highlights the issue (as well as quality) of outer voices in a person’s weight loss experience versus inner motivation. Weight lost doesn’t always mean loss maintained—or a struggle eased. Nor does it suggest a sustainable psychological underpinning for healthy and happy living.

In fact, the opposite scenario might be the more consistently true. University of Adelaide researchers designed a four-week “positivity” pilot study that promoted self-esteem, gratitude and general happiness rather than weight loss. Despite the lack of focus on physical health, half of participants actually lost weight during the study, and three-quarters of those shed additional pounds during the three months following the program.

In my observation over decades of training and coaching people, genuine (long-term) health change—regardless of what it is but maybe especially if it involves the commitment of substantial weight loss—requires a solid foundation of self-efficacy and self-respect. If that’s lacking, no number of pounds lost will ever fill in that gap.

In fact, weight loss can impose unexpected challenges. We might feel more “on display” for public comment (regardless of how positive). We might feel exposed and saddened or perplexed as to why we’re somehow worth more attention or accolades now. We might feel like all of our expanded “worth” is suddenly tenuous and vulnerable.

Many people, particularly those who lose considerable weight relatively quickly, don’t know how to process the incongruity between the image they’ve had of themselves for so long and what they now see in the mirror. I’ve heard people call it an out-of body experience and even the reason for an almost deliberate weight regain.

The fact is, we all come to tell or believe stories about ourselves over time. Maybe it’s been over the course of our entire lifetime that we’ve seen ourselves one way, or maybe it’s something we’ve “settled into” over the last several years, but we come to a set point of physical appearance/activity level, social roles and personal perception. When one changes, we can get uncomfortable even if we and others believe our changes are for the better.

Likewise, other issues in our lives—whether it’s an unhealthy job situation or a floundering relationship or some other source of discontent or anxiety—won’t be fixed just because our outward appearance changes. Even the uptick in energy doesn’t automatically upgrade our outer circumstances.

Because the pounds only mean so much. Even in terms of health, fitness says more about mortality than weight does, and in terms of life happiness, our current weight (unless it’s debilitating us each day) is one of many inputs we process in a day.

Sure, we invest in our well-being every time we eat a good Primal meal or fit in a brisk walk over the lunch hour, but we do the same when we take 20 minutes to meditate in the morning, enjoy time with a good friend, or take in a gorgeous sunset.

There’s a reason I consider the Primal Blueprint an awesome approach for weight loss, but not a weight loss program per se. The Primal Blueprint is about living better, healthier and happier—right now whatever your weight today (or age, health condition, fitness level, etc.). It’s literally about cultivating the good life from all essential angles. The Primal mind doesn’t measure joy in pounds, but in experiences, connection, adventure, flow, self-actualization, creative endeavor and exploration, nourishment, and belonging.

It’s little surprise when we reset our lives toward these priorities and offer ourselves the sustenance that fuels us best that we find a source of energy and motivation to live well in our bodies and happier in ourselves.

Thanks for reading today, everyone. Offer your comments on the weight loss-happiness connection/disconnect, and have a good end to your week.

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  1. I was thinking about this yesterday. I’ve lost somewhere around 35 lbs living primally, which is way more than my goal weight, but somehow I still feel like I have more work to do. It seems like the target will keep moving no matter how far I get, so I need to rethink where I am going and why I am going there.

    1. I agree. I have lost 50 lbs, but now it seems like the goal line has moved. I step on the scale and see a number that would have had me jumping for joy a year ago, but now it frustrates me.

      As always Mark, a well timed discussion.

      1. Time to ditch the scale and use another measurement. Once you get down to a “normal” weight, the scale doesn’t offer anything useful because now you’re obsessing over a couple pounds which could be anything from retained water, to a full belly, to standing a little different.

        Think of it like cutting a board. The contractor say to cut the 2×4 to 42.5 inches. And you do, perfectly, with a saw and tape measure.

        Then the contractor hands you a laser measuring tool and says we need a tolerance of 1 micron. So you measure and now your perfectly cut board is suddenly many microns off. A total failure.

        The board didn’t change, just your perception of perfection

        Just use a tap measure and saw. Leave the laser gear alone.

    2. I think it’s human nature to always want more. Sometimes (in this case) it’s a good thing, Other times it could be considered greed. I find as I build more muscle that staying critical of myself keeps me on track. I’ve made a lot of progress but I’m ALWAYS looking for ways to improve. I’m always chasing that moving target 🙂

      1. It’s called hedonic adaptation. Such is the nature of the human beast, that it gets used to the good things very soon and takes them for granted. Then he falls back to his genetic level of happiness and starts looking for new challenges, fancying he will be forever happy once he overcomes those. Alas, it never happens. The creature adapts again and the whole game starts over and over and over again.

        1. That is of course why we are able (as a species) to sit communicating via laptops from all over the world discussing these subtleties … because humans have always kept pushing forward.

  2. Working as a fitness director and using the Primal means as a way to do this I have witnessed all sides of the weight loss equation.

    What I love so much about the Primal Blueprint and sharing with others is I always tell folks that this is not a weight loss diet, it is a way of life that tends to lead people to healthier weights.

    When I first start with clients I try to keep them off the scale except for once a month. We try to use variables such as: energy level, strength, sleep, mood, how much easier it is to get up the stairs.

    It is a funny thing when you let go of the focus of weight-loss and instead focus on living a healthy, fun, passion filled live your body tends to figure out how much it wants to weigh.

    I literally have no more room for new clients right now. Am I a good trainer? Sure. But what really keeps my schedule full in my opinion is getting people away from the scale and focusing on improving their health. One client I work with could not do a single push-up when we started and now she can do 10; and by the way because of this she also lost 35 pounds over the course of the training.

    Do not let the scale dictate your happiness; it will let you down almost every time.

  3. Excellent post, raises some great, if difficult questions. In my case, I could lose a fair bit of weight, but I’m still going to be married.

    1. Do you have a PRS? The primal principle of eliminating toxic things applies to relationships too.

    2. Take care of you first. As you feel better about yourself, the relationship will either improve, or it won’t. You will, however, be in a good place to keep moving forward, whatever direction life takes you.

      And, to the comment after, relationships can be very toxic. Stress hormones anyone ??

  4. This certainly rings true. Weight loss is certainly part of the equation in getting on a road to better health and happiness for many of us. But it’s not a panacea. So it’s always good to check in on what our core needs are. The more we meet them, the closer we’ll get to true happiness. And heck, that in itself can help with the weight loss (less stress, less comfort eating, etc.)

  5. Fascinating. Especially the study between the weight loss and non-weight loss groups. I never really thought about the anxiety behind gaining weight back or becoming uncomfortable with the extra scrutiny you receive from the change. That’s never really part of the conversation when it comes to weight loss. So I’m glad you brought it up. Maybe the more aware we are of it, the better we can deal with it.

  6. A good reminder for those of us who get too caught up in the numbers (despite telling ourselves not to). Thanks, Mark.

  7. This one makes a lot of sense: “We might feel like all of our expanded ‘worth’ is suddenly tenuous and vulnerable.”

    And what does that vulnerability breed? Insecurity, anxiety, etc., which leads to an unhealthy relationship with food/exercise.

    So I’ll just go with the idea of being happy, whatever my size, and just eating/exercising in a way I know is healthy and intuitive (aka Primal).

  8. That makes sense – for me to keep the weight off, I have to quit drinking altogether.

    …and then I’m not happy 🙂

  9. I think Mark’s post here really outlines the importance of focusing on happiness rather than what you look like in the mirror.

    The thing is, stress plays such a huge part in our health right down to preventing actual weight loss. Yes stress & cortisol will hinder weight loss, so it’s better to just focus on things you love doing and let the weight shed naturally.

    I think even Gary Tabues pointed out a fairly large study in his book where a group that was put on a weight loss program over a years time. During this time, I believe half the people didn’t even lose weight, whereas some actually increased their weight, while some decreased. What was notable about it was that those who decreased their weight, a few of them became very depressed and some even suicidal.

    I guess as they say, it’s about the journey, not the goal. Make your journey as pleasurable as possible and the goal will just happen naturally.

  10. I’ve lost 75lbs and I still feel “fat”. I think my body is larger than it really is. I guess all those years of being at a certain body mass and now having it shrink suddenly takes the brain awhile to adapt.
    I felt better initially but it’s true happiness won’t come just from weight loss… I still feel bad towards my body. Gynecomastia didn’t go away so if I want that to be fixed I’ll need surgery.
    Maybe I should start lifting though that would make gynecomastia more visible than it is…

    1. It has been suggested that gynacomaxtia is linked to high consumption of white meat chicken and bovine dairy. Perhaps eliminating those item will help?

      1. But it’s breast tissue. I don’t see how it would “remove” it. I could try giving up dairy.

        1. A consult with a credible surgeon will help answer some of your questions. At least you will know what the process of removing that tissue will be.

        2. The theory is that the hormones used in the production of food have created a hormonal anomaly that triggers the development of breast tissue.

    2. Sometimes surgery is the right thing. My nephew had it for this condition and it gave him his life back. Now he’s using his new physique and self-confidence to go primal and I’ve never seen him happier.

  11. It’s the same with any other external measure of success, the same thing can happen if you substitute career goals instead of weight loss, reaching them does not guarantee happiness. It can also lead to increased unhappiness since reaching the goal you thought would bring you happiness failed to do so, that can be foundation shaking.

  12. I lost 50 pounds a few years ago and will never forget the moment I realized i reached my magical goal weight number and my life wasn’t suddenly perfect like I thought it would be. In fact, my “problem areas” were suddenly magnified more. When I was overweight I was fat – that’s it. When I was a healthy weight I still had stomach fat, big thighs and now stretch marks from losing weight. When I work with online clients in my bootcamp I really try to instill in them the need to be happy NOW regardless of size as there’s no guarantee losing weight will bring happiness.

  13. Its so true that pounds lost are only an indicator of one thing….they don’t measure happiness necessarily.

    Over 10 years ago, I became very frustrated with my life, my job, the city I lived in and most especially, my weight. (I tended to blame all the other things on my weight, of course.) So, in a move that seemed to happen almost overnight, I moved to a different city, started a new career, lost about 40 pounds without really trying (in about 60 days) and met the love of my life, now my husband.

    To say I was/am much happier is an understatement, but I can’t say that the weight loss was the cause of all the joy. Even though I managed to keep off the first 40 pounds, I still struggle with the need to lose about 30 more. I wouldn’t say it causes me any depression, but it is a bit of a nagging issue in my mind most of the time. I wonder if there is ever really a resolution of this issue for those of us who were born overweight and lived with its consequences all our lives.

    1. Several years ago I went to a meeting of the NC Eat Smart Move More Leadership Team where a university research professor spoke about studies he was conducting in obesity. In his study with rats he was seeing that the excessive weight gain in the mother appeared to slow the metabolism of the infant in utero. While I am working with moms and babies I have noted that some of the infants of mothers who gained excessively during pregnancy [40-70# gains] have always been large even when mom reports that they prefer vegetables and eat lots of them and mom is controlling the junk/beverages. Now I only have their reports to go on, but it would appear that there is something like that going on. I have been “chunky” all my life and am having trouble losing the last “tire”. Unfortunately I can’t ask my mom if she gained a lot of weight while pregnant but as she was a smoker I seriously doubt that she did gain much.

  14. I’m fortunate in that my weight has always stayed relatively stable. But I believe that in all areas of life, when you are working towards a big goal, or maybe a project you are completing, there is that let down when the project is complete or you meet the goal. A kind of “what’s next…do I need to start a bigger project, or set a loftier goal?” I imagine it could be that way with weight loss…even when you reach the goal, you feel there is something more…you need to tone up, improve your cardio, etc.

  15. Perhaps depression or a milder form of “less than happy” has more to do with diet rather than weight loss? If the weight loss strategy consists of calorie restriction, it will never last. Going vegan, not-fat, or subsisting on rice cakes and weightloss shakes, etc. is hard on the body and mind. The primal blueprint simply establishes lifestyle guidance to eliminate unnatural and possibly destructive foods. Simply avoiding grains, alcohol, and sugar and commercially processed foods with industrial preservatives will make anyone feel better. Feeling better leads to more physical activity. Physical activity is necessary for general health. Perhaps taking personal responsibility for food choices and activity levels is the only way to be happy in the body our genes have given us.

  16. I, personally lost 60+lbs last year and I felt great about myself before and after. So far this year, I’ve lost another 15 and then put 15 back on in the gym!

    I do believe there is truth in finding joy in being content, but not complacent. It’s just as important to keep going and changing and working towards goals as it is to be happy while you do so. I find I can get so happy with where I’m at that I stop moving forward, then I fall back to where I was and find myself in a cycle that way, as well.

    So, I think a good rendition to this might be to say we should be happy and content but work hard to never be complacent also.

  17. I don’t weigh myself. I get very attached to the numbers on the scale, and let them cause me stress and dictate my feelings of worth and happiness. Messed up? Yes. But the good part is that I finally realized the truth of it, and thus don’t participate in weigh-ins or group weight-loss challenges. I just focus on moving healthfully, eating well, sleeping enough and trying to control my stress. I do take my measurements on occasion, and I notice how my clothes are fitting and make any dietary/movement adjustments as needed to avoid having to buy a whole new wardrobe. But even saying that, I don’t get upset if my clothes are getting looser…so I guess I still have some work to do in the weight vs happiness arena.

  18. It’s a little like what I’ve seen with some people with substance abuse disorders. They kick the habit, but don’t address the demons that led them to addiction, and still struggle to find any happiness in everyday life.

    1. Yes, that’s where the whole functional/integrative (medicine or other speciality) aspect has become so important.

      It seems to me that most of the aspects we are unhappy about are simply symptoms, not the underlying cause(s).

      I read the post with interest having a brother who lost 70 lbs in under a year and then a year or two later was back to his original weight, I couldn’t really get my head around it.

      However, this last year (which has been uber stressful for me and with my life turned upside down from every aspect) I’ve done the reverse, gaining at least 15 lbs over what is my normal – I no longer recognise myself … but then I don’t recognise any of my life any more either – and I’m sure it’s all linked.

      It is a complex area.

  19. The older I get, the more I realize that “happiness” is not transitive; that is, no one and nothing can *make* me happy. I have to figure out how to BE happy regardless of what else is going on.

    Happiness seems to be more of a cultivated practice like gratitude.

    If I don’t know how to be happy now, hitting my goal weight won’t help. I’ll just be unhappy at a healthier weight.

    So many people seem to feel that they don’t *deserve* to be happy until they lose weight / quit smoking / get a better job / whatever goal they are working towards. It is like we think that happiness and ambition are mutually exclusive, or polar opposites. Or that happiness “happens” only when everything is perfect and easy (in other words, never).

  20. Only beer promises happiness, albeit sprinkled with some remorse and regret, if consumed properly. 🙂

  21. I’ve known several people who lost a huge amount of weight. All of them were initially pretty happy about it but then the euphoria wore off and they were left with the same issues they had when they were heavier. The ones that used that moment of clarity (my problem wasn’t being fat after all, it was a symptom) and then worked on those issues, kept the weight off. The ones that didn’t resolve their issues eventually put it back on and then some.

    I see weight loss like a cortisone shot. A cortisone shot gives you enough relief from your pain so you can actually do your therapy, so you can fix the issue causing you the pain. Getting thin provides that same window for many. Use it to solve the real issues in your life, otherwise, the weight will probably come roaring back.

  22. My daughter has a sign in her room “Money can’t buy you happiness, that’s what shopping is for!” There has to be a similar funnyism for weight loss.

    If someone has had low self esteem due to weight issues for many many years, after losing that weight there could still be underlying issues. Losing weight as a by-product of changing your lifestyle (eating primal, exercising, stress reduction, doing things you enjoy) and being comfortable in your own skin and loving yourself is the key I would think.

    So easy to post of course. 🙂

  23. Maybe the same can be said for putting on weight (muscle).

    A more muscular/athletic look may not instantly ‘fix’ one’s life problems.

  24. The definition of happiness depends on who is defining it. It varies from person to person. For some people, losing a lot of weight really does result in happiness. They look better, they feel better, their self-esteem soars, their social life takes flight. There are far worse reasons for being happy since the ramifications of weight loss are far from superficial.

    But what, really, IS happiness? Perhaps for some it’s just the absence of misery, which of itself is a goal worth achieving. For me it’s mostly a feeling of deep peace and contentment punctuated by moments of intense, sometimes silly pleasure. I think we all need to figure out what being happy means to us, realistically, as individuals, before we can know what will provide happiness.

  25. i have learned this lesson recently. i hit primal harder and harder, going “cleaner” and “cleaner,” and lower and lower carb. i was thrilled about being the thinnest i’d ever been in my life, but went “off plan” when i could no longer be so controlled while on vacation. now, in retrospect, i see how i became anorexic, and also was cold, had lower energy, thinner hair, etc. i was also fearful of social circumstances where the food was no good, fearful of being tempted, and also thought about food a lot.

    this all happened so gradually over years of becoming more and more “primal” that i didn’t recognize it for the eating disorder it had become. now, i call my diet “primal inspired,” but i ate everything, and keep telling myself that i’m a wonderful human being no matter what i weight or how “fat” i am. i have gained weight, and had to buy new clothes, but i am healthier. i no longer think about “clean” or “good” food, because for me, that’s a trigger back into the world of fear and unhealthy restriction.

  26. The other thing to consider with regards to the first study showing that weight does not equal happiness, could be because the participants were trying to lose weight by “conventional wisdom”, i.e. low fat and low calorie, rather than a whole food approach. So they probably felt hungry and deprived, and were lacking in good fats which are essential for brain health.

  27. Lose fat until you look normal, then put on muscle instead of losing more weight. One might get more out of it this way. Aims, processes goals and all that. Failing that start the mind stuff. Some bloke wrote a book about it…

  28. Haven’t been here much lately. But Mark’s posts are so insightful and contemplative. Primal did change our lives for the better in almost every imaginable way. During the journey though I didn’t care about the weight loss. I did for health connection but not looks.

    It took my wife 7 months to join me. I never mentioned weight loss to her during that time. I just kept saying I’m free for the first time in my life, I have no hunger. I wanted her to experience that. As time has gone on though, I keep getting more and more in the present and just generally happier. I think it is because I’m continuing to heal, not change weight anymore though.

    Also happier because I helped my wife and daughter so much. Every day I get deep satisfaction from that which helps with happiness. I put some of this to words here:

    http://www.dietdoctor.com/lchf-is-the-greatest-gift-you-can-give-to-yourself-and-your-loved-ones

  29. I think it’s all about mental baselines. If you set a new standard for yourself, you won’t be happy unless you’re either at or above that standard and falling below it is dangerous.

  30. I loved reading all of these comments. This is a difficult time for me in both my personal life and in regards to my fitness level. I want to be more primal – I seldom eat grains or legumes. The problem is that many of the lower carb fruits and vegetables are difficult on my digestion. I end up eating a lot of bananas and root vegetables, but I actually feel pretty good, even though I’m overweight. I don’t weigh myself, but I can tell that I’m holding steady. I think that after being ill for so long, my goal is to be strong physically; the weight will take care of itself as I increase muscle and begin walking again. I’m thankful that we’re talking 20 pounds, maybe, and not more. I’m experimenting with replacing some of my fruits and vegetables with lower carb varieties, but in the end, it’s no good if my stomach hurts or if I experience IBS. There are transition times in our lives sometimes that we simply have to get through without expecting perfection. I plan on moving to a more desirous location next year, and there are many goals that must be achieved to pull this off. It’s more important to me to express myself creatively – write, pick up the guitar again, design clothing and other textiles – than to be perfect physically. I do need to remember, though, to think of these transitions as a journey and not a race. I need to stop and take care of myself. This was a great post, Mark. Thanks to all of you, also, for such open, honest comments. I always learn and grow from these posts.

  31. Though, in my work, I do help people lose weight, the process is never, ever just about weight loss. (Same way that eating and food are never, ever just about eating and food.)

    This is such an important point–makes the difference between a “diet plan” and a holistic, body-mind change process…one that addresses wider patterns, beliefs, and ways of being in the world and relating to self.

    When the starting point is from this more complete place, there’s space to explore the many, complex issues that can arise when someone loses the weight–issues that have to do with far more than numbers on a scale.

    Thanks for a valuable article, Mark.

  32. It’s been a tough walk for me as well. I’ve lost over 70 lbs since I went primal and have found my fitness and strengths getting better and better. However, I find myself falling into the trap of it never being good enough and I find myself frustrated with some loose skin issues. I just have to remind myself where I came from. I will never look like a fitness model, and dI need to be Okay with that.

  33. I do not think that weight loss by any means is going to make anyone happy. I think the biggest problem with happiness in losing weight is that it is innately a project that involves focusing on yourself. You develop a very self-centric view throughout any “diet”. And I think that is bad for happiness. If you spend too much time navel-gazing, you are bound to find deficiencies.
    I think focusing on the happiness or wellbeing of others – your family, your friends, your lover, your community – is more truly conducive to happiness.
    That said, getting healthy helps you to feel good, and to maintain a more stable state of mind. This will tend to make you happier and more resilient in daily life.
    At the end of the day, try to live a healthy, primal life, but keep your focus on goals in the world around you.

  34. I have thought a great deal about this lately. I have lost 170 pounds over the last two and half years. I can honestly say that I am quite proud of this accomplishment. One aspect that is missed in this discussion is the absolute misery involved in achieving significant weight loss. I don’t care what kind of diet and exercise program one follows, to loose a bunch weight one has to suffer. No way around that fact. That suffering is depressing in its self is depressing. The sacrifices needed to achieve that kind of weight loss is painful and sad.

    I think the buffer from depression is the why you want to loose weight. For me, my reasons were compelling enough to buffer me from the pain it took to loose weight. The reasons, made the sacrifices worth it. It wasn’t jus to look good.

  35. I thought I am the only one that is sad even though I’ve reached my goal weight. I still hate some of my body parts and I feel like there place for more. I try to stay positive and be thankful that I am healthy and have lots of people that love me. Nothings going to stop me from having all those good experiences. Life’s too short to lose amazing time hating my body.