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May 19, 2010

The Power of Touch

By Mark Sisson
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The largest organ on our body is the skin. Its protective layers guard our muscles, bones, internal organs, and ligaments, while its active function results in the most fundamental of our five senses – that of touch. For all our focus on maintaining optimal organ function through diet, exercise, and lifestyle, could it be that we’re neglecting the organ that figures most prominently in our daily, direct communion with the material world?

I know that it’s awfully easy for me to go several days without real, meaningful physical contact with another human when I’m on the road promoting the book or giving a talk. Oh, sure, there are handshakes and incidental shoulder brushes and maybe even the occasional fist bump, but it’s not the same. I miss my wife and kids. You can’t exactly hug total strangers (nor would you really want to) or even business associates. When I’m away from my family and close friends, I realize just how ubiquitous our self-made, imaginary personal bubbles have become. We all walk around with them. This world is getting more crowded every day, and yet we’re somehow able to maneuver through it without so much as touching a single person unless we’re crammed into a train or city street. And still, even in those situations, people are loathe to make contact with one another, even ocular, and we manage to avoid most of it.

Take the phrase “touchy feely,” for example. What imagery does it conjure? Positive? Its literal definition is “marked by or emphasizing physical closeness and emotional openness,” but the phrase originates as an epithet. Because language is an organic thing, a reflection of its users and their society, and because the phrase is exclusively uttered from a position of discomfort with the idea of touching or being touched, “touchy feely” arises from a society diametrically opposed to physical contact and touch. Men who can’t bring themselves to hug their fathers or male friends without feeling physically ill (or, worse, that they might “catch the gay”); young men and women unable to separate honest affection from sexual attention; kids who spend their formative years touching the cold hard plastic of an XBox controller or remote control without developing nary a scrape, bruise, or welt from physical contact with peers; entire families that text, chat, or email to communicate, even when living under the same roof – this is the legacy of our apparently social revulsion to touch and physical closeness.

It starts with infants, of course. Many babies, upon being born, are instantly whisked away for checkups, tests, and to “let the mother rest.” It seems odd that in that most crucial of windows, where the mother-child post-womb relationship is in its infancy, many kids don’t even get to see their mothers. Instead, they’re in some room with some stranger having weird things done to them.

The first sense infants develop in the womb is touch, and when they’re born, touch is the most pre-attuned sense, whereas stuff like sight and taste take months to fully develop. A just-born infant, I would argue, needs to be with its mother, needs to feel her warmth (and she the baby’s), needs to indulge the only viable sense available at the moment. I imagine that initial (and in the wild, unavoidable and inevitable) physical closeness between mammalian mother and mammalian child is the foundation for the rest of the child’s life. It sets the stage, so to speak. I’m reminded of that old cartoon trope, where a baby bird hatches and latches onto the first creature it sees as its mother, even if that creature is Sylvester the cat licking his chops. There’s probably some truth to that. A child’s born and, if nature has dictated, that child is in immediate intimate contact with mom. Maybe those first few moments are more crucial than we think. Maybe the lack of physical contact between newborn and new mother reverberates through life, setting the stage for an adult with a mild distaste for human touch. You populate half of society with folks who were never really touched as children, who never really learned the essential importance of touch, and maybe you get what we have now. I’m speculating here, of course.

But we do know that animals touch each other all the time. It’s the Primal way. Young monkeys and apes cling to mothers’ backs. Social grooming is a staple of many animals’ lives. It’s utilitarian, because not all animals can completely clean themselves (we’ve all got hard to reach places) alone, but it also reinforces social structure and interpersonal relationships. Older apes groom each other, and this grooming affects endorphin levels. Wolf packs sleep together. Kangaroo kids hang out in that famous pouch. Or how about pets? Dogs will nuzzle and lick their masters and cats will head butt you and curl up in your lap and meow until you relent and offer your hand. It’s almost like touch is a requirement of animals; they crave and need it.

Do we?

Well, we’re animals, too. I’m a firm believer in listening to our bodies and to our instincts. They exist for a reason, our instincts, and though we shouldn’t surrender completely to their rule, we can use them as subtle indications of what might work best. These instincts might be muted in us big brains, but we’re animals. If they – especially the mammals, like us – yearn for touch, maybe there’s something to it. Maybe we need it, too.

Besides, despite all the New Age talk of energy fields and the power of touch, we know that people who have loved ones to touch on a regular basis live longer, happier lives. People who have sex on a regular basis also live happier, longer lives. It’s not mystical or magical; it’s practical. You touch people and have sex when you’re comfortable and happy with the person you’re touching. Happy people are, ahem, happier. Happy people live longer, and even if they didn’t, they’re happy, and that’s arguably the whole point of sentient existence. You’ve heard of companion animals, right? They improve the health and longevity of their owners (PDF), especially the widows, supposedly because of the added companionship and touching/petting that goes on. There have been studies where lab rabbits respond positively to touch as well. A colleague recently shared this anecdote with me: lab rabbits with terminal cancer living on the bottom row of the cages live longer than rabbits with cancer who live in higher cages. The only difference between the top and bottom row rabbits being that lab assistants handled the rabbits in the bottom cages more during feeding. When you’re dying of terminal cancer in a metal cage, I’ll bet you begin to really look forward to those few seconds of chin scratches each day.

I will say that things seem to be changing. When you watch old episodes of “The Tonight Show,” it’s all handshakes between Johnny Carson and his guests. It’s very formal, whereas now the male guests typically hug the host. And in sports, ironically the most stereotypically hypermasculine arena, there’s a ton of physical contact between teammates. Butt slapping, high fives, chest bumps, team huddles – it’s all a huge display of men and women incredibly comfortable with the idea of physical touch. There was even a recent study (PDF) mentioned in ESPN Magazine that noted the prevalence of high fives and chest bumps and other physical contact in pro basketball. The Cleveland Cavaliers, holders of the best record in the NBA this season (though now trounced from the playoffs), touch each other more than any other team in the league, while the teams with losing records tend to touch less. Do they touch less because they’re losing, or do they lose because they touch less and lack cohesion? Who knows, but the scientists in the article theorized that the high rate of touch definitely has something to do with it.

Still, though, we’ve got a lot of work to do. We need to integrate touch into our lives, not in some formal, creepy way, like organizing community grooming or hugging sessions, but in a healthy, normal, organic manner. When your kid comes home bleeding and bleating from some mishap, try offering a hug instead of immediately going for the bandages and antiseptic. Hug your friend next time you see him or her. Massage your significant other, just for the heck of it. Ladies, randomly slip your hand under his shirt and scratch his back (trust me, we love it). Pet your dog/cat/rat/rabbit. When you meet someone, maybe try going for the double hand clasp, or even the medieval forearm clasp. Tousle some scruffy street urchin’s mop-head next time he’s hawking newspapers on the corner.

A dog trainer friend of mine taught me a cool trick once: when your dog is anxious, upset, or otherwise freaking out at something, pull on its neck scruff. This immediately soothes the animal, because it’s exactly what mother dogs do to pups – they carry them around by the scruff of their necks, and adult dogs still make that subconscious connection. I’m thinking the same holds true for humans. Why wouldn’t it? How do you console a grieving friend who’s just lost their father? You hug them. It’s your first reaction and theirs, too. They go for the hug to feel better and you open your arms. How do you soothe a crying child? With hugs and caressing. What changes between childhood and adulthood that renders this treatment ineffective? Why do we console a crying adult with nervous, awkward silence and averted eyes (or powerful medicine)? Those same physiological reactions that soothe the child might just play out in the adult, too. It’s not as if our hormones stop working or we stop enjoying the soothing touch of a loved one just because we have the ability to reproduce and legally drink alcohol.

It’s in these powerful, incredibly painful moments of trauma that we reconnect with our animal instincts and the walls of social grace or personal hang-ups come crashing down – and we relent to interpersonal touch. We submit, because its draw is inexorable and the relief it offers is instantaneous. There’s that famous saying, “No atheists in foxholes.” What about “No emotional stoics when personal tragedy strikes”? It doesn’t quite have the same easy grace about it, but I think it works.

We should work on touch, folks. We shouldn’t need tragedy to touch each other. We should give in to our Primal urge to touch as a way to connect with others in a meaningful way and to express joy, not just counteract misery.

Let me know what you think in the comment board and thanks for reading.

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Katie
Katie
6 years 4 months ago

This is by far the best article written here.

Michael Dyer
6 years 4 months ago

I think that most things that feel good (within reason!) have a tendency to be good or necessary on some level. We all like to be touched, so it doesn’t surprise me that it has health benefits!

Petting a rat might not be within that “within reason” though…

Debra
Debra
6 years 4 months ago

I’m not a hugger. I wasn’t raised that way. While it’s hard for me to do, I’m trying!

Andy
Andy
6 years 4 months ago

Nice article Mark, very interesting about the teams that hugged, the teams that didn’t and their winning/losing ratios.

James
James
6 years 4 months ago

Great article, thank you.

“Tousle some scruffy street urchin’s mop-head next time he’s hawking newspapers on the corner.”

Man, that tickles me just right.

Mike
Mike
6 years 4 months ago

Getcha pape’ here! Baby born with two heads! ~must be from Brooklyn.

Eva
Eva
6 years 4 months ago

Maybe that’s a big reason why many humans like pets so much. We can fulfill primal needs for touching and nurturing without the hassle of dealing with human social graces. For instance, it’s amazing how many ‘macho’ men will lapse into extreme levels of cutsy baby talk when they think they are alone with their pets! ;-P

Kris
Kris
6 years 4 months ago

*looks around guiltily*

Primal Toad
6 years 4 months ago

I agree with you here. We simply do not touch enough. When you are engaging in a hug with someone are you angry or stressed for that moment? Typically no. You feel a sense of relief and are able to put a smile on your face knowing that someone is there for you.

All animals touch frequently and we are an animal. So, may we “touch” more through simple stuff like a hug or hand shake!

Hannah
6 years 4 months ago
I’m so glad you brought up the newborn/mother touch connection! I’ve been reading about it lately, and learned that infants are very awake for about 40 minutes after they are born, and then sleep for hours and hours after that. When infants are whisked away from their mothers for tests and procedures and whatever else gets done to them, it takes away one of the most important bonding times a mother has for the infant’s first entire day of life. I also have 4 dogs, and find it hilarious that if I’m not petting them, but my hand is otherwise… Read more »
Brad
Brad
6 years 4 months ago

We also brutally cut off parts of a infants genitals. Surely this has a lasting effect on our ability to bond.

Katherine
Katherine
6 years 4 months ago

I totally agree, Brad. Our treatment of infants – from routine birth practices, to circumcision, to ‘crying it out’ is absolutely appalling.

Katerina
Katerina
6 years 4 months ago

I live in Australia, but my family and I are in Greece on holiday (we have Greek heritage) What always amazes and moves me about Greece (or anywhere in the non-Anglo world) is the constant touching: between strangers, in service relationships, dissolving status/power relations, men embracing, women linking arms as they walk, low-key affection everywhere. My 4 yr old daughter is thriving on the hugs, kisses, hair-tousling and lap-holding. In the Anglo-Saxon world it is definitely something we need to re-learn.

Sergey
Sergey
6 years 4 months ago

Great article! I am from Latvia, and when I came to US I was surprised that handshaking is not popular here. People greet each other by “What’s up”, and “How are you”, and handshaking is reserved for more formal occasions. In Latvia, and as well in Russia men always shake hands when greet each other. You handshake with your coworkers, your friends every day when you meet them that day first time.

southernsatine
southernsatine
6 years 4 months ago

When you’re dying of terminal cancer in a metal cage, I’ll bet you begin to really look forward to those few seconds of chin scratches each day.

This is quite possibly the saddest sentence I’ve ever read. It makes me want to go cuddle a bunny. 🙁

Jenn
Jenn
6 years 4 months ago

There’s some really interesting research on the physiologically interactions between newborns and their mothers. Premature infants who spend more time in human contact and less in their cots (“kangaroo care”) do much, much better in terms of health and survival.

Mothers in skin to skin contact with their newborns will adjust their body temperature to help the infants thermoregulate. Baby’s temp too low? Mom’s will shoot above baseline until the baby is warm enough, then drop back down. Pretty amazing stuff!

Jenn
Jenn
6 years 4 months ago

*physiological, not physiologically.

Zhuwawa
Zhuwawa
6 years 4 months ago
I’ve got to say, I disagree: physical contact, especially with ‘gurrllls’ is desperately uncool. The first moments of physical contact in a romantic relationship are incredible, ‘electric’ but, as with static electricity, the more physical contact you have, the more that electricity disappears. So, if you are fortunate enough to fall in love again, I’d recommend never touching him/her, see if you can keep that electric feeling and not feel the need to replace true feelings (love!) with physical dependance and habit. As for casual hugging, in my experience, it’s always been the least cool people who hug casually; y’know,… Read more »
Mike
Mike
6 years 4 months ago

Joking right? Tribal men and women do not have the modern hang ups about personal space that we do.

Btw, the ‘electric feeling’ from touch is not true love, that is infatuation with a new thing. It has diminished returns because it’s not new any longer. When that infatuation fades and is replaced with dedication, appreciation, and loyalty… not becuase of meer personal gain, but for the person themselves. That is true love.

Infatuation says, “I love you becuase you’re so good to me.”

Love says, “I love you because you are you.” or better yet, simply, “I love you.”

Zhuwawa
Zhuwawa
6 years 4 months ago
Yeah, I hear this argument a lot. But I would argue that your ‘infatuation'(my love) says, ‘I love you because I’m feeling exciting new, intense emotions’. Your ‘love’ says ‘I love you because you are a fantastic friend to me (I understand the value of dedication appreciation and loyalty too, I just don’t attribute it to love) and (in most situations) because we have sex.’ I think your idea of love is synoynmous with friendship (sexual attraction is usually the difference), but, of course, this is just my subjective rambling, and its naive to talk about love objectively. As for… Read more »
Mike
Mike
6 years 4 months ago

Friendship is the basis of love, a foundation. You build upon it, to deeper more intimate levels, the highest of which is the culmination of dedication, appreciation, and loyalty: love.

There is no way to preserve infatuation, it is fleeting, with touch or without, the sparkle dims.

However I loved my wife in the glint of newness it is only after that dies and I love her not for the ‘high’ but for herself that I can take any confidence in the trueness of that love. Hers for me or mine for her.

conrack
conrack
6 years 4 months ago
The operative words in the first sentence of your post: disagree, desperate, uncool. The operative words in the first sentence of your second post: argument, argue. The “electric” buzz you feel from contact is your nervous system registering a violation of your personal space and comfort zone, and the clash of your negative energy with the other person’s positive energy, closing the circuit and creating a pulse of energy “flow”. Buddy, you are SOOOOO repressed! I suggest professional psychotherapy. Try being more aware of your negativism, try dropping the negative from your life, and try being a blessing to the… Read more »
Mark Rodgers
Mark Rodgers
6 years 4 months ago

Haha, I agree. I’m not kinesthetic at all even though I was loved and cuddled as a child plenty, (smacked an aweful lot as well!) But dude, you have to feel like you want to hug someone out of pure love/friendship/respect/affection not just casually do it because you think its cool. Connect like I’m learning to do, even if it goes against your grain, but only if you feel it, not because you think you have to!!

Angelo
6 years 4 months ago

As someone who does massage and bodywork for hours each day, I can certainly testify to the profound affects that touch can have. It’s a form of communication that doesn’t need words, and can say much more than words could ever portray.

I would say, for myself, having spent a lot of time refining the way I massage (or touch) has definitely helped me gain stronger, more stable relationships with others, my environment, and with myself. A blessing in disguise.

Cajsa
Cajsa
6 years 4 months ago

Almost made me cry….. been single for a while, and touch is probably what I miss the most. It’s crucial.

Aaron Curl
6 years 4 months ago

Agreed…..now I’m depressed. I have been single for about a year and agree that touch is something you miss when it’s not there.

Deanna (Diana Renata)
Deanna (Diana Renata)
6 years 4 months ago

Ditto that. It’s hard being single. My freinds/family aren’t much of the touchging type.

Now I want to go pet a bunny. I’ve been honestly thinking of getting a cat largely because of this issue.

Kat
Kat
6 years 1 month ago

I agree. I’ve been single for a bit, and I’m always cuddling up to and petting my two dogs, because I miss the emotional connection that comes with physical contact with another person…

Primal K@
6 years 4 months ago

What a beautiful post. I’m not a very huggy person and living in a large city, I understand wanting to avoid the touch of strangers. But, I definitely agree that more friendly touch would be a healthy advantage for everyone. We just need to get over this stigma.

Bert Reed
Bert Reed
6 years 4 months ago

Nice. You hit the nail on the head, once again.

Rdwdawg
Rdwdawg
6 years 4 months ago

I am the father of three. A nurse suggested I hold my baby on my belly to raise their temperature rather than the little “oven bed”. I really enjoyed this and my little ones..”slept like a baby” all toasty warm.

Resurgent
Resurgent
6 years 4 months ago
Mark, Great post..! As children we were told by our parents to involve most of our senses while eating. We were trained to always take our time to see our food, smell our food, taste our food and very importantly touch our food. This not only made eating a better experience but also inculcated a habit of good hygiene – we never forgot to wash our hands prior to a meal. Several hundred million people in Asia, eat with their fingers, to this date. Very often I throw ‘etiquette’ to the wind when encountered with a barbecued femur with good… Read more »
Ryan Denner
6 years 4 months ago

DAMN MARK!

(and thats a good “damn”).

ci
ci
6 years 4 months ago
I work for a large company with mandatory learning & development courses. I signed up for a life-work balance course which turned out to be really hokey & not what I expected. I thought we’d learn about flex place & time policies but instead they told us to do yoga & make a spot at home to post personal affirmations. We ended the class by having to hug who was for most of us a stranger – whoever was sitting next to us. I walked away thinking the class had been a giant waste of time. That night I was… Read more »
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April
April
6 years 4 months ago
This is by far the best post I’ve read on here, Mark. GREATNESS. I’ve been through one marriage, another serious long term un-married relationship and in each one, I was unsatisfied emotionally even though the friendship, money, and “things” were all there and satisfactory. I’m now married for the second time, and although I certainly and obviously didn’t marry the guy for money or stuff, after three years of marriage, we still touch, we still have that spark (the electricity that Zhuwawa says disappears). We still get butterflies in our stomachs just THINKING about when we touch each other. No,… Read more »
Katherine
Katherine
6 years 4 months ago

I agree. Mark, this is, I believe, the best piece you’ve ever written. It’s beautiful.

Maggie
6 years 4 months ago
Absolutely lovely, Mark. Thank you so much for the reminder. I work away from home for weeks at a time, and I really miss the casual touch – a hug, kiss, pat on the back, or just resting hands on knees. This helps me to appreciate those “little” things all the more! And I try my best to get a massage or two when I’m away, just to get some of that important basic loving touch. One thing I’ll say, as an energy healer, is that terming it as energy doesn’t have to be woo-woo; energy is as practical as… Read more »
Giber
6 years 4 months ago

What a great article! this is the first time i read something on this blog and this was an incredible and well written article.

Donna
Donna
6 years 4 months ago

I absolutely love dogs, i pet mine daily!! I’ve heard that patients in hospitals that pet dogs for a while feel better while they are petting and holding the dog. Brings their blood pressure down and they feel more calm. Doesn’t this say alot in itself??? YES, It does!!! Dogs are good for emotions, your mind, and your soul, and your health…. I’d say it’s good for the dog too to be petted!!

Aaron Fraser
6 years 4 months ago

As a massage therapist and practitioner of reiki, I have empirically soon this in action, as well as having studied many of the ‘theories’ behind touch…

Touch is connection, on the most primal level.

Few things are this important to realize/

Jenna
6 years 4 months ago

My husband was deployed to Qatar for six months- four months after we got married. I am not a “touchy-feely” person unless you’re one of my bestest friends. We didn’t have kids, no pets, and I have never felt so alone.

The lack of contact- not just sex, but just regular, affectionate contact and interaction with someone, was by far the hardest part of it to deal with.

In retrospect, I probably should have found a decent massage therapist to offset things somewhat! At the time, I just kept accusing myself of “overthinking it.”

Kelly
Kelly
6 years 4 months ago

I never made the connection before about animals needing to be touched, but it makes sense! That’s why I am a part of your primal movement, it just makes more sense than what we have been doing!

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, but expecting the same result!”

Allen
6 years 4 months ago

As a clinical massage therapist, I relate, align and couldn’t agree more with this article. Well done, Mark!

Beth Rasmussen
6 years 4 months ago

This was great! Thank you so much for posting this! So true…

Ashley
6 years 4 months ago

As a teacher, dog owner, health pursuer and relational person, I AGREE COMPLETELY and have a class of 1st graders, pleasant husband and a happy puppy to prove it. Great post!!

Uncephalized
Uncephalized
6 years 4 months ago
I completely agree with and endorse this post! I am a “touchy-feely” guy, and proud of it. I love hugs, and will hug my friends, male or female, whenever I see them (unless they don’t like hugs, then I leave them alone). I also am in physical contact with my girlfriend (together 5 years now) a lot of the time when we’re together, just sitting on the couch with legs entangled, hugging, cuddling, etc., and I love to pick up my cats and just hold them against my chest whenever I come home–they like it too. My dog (a 50-lb… Read more »
Sally
Sally
6 years 4 months ago

Great post Mark! The baby bit reminds me of how imperative sleeping with my babies seemed when they were tiny. I knew on some Grok level that they needed those hours of contact to feel safe and whole in the world. Even now they crawl into bed with us at night when they need it and I feel like it feeds all of our souls. I’m so enjoying your blog, your book and your work. Thanks for making a profound difference in the world.

Casey
Casey
6 years 4 months ago
Great post – I witnessed the power of touch first-hand when my daughter was born 11 weeks premature – one of the most recommended therapies at the highest-care level hospitals is “kangaroo care.” This involves mother/father of the preemie holding their child skin-to-skin against their chest. I can’t speak for all cases, but in ours, it meant that our daughter got to come home a full month earlier than expected, and though I can’t prove it empirically, I am certain it helped her avoid a gamut of typical preemie-specific illnesses that most other babies in her NICU nursery fell victim… Read more »
Grol
Grol
6 years 4 months ago

I’m not much of a hugger, but Mark, if all the information I’m soaking in and applying here turns out to be true; and should our paths ever cross while your on the road and missing the family; I promise you a great big primal hug.

Now if all this information doesn’t bring fitness and health; I will hunt you down and punch you in the nose for making me give up my beloved pizza and beer. Does that still count as touching? 🙂

epistemocrat
6 years 4 months ago
When I work with students, I always end each session with a strong handshake and a “good work today.” Whether at GPA or working with an individual one-on-one, I’ve found that organic expression through touch carries tremendous weight: I feel that I am able to make a more meaningful, lasting impression as a mentor that way. In the book, Primal Leadership, there is an entire section on how touch synchs our physiologies–invoking the energy concept–and I’ve learned through my leadership studies repeatedly that the threads in this essay are critically to working on any team effectively by building cohesion, trust,… Read more »
IBRobynb
IBRobynb
6 years 4 months ago

This post really made me think. My husband had brain surgery a couple months ago and since that time I have rarely touched him other than to help him clean up. He just doesn’t like touching right now. I tried to kiss him, but he turned away. I really miss just sitting on the couch snuggled up with him and watching the telly. Now it’s like we’re just roommates sharing the same space. . . very sad indeed.

Jenni Whitley
Jenni Whitley
6 years 4 months ago
I was chatting with a massage therapist in a town that is known for an older “retired” population. I asked her if she had a been able to develop a strong clientele with these demographics and she said “Absolutely.” Apparently, most of her clients were older adults, many of them widows or widowers. She said she knew that in many cases, getting a massage from her was the only time they were touched all week. I really took a lesson from that, and I always try to touch an older person when I speak with them. I’ll just put a… Read more »
Jim
Jim
6 years 4 months ago
This was very interesting to me. I am married to a Chinese national where a public show of affection is strongly discouraged toward the opposite sex. No hugging, kissing, etc.. What you see are many young men with arms around shoulders; ladies arm-in-arm and teen-agers the same. This union gave me a Chinese step-daughter. Very awkward for her as here this may indicate “gay”. My wife, too, refrains from touching her friends here although the same ethnicity. My wife has never hugged her father. As a result, I seldom hug my daughter. In my previous marriage and all my previous… Read more »
Lesson of Life
6 years 4 months ago

This is a great life lesson as we are all connected. Our thoughts have an enormous impact on other people, so why should it be different with physical touch.

You do exchange energy with people you touch. People giving massage knows this and are usually taking a cold shower after finishing their treatment to free themselves from unwanted energies that they might have taken on.

Chad
Chad
6 years 4 months ago

It’s GROK — but more in the Heinlein sense! Good article.

Brian
Brian
6 years 4 months ago

Mark,
This high fat diet is making my skin really oily.. I have oily skin already, but now I’m noticing more need to wash my face.. I read that fat, even good fat, does contribute to moisturizing skin from within (great for dry skin), but for oily skin, (& I live in Florida with massive humidity) the fats aren’t really working to my skins favor.. Avocado, nuts, olive oil are making me extremely oily.. I want my fats, but don’t want to be a greasy (ha..).. Please comment.. Also, a post on clear skin would be great..

Sergey
Sergey
6 years 4 months ago

Interesting. I recently started following primal diet, and also noticed that my face is very oily. I have mild psoriasis, and my skin is very dry, so perhaps it is good for me.

Twyla
Twyla
6 years 4 months ago
This was beautiful, Mark. You’re such a blessing to this world. Thank you for this article. I’m going to second Casey’s request for an article about ‘the benefits of natural childbirth for mother and baby’. I’m having my third baby, and he/she will be my second home birth. My first was a hospital birth and he was taken to the nursery for checks every few hours. My second was a home birth and the attention to bonding between my daughter and me was beyond words. I’m sure that baby checks in hospitals can be done while the mother holds her… Read more »
Bobbi
Bobbi
6 years 4 months ago

Yay! I love this post Mark! Thank you.

I am Greek. I am a woman and I hug everyone. (It would be rude not to) I even kiss all my close girl friends. I am so happy that I can say it is part of my new primal life.

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Darrin
6 years 4 months ago
This reminds me of Harry Harlow’s rhesus monkey experiments, where he took baby rhesus monkeys away from their mothers and gave them the option of two “surrogate mothers.” One was made of wire and was able to nurse the monkeys via a baby bottle, the other was made of cloth and provided no food. Without fail, the young monkeys went to the wire mother only for food and spent the rest of their time clinging to the cloth mother. It was documented on video as well, so if you search for “harry harlow monkey experiment” on YouTube, you’ll find some… Read more »
Phil
6 years 4 months ago
My wife’s family are lacking in emotion and displays of affection. So she struggled for years to do the same. We have 2 children 5 and 8 and she really struggled at first (she still finds it hard) to display emotions, affection and this also follows on in the intimate side of our relationship. While being intimate with her is only a small part of our relationship I find it really hard because for me it feels like a rejection. I’m from the opposite end with a large family lots of physical contact with my brothers and parents., fighting, arguing,… Read more »
andy
andy
6 years 4 months ago

Affection is the second most important thing in our relationships, communication i would say is first. But affection is still a type of communicating.

You should all check out Leo Buscaglia, dr. Hug.

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