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February 17, 2011

8 Health Reasons to Have Sex (As If You Needed Them)

By Mark Sisson
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As promised in last week’s Hunter-Gatherer Fitness post, I’m stirring up the (apparently much awaited) subject of sex – specifically the benefits for physical and mental well-being. Uh, you mean coitus? Yup. Thanks to everyone who responded to the announcement with rousing enthusiasm as well as comments and questions.

What could be more Primal than sex, many of you have suggested. Absolutely right. It was probably one of Grok’s most valued pleasures. (Are people today much different?) For our part, however, we have new freedoms in a manner of speaking. Although we might honor the evolutionary imperative behind our primal appetites with eventual procreation, we’re not beholden to the natural odds with every tryst. As I’ve said many a time, I love studying and learning from the example of Grok and his kin. Nonetheless, I’m a happily modern man in this instance as much as any.

I’m not just talking hedonistic indulgence here (not that there’s anything wrong with that). There are genuine health benefits to be garnered after all. Today I’m after those copious “ancillary” benefits of bonk – the gratifying (albeit overshadowed) enhancements to our physical and mental health that come from the physical exertion itself as well as the biochemical cascade of everything from estrogen to testosterone, prolactin to oxytocin to beta-endorphins.

Before we proceed, let me offer the expected and requisite Primal caveat: I’m talking here about safe sex ideally with a committed partner. What good does it do to blow the overall health benefit by putting yourself at risk for the myriad of sexually transmitted diseases. Likewise, why negate the mental health boost by pursing sex in a relationship/liaison that isn’t emotionally healthy? ‘Nuff said?

Now for those long awaited advantages…. Let’s cut to the chase here, get to it, and jump right in. After all, there’s much to discuss and disseminate today. Lot of ins, lot of outs. (All right, I’ve had my fun….)

1. Improve Your Stress Response – And Your Blood Pressure

Sex certainly has the power to take the edge off. (Stress just kind of slides off….) The process of arousal and orgasm, of course, let loose a mesmeric elixir of natural pain killers and relaxers. What’s not to love? Though sex generally offers the most intense dose of aforementioned chemical cocktail, caresses of all kinds can impart generous benefits. (All the more reason to take your time and relish the full experience, I’d say.) Research has shown that a partner’s touch – whether curling up under the sheets or simply passing in the hall – initiates the release of oxytocin, which in turn can lower blood pressure and heart rate. The effect goes for so-called cardiovascular reactivity, the response of the cardiovascular system to stress. Participants who received comforting touch from their spouses before stressful events displayed lower blood pressure and lower heart rates. If that’s what a simple hug can do, imagine the inspiration you can give your partner the morning of a big presentation?

2. (While You’re At It…) Cut Your Risk for Cardiac-related Death

On a more dramatic note, the unique closeness of sex can have more consequential impact in the cardiovascular realm. In a 20-year long cohort study, researchers followed more than 900 men and found that having sex twice or more a week decreased a subject’s risk for a fatal heart attack – by more than 50%. That’s nothing to shake a stick at.

3. Upgrade Your Immune Function

An often cited study from Wilkes University suggests regular sex might offer a surge of immune potency. Among the 112 surveyed students, those who had sex 1-2 times a week showed a rousing 30 percent boost in salivary immunoglobulin. Those who had sex less frequently than once a week had a slight IgA edge over total abstainers. (In an interesting wrinkle, the “three or more times a week” crowd showed slightly lower IgA levels. To their possible chagrin, the researchers didn’t ask participants about the number of partners or other potential “relationship” factors that might have influenced the findings. Hmmm…lack of sleep?) Although it’s a study to take with a grain of salt, the basic premise is probably sound. As welcome as it is, the usual exchange of fluids (or the body’s anticipated exchange) represents contact with a foreign substance that likely contains some kind of microbial profile.

4. Get Some Pain Relief

Anyone who’s gotten jiggy with it when they’re sick knows sex can offer a temporary respite from their symptoms – especially when it comes to pain. (Kind of turns the proverbial headache excuse on its ear.) Both arousal and orgasm trigger the production of oxytocin, which then initiates a sensational rush of endorphins and corticosteroids – both fairly potent pain killers. Post coital bliss indeed.

In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, subjects who were given a dose of oxytocin saw their pain thresholds balloon by more than 50% during the course of the experiment. Seriously, who needs Advil for an analgesic?

5. Steady Your Cycle – and Possibly Increase Your Fertility

Physicians prescribe the birth control pill left and right to women who have irregular menstrual cycles. Regular sex might present a more enjoyable alternative for that particular purpose. Women who have sex with male partners once a week or more, research has shown, are more likely to experience consistent menstrual cycles and (as a result) have fewer fertility problems than women who had sex less often or abstained entirely. One possible reason? Male pheromones. Researchers from the Monell Chemical Senses Center and the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine honed in on the pheromone link by applying men’s underarm secretions obtained to the upper lips of women subjects. (The image itself is kind of mood killer.) Whether absorbed or inhaled, the magic mix of aromatics in the male samples caused the women’s cycles to normalize toward a consistent 29 ½ day cycle.

Frequent sex with the same partner over several months or more can also “prime” a woman’s body for a healthy, full term pregnancy. Research at the University of Adelaide in South Australia showed that women who engaged in frequent sexual activity with their committed partners (including oral sex, which actually appeared more effective in the study) had higher rates of conception and fewer incidences of miscarriage, preeclampsia, and high blood pressure. Women’s bodies, the researchers suggest, literally learn and come to accept the particular proteins of their partners’ semen in a process called immune modulation. Having become accustomed to the familiar semen profile (oh, you again), the woman’s body is less likely to reject the fetus and placenta that result from conception with that partner.

6. Reduce Your Risk for Prostate Cancer

Research has linked frequent ejaculations (yes, the solo gig counts here) with a slightly lower risk for prostate cancer in later life. The golden frequency in this study? Twenty-one times per month. It’s a tall order, but I know you can do it.

One possible explanation for the decrease is the “flushing” theory. In its efforts to concentrate minerals and other necessary substances from the blood to make semen, the prostate can end up collecting a concentration of toxins as well. Releasing the semen – with said toxins – flushes the system of said impurities. (Gives a new meaning to cleaning out the pipes.)

7. Look Better

Now we’re getting to the good stuff. (Kidding.) Yes, there’s the ever flattering afterglow. It’s a shame they can’t bottle that. There’s so much more to gain, however, or maybe lose. How about calories for instance? Estimates vary but average around 85-100 calories per half an hour. Of course, real life expenditures diverge depending on how zesty an enterprise you enjoy. In terms of calories burned, you’re looking at low to moderate level activity, but your heart rate can easily climb to high intensity levels. It’s probably the most enjoyable cardio you’ll pursue any day of the week.

Then there’s the workout itself – a toning and stretching and strengthening that includes muscles you didn’t even know you had – ala that next morning ache. (Don’t forget about those less obvious – and all important – pelvic floor muscles, which support everything from orgasm intensity to urinary continence.) On the chemical front, intercourse offers a boost in testosterone for stronger bones and muscles. Finally, how about the appeal of a totally relaxed face and body – and the inevitable smile?

8. Finally… Feed Your Primal Self

I’m talking about more than your primal with a lowercase “p” appetite here. I mean your more inclusive, nuanced Primal (as in PB) self. As I’ve said many a time, living Primally isn’t an exercise in asceticism or deprivation. It’s about knowing and inhabiting your physical self more appreciatively, more pleasurably as well as responsibly. Sex isn’t just a procreative act. (Even in Grok’s day it served many more purposes than that.) Though technically unnecessary, it’s far from some isolated, tangentially relevant act. The desire and delight of sex is unique. It’s not an interchangeable element of our human experience. The shared intimacy and individual rapture teaches us, reveals to us, unfolds layers of our humanity, and lays bare a sensitivity and vulnerability, a vigor and power otherwise unknown to us. Even in its absence, sex helps define who we are and how we connect with life.

Not surprisingly, our sexual enjoyment extends far beyond the immediate physical crescendo. It has significance in our broader fulfillment. A cross-national study (PDF) revealed that both men’s and women’s sense of sexual well-being significantly correlated with their general life satisfaction.

When it comes to garnering all the good health benefits of sex, a lot of readers ask about frequency. As I mentioned in last week’s fitness post, your start racking up the health gains at once a week, but the composite of research suggests that two to three times will maximize overall advantages. Needless to say, it’s well worth working into the calendar.

Okay, the floor is officially open to discussion. I’ll be interested to see what comes of today’s post and its suggestions… Thanks for reading, and I hope you were inspired today. Have a great day (or night, as the case may be), everybody.

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barefoot paul
barefoot paul
5 years 7 months ago

I certainly miss this. My (recent) ex was amazing in bed. From beginning to end, with cuddling after, I felt fulfilled on a fundamentally primal/human level. Sex is an amazing thing.

Joe
Joe
5 years 7 months ago

“Uh, you mean coitus?”
Was that a Big Lebowski reference?? Love it!!!

The Grok abides.

fritzy
fritzy
5 years 7 months ago

🙂

Elaine
5 years 7 months ago

That does it — I really HAVE to watch this movie!!!

chris
chris
5 years 7 hours ago

well that’s like just you’re opinion man

Jessie
Jessie
4 years 3 months ago

Obviously, you’re not a golfer.

Onkel Kostja
Onkel Kostja
5 years 7 months ago

Sex? I’ve heard of that …

Craig
Craig
5 years 7 months ago

NOW SHE HAS NO EXCUSE!!! lol (Kidding)

Awesome post – wonder how many are rushing to show their other halves as soon as they’ve read it.

Danielle
5 years 7 months ago

FIrst thing that crossed my mind was, should I email him the link or send an instant message?

Jen Duncan
5 years 7 months ago

LOL! I emailed the link 😀

Troy
Troy
5 years 7 months ago

Oh, I emailed the link right away. But we are both Primal and we definitely enjoy our sex life. Just confirms why we are so happy, hehe.

Tamara
Tamara
5 years 7 months ago

I emailed the link. :-p

Steve
5 years 7 months ago

Yep… I emailed it too… LOL!

Jenn
Jenn
5 years 7 months ago

First thing I did was to send the link to my better-half!!!
Good to know we are practicing preventative medicine!!lol

Annie
Annie
5 years 5 months ago

It takes two.

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Shawn
Shawn
5 years 7 months ago

I definitely have a better outlook on life in general when I’m getting some regularly. It is definitely good for maintaining a healthy mental state.

C
C
5 years 7 months ago

Hey, sex with a non-committed partner can totally be “emotionally healthy.” (Anyway, how much more primal can it get than that?) I definitely get a “mental health boost” from non-boyfriend sex.

…I’m sure men have their own opinions on this too.

Babs
Babs
5 years 7 months ago

Agreed:)

mm
mm
5 years 7 months ago

Agreed +1 ; sex and romantic love are two different things that don’t always have to coexist

Annie
Annie
5 years 5 months ago

Now that’s classy.

Shannon
Shannon
4 years 4 months ago

Well, send me your number and I’ll agree 🙂

D. M. Mitchell
3 years 7 months ago

Philos and Eros. The former being the love of a person or thing because of itself, because it exists. The latter is just good old fashioned carnal pleasure. Nothing wrong with that, but if the two come together, great.

Vance Gatlin II
5 years 7 months ago

Wow, with that you get the benefits of walking, sprinting and play 🙂 Perfect

rob
rob
5 years 7 months ago

Going to print this out and take it with me to the topless bar.

Drama
Drama
5 years 7 months ago

+1

Annie
Annie
5 years 5 months ago

Scummbag remark.

Nicky Spur
5 years 7 months ago

I view it as a more of a high intensity interval session than a low to moderate activity.

Just a personal preference of course…

Jen Duncan
5 years 7 months ago

ha! The benefits of bonk.
Love it 😉

Rebecca
Rebecca
4 years 9 months ago

Yeah, I was wondering if that was anyone else’s favorite part, too!

Michael Wilson
Michael Wilson
5 years 7 months ago

Excellent – further proof why the Primal Blueprint is the way forward (as if we needed any).

sma
sma
5 years 7 months ago

oh I wish wish wish I could — but my BF is away at basic training for another month!

I’ll go do some squats I guess 😉

Jasmine
Jasmine
5 years 7 months ago

I feel your pain, my hubby is off to do his 5s (last level of EME trades training in the Canadian Forces). The lack is going to kill me… unless the army pays to send me with him ^_^ “preventative medicine” or “alternative therapy” might not fly though.

Maxmilliana
Maxmilliana
5 years 7 months ago

The “solo gig” applies here as well!

Pebbles67
Pebbles67
5 years 7 months ago

For more on this topic, Check out the “Feeling Sexy” thread in the Odds and Ends Forum.

Anna Barlowe
5 years 7 months ago

I saw a show on the Travel Channel recently that said it’s possible to have really excellent sex with ghosts. This is known as Spectrophilia. Do you suppose that has any added benefits, or elevates some previously unknown hormones, for example scareotonin? Just wondering. 😛

ThePrimalBrett
ThePrimalBrett
5 years 7 months ago
ThePrimalBrett
ThePrimalBrett
5 years 7 months ago

Funny and thoughtful article with some interesting statistics. Primal Law 11: Get some.

Twibble
Twibble
5 years 7 months ago

Sure it doesn’t just fit under “Play”?

Poppabear
5 years 7 months ago

Okay, You’ve sold me on this whole “sex” thing.

Gary Deagle
5 years 7 months ago

What if it crosses the line into high intensity? Can we mark off our metcon workout for the week? 😉

Bennett
Bennett
5 years 7 months ago

After all this time worrying (okay, maybe not so much worrying) that my girlfriend and I would be the death of one another with our *ahem* activity level, it’s good to know that it has medicinal benefits.

And I’ll have to remember that ‘sex cures headaches’ bit, just in case.

Sean
Sean
5 years 7 months ago

Primal is totally flawed because meat is highly acidic, if you want to increase your risk of diseases later in life, eat the primal way!

Urban Caveman
5 years 7 months ago

…yep, and fruits and veggies are ‘highly base’, gotta love the balance in that, right? 😉

Tim
Tim
5 years 7 months ago

Great post, Mark. But for all of you who like to take the caveman thing to absurd levels, be wary:

http://www.newsweek.com/blogs/we-read-it/2010/07/26/sex-at-dawn-the-prehistoric-origins-of-modern-sexuality.html?obref=obinsite

Sandy
Sandy
5 years 7 months ago
I’ve not read the book but in the third bit it falls apart, evolutionarily speaking. Humans may be closely related to bonobos genetically but we differ behaviorally and physiologically. Testicle ratio indicates that humans were mostly monogamous with occasional forays into cuckoldry. The bonobo, which will have sex with any member of the group for any reason, including same sex pairings, has a significantly higher testicle ratio than human males do. This suggests that the sperm of bonobo males compete with the sperm of other males. Humans have a slightly increased testicle ratio, meaning it happens, but generally not.
Devin
Devin
5 years 7 months ago

I have read the book Sex At Dawn, and find it to be incredible. It’s the best sex research on Grok ever done, and it smashes to smithereens any notion of humans being naturally monogamous.

fritzy
fritzy
5 years 7 months ago

Sean;

Your comment on two seperate threads demonstrates your lack of knowledge about the subject. This is not an all-meat diet and for that matter not JUST a diet. Primal is a lifestyle with many facets (as this very post demonstrates.)

Instead of trolling around making baseless claims, try reading the book and doing some actual research on the subject. Yes, we all know, meat is acidic and yet somehow, people are turning their health around and regaining control of their lives with this approach.

Snide comments are fruitless.

Dana
Dana
5 years 7 months ago

Meat also has its own built-in buffering agent. Go search on Wikipedia for the amino acid glutamine. And quit getting all your nutrition information from PETA. Half of them are cheating with cheese.

Maxmilliana
Maxmilliana
5 years 7 months ago

The Inuit’s (eskimos) native diet consists mainly of whale and other animals and lots of fat! They thrived until adopting the western diet, and now may are diabetic.

Melanie
Melanie
5 years 7 months ago

I have noticed that when we are strictly following the primal diet (which is most of the time) our desires increase. Anyone else noticed increased sex drive with better nutrition.

Anyway my Grok is a little piggy and I’m reaping the benefits!

Marc
Marc
5 years 7 months ago

Think it must be the testosterone with going primal. I can honestly say I have never had or wanted to have so much quality bedroom activity in all my 50 years and my GF say’s the same thing.

Kelda
5 years 7 months ago

Go check out the link Mark (and Pebbles67) mentioned above Feeling Sexy, you are not alone my friends … I would have commented yesterday after reading this but had an appointment with my kayaking buddy!

Alison Golden
5 years 7 months ago

“What good does it do to blow the overall health benefit by putting yourself at risk for the myriad of sexually transmitted diseases.”

Amen to that.

Dr. Bob
Dr. Bob
4 years 2 months ago
Girlfriend, It diminishes the benefits, and they go from a health positive to a health negative! Today more than ever, are the strains of STD’s so varied and difficult to control. In viral STD’s alone the strains are in the 1000’s. Same diagnosis, different strain! Combine different strain and the mutant DNA of the virus become deadly, not just some sort of break out, but deadly, Cyto Megly Virus occur over 90% of the time with any viral STD! Look at that one on google, then wonder what that strain of CMV is. That is just on a virus! Not… Read more »
Raymond-ZenMyFitness
5 years 7 months ago

Great primal points I mean who could argue? LOL …

I love body building and I believe it helps increase testosterone levels?

And how better to feel closer to your partner (Is that a male talking or what?)

Excellent topic,Thanks
Raymond

Single4Life
Single4Life
5 years 7 months ago

But do you have to involve someone else in this “sex” business, or is it fine to do it by yourself?

AB Smith
AB Smith
5 years 7 months ago

I’m thinking it’s more fun with a friend anyways,… 😉

Melissa Fritcher
5 years 7 months ago

I miss my libido. Insulin issues have pretty much killed the libido increase I was seeing from going Primal and being healthier.

DAVE PARSONS
DAVE PARSONS
5 years 7 months ago

I am so in……
I approve of this massage.

GROK ON…top..underneath..sideways…
>>>>>>
Daveman

JohnC
JohnC
5 years 7 months ago

Mark how valid are these “studies” you refer to?

Do they make allowance for causation and correlation?

I think some may say at times you are guilty of cherry picking medical studies.

As we all know you could say that one study (for example) that says the people that have more sex are at less risk of a heart attack is simultaneously saying people who have healthier hearts to begin with have sex more frequently.

JohnC
JohnC
5 years 7 months ago

No response? Disappointing.

Ben
Ben
5 years 7 months ago

The study demonstrates (at least) correlation. Does it really matter whether more sex leads to better health, or better health leads to more sex? The message is pretty clear: health and sex come together… No pun intended 😛

JohnC
JohnC
5 years 7 months ago

If it doesn’t matter then there’s no reason to quote the study in the first place.

Mark
Mark
5 years 7 months ago
Great post Mark. As a long time reader and occasional poster, I have often though there was something missing from the 10 Primal Laws … as you say, what could be more primal than sex? After all, it is probably when most of us feel most animal, vital, and well… human. One could shoehorn a healthy sex life into Primal Law 2 (hmmm maybe), 3 (if you’re feeling energetic), 4 (well, from time to time), 6 (sort of), even 9 (if you’re Sting!). But it just feels right for a healthy sex life to be a fundamental in its own… Read more »
Dana
Dana
5 years 7 months ago
I still have this knee-jerk impulse to get all grrr about the excuses men make for sleeping around (“it’s evolutionary!”), but on the other hand, some folks believe human beings developed polygyny (multiple wives) to give each wife a break in between pregnancies. Of course that assumes a patrilineal household (where the woman goes to live with her husband’s family, pretty much the norm worldwide now), and also assumes they don’t have modern knowledge about pregnancy prevention. A smart Grok spaced his kids so they’d have a better chance of developing well, and so their mom would have less of… Read more »
John
John
5 years 7 months ago

Reproductive spacing is naturally accomplished by the hormonal effects of naturally patterned breastfeeding, which delays pregnancy. In the modern world that’s not very common since women rarely (if at all) breastfeed after 6 months. Among natural HG humans it’s not anything that needs to be explicitly planned…and females are as or more likely to be promiscuous as males in normal higher-primate band behavior.

Melanie
Melanie
5 years 7 months ago

I don’t think breastfeeding is a great way to delay pregnancy. After 9 months my son was still breastfeeding “almost” exclusively and I got pregnant anyway. I think in my case a little planning would have been in order. Proper child spacing is not only great for mothers, but beneficial for children.

I do believe your point about females being more promiscuous. Rawr!!

Lilian
5 years 7 months ago

Nursing frequency is as important as exclusicity, and that’s where westerners tend to fall short and loose out on the pregnancy-prevention effect.

John
John
5 years 7 months ago

It’s a great way to delay pregnancy for as long it prolongs fertility. It certainly isn’t normally going to slip a woman’s attention that she’s starting her cycle again, at which point technology can be employed if that’s the desired intent. My wife isn’t fertile again until the last baby tailors off of regular nursing.

John
John
5 years 7 months ago

It’s a great way to delay pregnancy for as long it delays fertility. It certainly isn’t normally going to slip a woman’s attention that she’s starting her cycle again, at which point technology can be employed if that’s the desired intent. My wife isn’t fertile again until the last baby tailors off of regular nursing.

Cara
Cara
4 years 8 months ago
I have 4 children (now adults) 2 years apart in age. Never took, or used birth control. As soon as I weaned them I became pregnant again almost immediately ( due to medical reasons I had a tubal ligation after our 4th child). I breast fed each exclusively. No breast pumping, no pacifiers, no supplemental bottles ever. Until they were 7 months old they had breast milk only, and then I started them on small amounts of solid food after that age. I nursed them whenever they wanted to be nursed. Sometimes they just wanted the closeness and cuddling and… Read more »
Alhaddadin
Alhaddadin
5 years 7 months ago
Excellent point about patrilineal households and polygyny. There’s another point that I think needs to be made, especially if we’re looking at things from an evolutionary perspective, which is that the polygynistic mode of society only works when there are a lot of resources to go around, e.g. somewhere like the Edenic wilds of the Great Rift Valley. In other more austere places they practice the opposite, polyandry (i.e. multiple husbands for one wife). I had the privilege to spend a week living in traditional family homes in Ladakh in northern India (culturally Tibet), where polyandry is still widely practiced.… Read more »
Calvin
Calvin
5 years 7 months ago

I don’t know if anyone else was curious, but check it out, it seems that hunter-gatherer women have a natural “won’t get pregnant period” after birthing a child:

“Births, for any given hunter-gatherer woman, are usually spaced at least 4 years apart. The continuous, on-demand nursing of children until they are 3 or 4 years old, which occurs in most hunter-gatherer cultures, apparently produces a hormonal effect that delays ovulation in women who are lean, as hunter-gatherer women are, and serves as a natural means of birth control.”

http://evolution.binghamton.edu/evos/wp-content/uploads/2

Dana
Dana
5 years 7 months ago

Weston Price reported that the primitive people he visited had actual taboos against spacing children too closely together. Sheds an interesting light on the modern practice of pumping them out as quickly as you can catch again. Even people who aren’t Quiverfull or similar don’t pay attention to spacing or proper postpartum recovery.

lisser
5 years 7 months ago
I am a very long term nursing mother, having nursed my first child to 4.5yrs and my second child recently turned 4 and still nurses once each day. I also tandem-nursed the two of them for 3 years. All this childbirth spacing is a GREAT theory, but some women (like me), inspite of exclusively breastfeeding AND co-sleeping, still get their cycles back 8 weeks after giving birth. The average is 14 months without cycles though. Also, breastfeeding is only “good” for birth control if you are EXCLUSIVELY nursing on request, no formula, no other food of any kind, which generally… Read more »
Melanie
Melanie
5 years 7 months ago

Thank you! While my son was nibbling on food here and there, he still nursed on demand at 9 months. No cycle to speak of and my kitchen floor rendezvous resulted in my beautiful daughter! Perhaps my increased interest should have twigged me that ovulation was upon me! Oops! What a beautiful mistake!

Meta
Meta
5 years 7 months ago

I’ve nursed my babies until 3.5 – 4 years and have resumed my cycles when each baby was about 26 months old. My first three children are almost exactly 3 years apart and my fourth baby was just born when his brother was 4.5 yrs old – (he stopped nursing when my milk dried up just over 4 yrs old when I was about 4 months pregnant.)
In my experience, as soon as nighttime nursing ceases, my cycle soon follows.

The Real Food Mama
5 years 7 months ago
This is great stuff! I have to say that prior to going Primal in my eating and exercising, I have a very low sex drive. One of the best side effects of eating Primal has been my increased want to get cozy and a very regular monthly cycle! I used to be the one with 32, 34, 20, 35 day cycles, never the same and never predictable! Now they are….every month for the past 4 months I have been right at 29 days! I can only hope that a good sex life, good health and good eating will helps us… Read more »
mary titus
mary titus
5 years 5 months ago

Thanks for sharing this. I am not quite primal but I do believe this is the ideal dietary lifestyle. I am pre-diabetic and eating very low carb has been helpful. I think sex is easpecially healthy for those of us who lack adequate physical activity. It surprises me how easy it is to keep my weight down with sexual activity.No complaints here.

Sam
5 years 7 months ago

a new pickup line for all the Sisson minions: “come on baby, it’s primal approved!”

Sisson now we need a ‘definitive guide to sex’ too (just so everyone can attach their primal ego to ‘primal sex.’)

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Primal Palette
5 years 7 months ago

Grab your clubs, cave people!

cate
cate
5 years 7 months ago

W/R/T number five, I actually think there are some downsides… I’d never had a boyfriend/been physically close with a guy until my mid-twenties, and I noticed that once I was, ah, up close and personal, I started getting waaaay more angsty every month. I’ve gone through some long (multi-year) single spells since then, and found that the angstiness goes away entirely eventually, but when I have a boyfriend the slightest delay in response to a gchat is clear proof that OH GOD HE HATES ME IT’S ALL OVER

Uncephalized
Uncephalized
5 years 7 months ago

Seems to me that this is perhaps a self-esteem/neediness issue that might need some reflection on your part, rather than a problem with the general concept of relationships/sex, perhaps. I find personally that I am happier and calmer in a relationship than out, and that the more and better sex I have, the happier I am all the time.

But I’m a guy, so I just might not really “get it” from your perspective. Feel free to ignore me. 🙂

Dana
Dana
5 years 7 months ago
I have similar issues but I wouldn’t say “the slightest delay”–however, I will get very upset if he disappears for an entire weekend with no warning beforehand and no explanation afterward. (I’m single now, but this happened in my most recent relationship.) And people around me were telling me it was my self-esteem issues but seriously, that was rude of him. That type of relationship’s closeness is supposed to be on par with a parent’s relationship with their children–closer, in fact. If my teenager disappeared and spent an entire weekend missing without telling me where he was going, I’d have… Read more »
Dana
Dana
5 years 7 months ago
By the way, the ex didn’t pull that disappearing act once or twice, but several weekends during the time we were together. So this was not me flying off the handle over one incident. Just thought I better make that clear. I suppose you could argue I have self-esteem issues in that I stuck around that long, but he claimed he had a lot of work to do at his job, so I figured some of it was just him being busy–I think I stuck around because I was trying to get him to understand, “Hey, just let me know… Read more »
Uncephalized
Uncephalized
5 years 7 months ago

Yeah, what you’re describing is certainly not acceptable “boyfriend behavior”. But what cate was talking about was “freaking out” over the slightest delay in response and overreacting emotionally. These are in totally different ballparks self-esteemwise IMO.

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jdperkins
5 years 7 months ago

This is a perfect post-Valentine’s Day post! If you spring one reason a day on your lover, then you’re left with a bonus reason for a repeat at the end of the week. Love it!

boo
boo
5 years 7 months ago

OK, maybe your next post could cover the overall effects on health of having to pay child support for 20 years to a woman who hates you.

Dana
Dana
5 years 7 months ago

Is the woman your child?

Duff
5 years 7 months ago
Mark–I’m curious if you’re familiar with Marnia Robinson’s work in this area? She has found both through scientific research and personal experience that while sex has numerous health benefits, orgasm may have significant negative consequences especially on mood. Her main book is Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow and she has a website reuniting.info as well as a Psychology Today column. I highly recommend checking out her work—she’s not anti-sex in the least, but emphasizes “bonding behaviors” (found in chimps and other evolutionary ancestors that promote pair bonding between couples) over bigger and better orgasms (which there is some evidence actually increases infidelity… Read more »
Irma
Irma
5 years 7 months ago

Hey Duff, I see we had the same ‘desire’ to share Marnia’s views. Just when I posted my reply, I saw that yours had come in!

Dana
Dana
5 years 7 months ago
I’m going to guess she has never in fact *had* an orgasm. (I’m suspicious about that in general when it comes to women, ha-ha, actually.) A guy may be able to get off just fine without a lot of bonding behaviors, but if I’m just being jumped on and pawed at, I get nowhere near climax. And once I’ve gotten there, I am real doggoned happy and not at all inclined to go seeking attention elsewhere. That oxytocin release thing again. I even understand why men roll over and go to sleep afterward. If I’ve done it right and gotten… Read more »
Irma
Irma
5 years 7 months ago
I feel so inspired writing this post and knowing there are people with open minds going to read this!! Some of you may be really challenged, but hey isn’t it worth the risk (once more!)?? My partner of 28 years and me have ‘discovered’ a totally different way of making love about 4 years ago. We generally avoid orgasms at all; it surely no longer is our final aim. This means we don’t experience the hangover that is thought to be caused by the release of prolactin. Instead we make love for long periods of time and ‘finish off’ with… Read more »
Ben
Ben
5 years 7 months ago

21 times a month? That’s a lot, even for me – and I’m single!!!

Darrin
5 years 7 months ago

Alright, alright. If only for the sake of my health! 🙂

Been looking forward to this post as well. And let me guess, you watched The Big Lebowski recently?

Apolo
5 years 7 months ago

Sweet deal. Would a *clears throat* single guy still be able to get these benefits relying solely on the right hand? 21 times is a tall order!

Ulla Lauridsen
Ulla Lauridsen
5 years 7 months ago

I want to know, too – anything much gained from masturbation?

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Sean
Sean
5 years 7 months ago

Fritzy, the diet is based on meat and vegetables and i know Primal is a lifestyle but the diet is totally flawed on the basis that you will have a low pH if most of the food you eat is meat.

David
David
5 years 7 months ago
Really? You know I don’t usually post on these things, but I drives me crazy when someone pops up and starts trying to criticize something that obviously works for a large number of people. Yes, if your diet consist of near 90 percent meat and only 10 percent veggies, your ph would be off, but most people on the primal blueprint eat ample amounts of veggies and fruits to balance it out. What kind of plan do you follow where your ph is so great? The way I figure it, eating more veggies and fruits and no grain would actually… Read more »
fritzy
fritzy
5 years 7 months ago
Sean, I don’t think you are paying attention to anything anyone is saying. Have you seen Mark’s food pyramid? Veggies are at the very base of that. Have you read up on the various amino acids, such as glutamate, that counter-balance the acidic pH of meats? Have you read all of the testimonials of people, on this very site and all over the net, who have lowered their weight, markers for various diseases, joint pain, etc? Have you thought logically about the undeniable fact that our ancestors recieved a great deal of their nutrition from animal products? Do you think… Read more »
Kristina
Kristina
5 years 7 months ago

My newly found primal self is quite frisky, much to my husband’s pleasure (pun intended). Lose weight, feel sexier, feel HEALTHY, mind is clear… great recipe for increased desire! So far this morning I’ve had bacon AND nookie – ok well not at the same time lol

there’s an idea…. hehe

Sandy
Sandy
5 years 7 months ago

Agreed, agreed, agreed. Burying my nose in my boyfriend’s neck and just breathing him in is a great stress reducer.

Randy Clere
Randy Clere
5 years 7 months ago

At Boo…. respectfully, the woman who hates you has nothing to do with it AT ALL… I paid child support to my daughter until she was 21… It helped her and her mother out…. also engendered good fellings all around…. Try it!

Melanie
Melanie
5 years 7 months ago

Wonderful post! You are an amazing man! If I hear my boss complain one more time about giving half his salary to his kids I’m gonna scream!

PC Girl
PC Girl
5 years 7 months ago

I know this comment has nothing to do with being primal, but I can’t help myself…The term “sexually transmitted diseases” has been replaced with the more accurate term “sexually transmitted infections.” Since unsafe sex puts you at risk for bacterial and viral “infections” I think this is a more accurate term that we should all adopt using. STI’s are not “diseases” and it’s important to stop labeling people with them as “diseased.” Just my two cents…Other than this, I thought this was a fabulous post! Yay sex!!! I’m getting all primal just thinking about it 🙂

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