It’s a Journey, Not a Race
By now, I’m sure you’ve been privy to the teeming hordes descending on cardio machines and health food stores across the country. Tofu is completely sold out; there’s a line out the door for the elliptical. The scent of desperate, hopeful sweat is in the air, and everywhere you look, folks sporting brand spanking new exercise gear and a list full of resolutions lie to themselves. They keep up the charade for a couple weeks, perhaps even a month, after which point the gym crowds taper off, the farmers’ markets stop looking like a mosh pit set to NPR, and people begin thinking about next year’s changes. Yep – it’s the New Year, and this is the entirely-predictable-and-requisite post on New Year’s resolutions.
Did you make any?
Jokes aside, not all resolutions are created equally – or with identical purpose of mind. Your average PBer, for example, actually intends to make good on his or her resolution. I dunno, but I just have a feeling that’s the case. You tend to get things done. I’ve seen the amount of progress you guys have made using nothing but your own impetus (and maybe a book or blog or two) (no holiday required), and it’s impressive. With a little motivation, though, MDA reader progress seemed to increase exponentially. Still, people are weird about New Year’s resolutions. Since the New Year is paradoxically famous for both motivating resolve and inspiring cynicism about the whole “making positive changes” thing, I figured a small post by yours truly to buttress your resolve and undercut the cynicism might help. I’m a big proponent of making positive changes in one’s life, and I can’t help but get misty-eyed when people decide to enrich their lives.
A big part of making positive changes, especially regarding health and fitness, is being realistic about your goals. I think unreasonable expectations actually explain why so many New Year’s resolutions crash and burn, and why the whole idea of a resolution has essentially become a joke. I’d say the vast majority of them expect too much in too little time – they want to go from belly fat to washboard abs in time for summer, or they pledge to lose a hundred pounds by year’s end. I mean, these are technically doable for a subset of the population, but for the vast majority of folks – especially the people who need to make these resolutions in the first place – such drastic results require slow, steady going. People don’t like that, though. They want instant results. More importantly, they seem to expect them, and unreasonable expectations almost unerringly result in disappointment.
The best way to avoid making unreasonable resolutions is to identify the root, underlying issues. I’d even suggest foregoing the specific, goal-oriented resolution. Instead of vowing to “lose 20 lbs in 30 days,” vow to eat no grains or legumes, no sugar, no vegetable oils, and nothing in a box. Instead of resolving to obtain 16-inch biceps, resolve to add pull-ups to the end of every weight lifting session. The key, in my opinion, is to focus on the journey, rather than the destination. The destination then becomes the journey. All those specific fixations on specific body parts are missing the point. When you set arbitrary numerical or objective goals, you’re merely attacking the symptoms, rather than addressing the real issue. If you need to lose weight, you need to dial in your nutrition. Eat Primal foods and avoid Neolithic foods. If you’re unhappy with your level of physical fitness, don’t focus on the arms, or the calves, or the abs. That’s nonsense, and those things will come around when the whole body is healthy and strong. Understand that your body is a confederation of genes, organs, hormones, muscles, bones, and all manner of other parts. They’re all united to support a common purpose – your interaction with the environment. To promote proper interaction, lift heavy things a couple times per week, throw in three to five hours of low-level cardio, and maybe a sprint session, and then call it a day. It’s incredibly simple, but it identifies and addresses the root cause. Attacking symptoms and then declaring success is for Big Pharma, not you. Don’t fall into that trap.
When you focus on the lifelong journey, following the Primal path gets simpler. Instead of a motley crew of contradicting and scattered goals, paths, and benchmarks, you’re now dealing with a single resolution. You haven’t left anything out, and all your worries and symptoms are still being addressed, but it’s now cohesive, efficient, and intuitive. You don’t need a ridiculously long list; you just Grok the Primal Blueprint Laws, get plenty of sleep, avoid stress, eat real food, move around a lot, lift heavy things on occasion, and sprint now and again. Top things off with a few supplements if your diet is lacking in certain areas and you’ve got yourself a damn good New Year’s resolution that’s easy to follow and incredibly effective – for life.
What is your approach to New Year’s resolutions and the Primal lifestyle at large? Let me know in the comment board. And don’t forget to send in your New Year’s Resolution videos. There is only a week and a half left to get them in. Competition is still low and the prize is grand, so act fast!
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HA! Yes, I have been fighting the hoardes of resolvers at the gym. Every year it’ s the same thing. You can spot them a mile away. It’s insane and driving me a bit crazy! Part of me wants to just tell them to give up now, go back to their unhealthful lifestyles and let the rest of us that come to the gym all the time have our machines back!!!! It would save all of us alot of headaches in the long run..
I could NEVER tell someone who’s needing to exercise to lose weight and be healthier “TO” give up! Instead, i’ll encourage those “DON’T” give up because Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win! They have to keep trying to succeed and some need our help to do it, anybody can make changes. It’s amazing what happens when someone is encourged!!!
I’m resolving to quit the after effects of quitting smoking. The ten lbs., the occasional craving, the rare self-pity. I resolve to wake up whenever I feel aversion. Almost all aversions are conditioned, urgent, and completely thoughtless.
Great post Mark,
I prefer the Goal setting approach myself. Resolutions not kept usually aren’t thought about tell next New Year’s again. With goals I can see/monitor my result make a change and move forward like,…well like a journey as you stated. A plane going to Hawaii is off course 90% of the time. The pilot makes small adjustment as he gets feed back from his instruments just like we can from how we feel, our energy level how are clothes fit, if we dropped some weight on the scale and many other ways.
You’re totally right, you don’t just set goals and bang you’re a new person it’s all about being a little bit better than you used to be day by day.
David
Luckily resolution people generally don’t take up space at the squat rack. Emiright?
Good article. I don’t wait until new years to set goals. I already have several goals set and in motion. Slow and steady I will reach all of my goals! Makes it easier when you have great websites like this one! Keep up the good work Mark!
I quit smoking in 04,and gave up sodas to avoid wieght gain at the same time.in 6-7 weeks i had lost 16 lbs.i then cut out refined sugars mostly and kept losing.from 220 to 180 in about a year and mostly kept it off,up n down a few pounds.havnt seen my abs since 17 yrs old im 43 now.never excersize untill last couple weeks strengh and posture improved dramatically!,and along with the primal blueprint eating lifestyle im sure to see my abs again.thank you mark and worker bee!i am keeping workouts very mild i am absolutely amazed at how quickely our bodies responde to diet and excorsize. thank you again mikesny.
Now that we’re more than halfway through the year, I wonder how many here are still at it and which ones have fallen off the bandwagon!
Learning to enjoy the journey was a big part for me. Not only in health, but other areas as well. It provides consistency, rather than random bursts.