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22 Apr

I Can Only Show You the Door

real life stories stories 1 2It’s Friday, everyone! And that means another Primal Blueprint success story. Many thanks to Ronald for sharing how he stepped through the threshold and lost 70 pounds in the process.

If you have your own success story you would like to share with me and the Mark’s Daily Apple community please contact me here. I’ll continue to publish these each Friday as long as you send them in. Thanks for reading!

I first took up dieting around the age of 14 when I attended a class for overweight kids that talked about nutrition, how to portion meals, what a mass of five pounds of fat looked like, etc. At that age I wasn’t really fat mind you, however I was starting down that slope. While I was motivated right after the class, old habits returned quickly and I continued to eat unhealthily. I come from a family where pretty much everyone has or has had weight issues. My aunt was morbidly obese and died of complications of type-II diabetes, so diabetes has a history in our family as well.

The pattern of trying different types of diets would continue. I managed to keep things somewhat in control until after high school. At age 20, I was right around 200 pounds, and I am 5 foot 11 inches tall. Soon after that I met the girl I would eventually marry. Once married, both of our weights really increased. We both liked similar SAD foods in large portions. By the time I was 25, I was around 275 pounds. I remained heavy despite always trying to make healthier choices and exercising when I could. By the time my son was born in 2008, I was going on 300 pounds. I remember the day where I went to the doctor on March 12, 2008 and hit exactly 300 pounds on the doctor’s scale. That was the wake up call. It was time to do something or suffer the consequences. This was it! I seized the day! Right? Not exactly.

I did manage to lose about 20 pounds or so by counting calories. I bought a bunch of meal replacements and meals that were chemically altered to be lower in calories and sugar. You could take one of these meals that had meat and pasta that didn’t have to be fridgerated and it would be ready in one minute in the microwave. Great, but the chemicals in the list of ingredients was a bit disconcerting.

So in 2008 I am 35 years old, weigh about 280 pounds, often feel tired, bloated, irritable. I know I am at risk for diabetes. I have frequent heartburn and always carry around a bottle of Zantac just in case. Wake up call to get healthy? Not yet, but soon.

2008

I wasn’t being totally worthless in regards to health. A friend of mine introduced me to working out with Russian kettlebells, and I began to take instructor led classes over my lunch break three times a week. Unfortunately my diet wasn’t in line with the exercise, but the kettlebells did help spark that motivation to get healthier.

2009

Still, January 20th, 2009 I was at 285 pounds at the doctor’s office. I managed to lose 10 pounds in the next few months and weighed 275 on April 22nd, 2009. I stayed there for a while until two things finally happened. I discovered the Primal Blueprint and I separated from my wife of 14 years.

Now I am not going to launch into a spiteful story of how my ex-wife sabatoged my dieting efforts and it was all her fault that I was the way that I was. In reality she was always very supportive when I was trying to adjust my eating habits. I would make a meal for myself and she would cook for herself and the kids, and sometimes the two would be combined. The reality for me though was I did not have the will power to stay away from their food or the snack foods. It was in the house and inevitably I would pick at it. That and we were always big into convenience, eating out far more often than we should.

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Now all of a sudden on May 23rd, 2010 I moved out and I am on my own. I was able to control what I had in the house, prepare meals just for myself (unless I had my kids for the weekend). I had a bit more time to get out an exercise and play sports. The stars were aligned. This was finally the time I would get healthy! Right? Not exactly.

… just kidding! Yes, in fact it was the time. Now I wasn’t perfect by any means over the next ten months, but I was very serious about getting healthy and sticking to eating primal. I read several books on Paleo and Primal eating. I read forums and read about the experiences of others. I learned what foods were good and what foods to avoid. Any slipups that I had never lasted long and I always returned back to eating Primal very quickly. I embraced and owned the times I would eat non-Primal foods. I didn’t beat myself up over it or even feel guilty about it. There was never the idea that I would “blow my diet”. This is now my lifestyle.

Unfortunately for me I am not much of a cook. Also unfortunate was that most of the cooking utensils, spices, etc I left with my ex. I was able to get the basics. A lot of times I tended to make the same meals often since I enjoyed them. I still do that now.

One of the things I learned to do was make a lot of food in one sitting. Instead of making one meal, I would choose a couple of days a week to make several meals worth of food. I would buy 8 or 10 chicken breasts and cook them all at once. I would cook up 3 pounds of hamburger, a batch of chicken wings, a few pounds of turkey, a dozen eggs, three or four steaks. Then I would sit in front of the television for the next two hours and eat it all.

… just kidding again! I wouldn’t make all that at once because it would go bad before I would eat it. But I would usually make two different things (like a batch of chicken and a few steaks) and store them in the fridge. This way I always had something to grab to bring to work for lunch. I found that on the days where I didn’t have something prepared and went all day without eating, I was far more tempted to eat off plan when I finally did eat. So always having Primal food on hand is very important to my success.

I love eating vegetables and I’ve always loved making huge salads. So far salad I do the same thing: I make a weeks worth of salad at once. I slice in some cucumbers, some jalpeno peppers, some red and green peppers, tomatoes, etc. I’ll grab a meals worth of salad and take it with me to work to eat with my protein that I’d prepared before. This ended up being very satisfying. I never counted calories, but the satiety of eating protein and vegetables must have come in under what I would burn during the day since I was losing weight consistently and regularly.

For dinner my favorite thing to do is cook up some protein (hamburger, turkey, fish, chicken, etc) and steam some vegetables. I mix it all together and add a healthy amount of hot sauce and consume it all. I do this often and so far it hasn’t gotten boring. It just tastes so good.

As far as supplements go, I was taking some Vitamin D soft gels, some DHA-500 fish oil, a multivitamin and a probiotic.

On May 24th, 2010, the day after I moved out, I decided to keep track of my weight loss progress online. My weight that day was exactly 281 pounds. Every few days or so I would enter my weight and track the progress. As you can see, it wasn’t a straight line down by any means, but over time it kept getting lower and lower.

Just to prove that eating Primal was making me healthier beyond having a lot more energy, being happier and feeling healthier, I decided to get a few blood tests done. On October 11th, 2010 I had blood drawn. I’d been making good but not amazing progress by then. At that time I weighed 259 pounds at the doctor’s office. Since the end of May I had lost 22 pounds. I was still going strong.

Four months later I went back for a follow up blood test. On February 18th, 2011 I weighed 229 pounds. I had lost 30 pounds in four months. Now we’re talking! My blood test results showed that my cholesterol (which again my family has a history of high cholesterol; my mother, father, etc are all on statins) ratios had improved. I had added 6 points to my HCL and reduced my LDL by 5 points. I cut my triglycerides in half from 94 to 49. I asked for as many tests as they would do just to see how I was doing. My fasting glucose level was 72 (normal range 70 to 99). My Vitamin D level was 42 (normal range 30 to 100). My ALT Serum (to test for potential liver damage) was 20 (normal range 17 to 63). Things were going good!

My problem during this whole process is that I would eat great for a majority of the day. Breakfast (if I ate it) was fine; bacon, eggs, some fresh peppers. Lunch was a breeze as long as I prepared it. However I still went out to dinner with my family a lot or would have a few good days followed by a slipup. There seemed to always be some event or another. Birthdays, anniversaries, the holidays, etc. I never went crazy but like I said, I wasn’t perfect. That’s why I lost 22 pounds in five months. Slow progress, but steady progress.

Not satisfied with this, I decided to do a personal 30 day challenge. For 30 days I would make no excuses. I would have no special occasions, no “it’s just one bite”, no excuses and no exceptions. For 30 days I would eat no grains, very limited dairy, no legumes. I would be as close to 100% Primal as I could get.

Interestingly, in the midst of the challenge it was much easier to stick to it than I thought. Once my subconscious knew I meant business and I would literally not even eat one chip or one bite, I settled into the challenge nicely. The results were very satisfying; I’ve done the challenge on three occasions now. The first time I lost 15 pounds in 30 days. The second time I lost 14 pounds in 30 days. The third time (Valentines Day 2011 to 3/16/11) I lost 20 pounds in 30 days, although some of that may be attributed to catching the flu from my kids the last week of the challenge.

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So that brings us to the present. I’ve lost almost exactly 70 pounds so far, with my approximate goal being another 30 pounds to reach that century mark. I am asked almost daily what I am doing to lose the weight. “It’s not magic”, I tell them. I avoid grains. I avoid processed foods. I eat a lot of protein, a ton of vegetables, and healthy fats. I eat eggs and bacon. I put a tablespoon of extra virgin coconut oil in my one cup of coffee I have a day. I get outside and run around playing soccer and tennis. I lift heavy things with my kettlebells.

The effect upon them has been amazing. Their lives are changed by what I tell them. They instantly go Primal, get healthy and live happily ever after! Right? Not exactly. However the seed has been planted. Perhaps someday something will trigger in their lives and they’ll remember the information and links I sent them. Just like it was said in the movie the Matrix, “I can only show you the door. You are the one that has to walk through it.”

A huge thank you to Mark Sisson and the Primal community for showing me that door. I love this Primal lifestyle and will be doing this for life. Of that I have no doubt.

You want comments? We got comments:

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  1. oh.my.god. you look 20 years younger.

    anamaria wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  2. Awesome, man! I’m 32 yrs old, 6’4″ and started out this diet at about 360. So far so good. I’m not checking my weight regularly but I check my waist line every week to two and the inches have been coming off steadily.

    Way to go!

    Joel wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  3. Dude thats awesome.

    Archie wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  4. agreed! it amazes me that the people in these success stories end up looking like their own kids!!
    Way to go!!

    fitmom wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  5. You look so much younger! Keep living Primal. You are an inspiration to millions around the globe. Thank you!

    Primal Toad wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  6. Congratulations on your continuing success! I am happy to see the change in your eyes- they’ve brightened significantly and you look ALIVE.

    I too am grateful to Mark and his Daily Apple (and his wonderful book and cookbooks) for enriching and enlightening so many of our lives.

    Did you stick with the kettlebells? What are you doing for exercise/play?

    Thanks for sharing your story!

    Lauren wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  7. Outstanding! Congrats!!

    Alice Unchaind wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  8. Looking great, Ronald! Keep it up!

    Andrea Reina wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  9. Thanks for sharing an inspiring success story. =)

    annie wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  10. Nice work – your appearance has improved greatly. Your a shave and a haircut away from movie star looks!

    Mike wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • oops, “you’re”.

      Mike wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • Ha exactly what I was thinking…shave, haircut, and flat front pants away from…

      Lemon wrote on August 8th, 2013
  11. I’m lovin the coconut oil in my coffee now too!
    Way to perservere and make a change (for the better)!!
    Yet another fabulous & great-looking success story!!

    Peggy wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  12. Holy cow! You look absolutely AMAZING! I can’t believe it! I’m so impressed! Post-divorce dating will be a breeze for you! All the ladies will want some! :)

    Tara wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  13. I can never get over the transformation in these stories. The face changes are amazing. Who knew we could look so different and still be the same person?

    Congratulations on your weight loss and the health gains that come with it!

    Alison Golden wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  14. love friday success stories! Ronald Kudos to you! You look fantastic and I know you much feel amazing!

    sarah wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  15. Well done. Good for you. Those clothes look a bit baggy, better go buy some fit person clothes.

    B$ wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • I was thinking the same thing! Awesome!

      Mary wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  16. WOW! What a down to earth story!

    Croí wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  17. Good job, man!

    You’re an inspiration to me! :)
    Keep on the good work, and Grok on!

    futhark wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  18. Way to brother. Keep it up. Like you said, its a lifestyle, not a diet.

    mike wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  19. Nice work man! I can attest that you have indeed planted seeds with whoever you talk to this about. After a year of being primal (and talking about it occasionally), an obese co-grad student finally asked me for advice. We found a flexible system that works for him, and he’s gone from 255 lbs to 210 since Jan 1. Helping him has been the most satisfying thing I’ve done this year. I hope you get the same feeling someday!

    Graham wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  20. Wonderful! Congratulations on taking control!

    gilliebean wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  21. Awesome story!

    Leticia Meireles wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  22. wow man you look like a totally different person! congrats!

    Burn wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  23. Thanks guys! I am celebrating the posting of my success story with the start of another 30 day challenge. :D

    It is really great to find something easy to follow that is beneficial on so many levels. I always wanted to be able to run around with my kids and be active and I always felt lethargic before going Primal.

    Last weekend the kids and I spent 7 hours at the beach in the sun running around and having fun. The beach is always good inspiration to keep going for the goal. :)

    Ronald wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • Awesome and inspirational!

      Jenny wrote on April 23rd, 2011
  24. You look great
    you look healthy
    and I bet you’re a better Dad now that you’re stronger and more able to keep up with them

    Marci wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  25. Congrats on the health changes, but i’m sorry, this story made me incredibly sad and it’s hardly the uplifting story I want to read here.

    It’s not the first instance i’ve seen of someone leaving their family as part of their “new self transformation” and yes, usually it’s men who do this. How much do your kids weigh? You can add that weight to your loss.

    Fail.

    Bean wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • You made a huge assumption here and that’s terribly presumptuous of you.

      belinda wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • Well said, Belinda.

        emily wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • Seriously. You have zero background here on their relationship troubles — and it’s none of your business anyway — yet you seem to think this was the only factor (or even a major factor) in their break-up.

        Jenny wrote on April 23rd, 2011
        • Umm, if its none of our business why was it mentioned? He went out of his way to credit his wife and take blame.

          But hey, its all about him isn’t it? Who cares about the kids when you can get a trim waistline!

          Seems to me a truly Primal life is sticking around to raise the little ones.

          Cromulent wrote on April 24th, 2011
    • Well, it’s a female that almost did this in our family…me.

      I did this for preventative reasons, my husband is the extremely sick one. He wouldn’t listen and I kept on ragging at him…didn’t know how to sugar coat it for him to make him understand the consequences of his sad diet.

      But, thank god he finally snapped out of his trance and joined the rest of us (total of 6 here). I wasn’t gonna hang around and watch him die early, just cause he was too lazy to change and I was the convenience for him to take care of him because I’m 8 years younger than him.
      And if Ronalds woman KNOWS about the dangers of processed foods and all the other junk and keeps feeding it to her kids on purpose…maybe she’s an unfit mother to begin with.
      Why would a mother keep feeding poison to her kids knowing it will kill them?

      I applaud him for having the guts to leave to care for his health so he can be there for his kids and walk his daughter down the isle when she gets married.
      It’s not fail at all…women are usually in charge of shopping for food…if she keeps bringing home poison, I’d leave, too.

      Donnersberg wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • I appreciate the thoughts, however I am equally to blame in regards to what foods were brought into the house, what the meals consisted of, etc. I didn’t want to force calorie counting or whatever method I was trying at that time on other people or punish the kids from certain foods simply because I was trying to get my weight in control.

        My ex and I actually get along well and she’s by no means an unfit mother. We both have work to do on the foods we provide our kids.

        Ronald wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • Thanks for your comments, however I did not walk out on my family. We mutually agreed to separate after trying counseling and realizing things were not going to work. Diet and health were a small part of the issues we had, and as I mentioned, she was supportive of my efforts when I was trying to count calories.

      Fortunately our kids are healthy, not overweight. It’s valid to say we need to feed them better. I think everyone should be eating primally. :)

      Ronald wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • It’s very gracious of you to even dignify that post with a response.

        And congratulations on your success! It’s for life, for sure. I wouldn’t dream of going back.

        aktres wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • indeed Ronald, way too gracious.
        congratulations on an awesome story.

        carla wrote on May 15th, 2011
    • That took guts, Bean. Props to you.

      Cromulent wrote on April 24th, 2011
      • guts? really? posting anonymously online takes guts?

        carla wrote on May 15th, 2011
    • i didn’t take from this, that he left because of his wife. I took from it that they happened to break up and he just saw it as an opportunity to pour his attention into himself and be a better person. To take care of himself to be a better person for his kids. He could have become depressed and bitter. Instead he realized the problemm wasn’t his wife’s choices but his choice to give in bad food. He owned up to it and used his new life situation as a fresh start. He’s done amazingly well.

      rebecca wrote on October 17th, 2011
  26. I’m interested in your ex-wife’s current health. Has she gone primal too? And your kids — are they taking healthy diet cues from you, or SAD ones from her? Raise them right and pass on the information that changed your life! Great job and keep it up! :)

    Alice wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • I can personally say that I know he damn well hasn’t had his kids go primal in his care. Hmm…jamba juice, mcdonalds, donuts & cupcakes are hardly primal fare. His x-wife actually cannot feed the children any sort of treats during the week to off set what they eat on the weekends. I know for a fact that she tries very hard to eat sensibly with her children & would love to go to the gym several times a week, but Ron is way too busy with his own weight loss to support hers. Not to mention the sabotage? That box of donuts he brought her (cough, the kids) last week is hardly supportive.

      And just for the record, this is not his ex-wife, its the witchy (with a b) best friend. LOL

      And just to be on record, way to go Ron.

      Lindsay wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • Maybe this is something the two of them should come to an agreement about themselves, about their own kids, rather than you taking it upon yourself to scold him publically.

        I would imagine the dynamic for any separated parents is pretty complex to negotiate when it comes to feeding choices, scheduling (exercise or whatever), etc. Let them hash that out on their own.

        Jenny wrote on April 23rd, 2011
      • Wow! Spiteful much?

        Angie wrote on April 25th, 2011
  27. WOW !! What a GREAT Story…. Congratulations Ron !!

    Rita de Cassia wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  28. I’m not married but I am living (platonically) with my little girl’s dad. We’re split, but we’re friends, and raising our daughter together. And yeah, he’s supportive of my efforts but it doesn’t always feel that way. If my inner brat asserts herself and I want something that really isn’t that great for me, he’ll go get it without a fuss. I think he has only ever bothered *one time* to say “you don’t really want to do that” when I expressed my desire for junk. One time.

    Sad part is he’s got fatty liver, actually diagnosed–plus sleep apnea, plus overweight, plus low testosterone. When I’m eating better, he usually eats better too, but still does stuff like drink Coke and eat microwave popcorn. He could stand to get healthier too. He’s only making half an effort.

    So… I think there is more to support than simply not complaining when the other person tries to be healthier. Not trying to bust on your ex, but seriously, there’s more to support than that.

    As for the kiddo, she is already less picky than I was as a child and will eat things I wouldn’t touch (and still won’t now) like bell peppers, which she eats like an apple, and those little tiny Japanese dried fish that you can eat whole as a snack. But other parts of her diet need improvement–you need to catch them early, especially with the health disadvantages she was already born with. So part of recognizing that at least one of the adults in a household needs support in changing their diet for the better is also recognizing that the kids could use some help too, sooner rather than later.

    My two cents, your mileage may vary. You have made some amazing progress. :)

    Dana wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  29. Amazing! Thanks for the motivation! :)

    Crunchy Pickle wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  30. Wow! You got HOT! ;) I, too, and interested in your ex-wife’s and kids’ health and weight. Did your change also change them (well, the ex-wife)? Keep up the awesome work! You’ve inspired me to do my own 30 day challenge. I can’t wait until I can post my success story.

    Kris C wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • I didn’t really start focusing on primal eating until we’d already separated, so I can’t say how much its affected my ex. She knows what foods I eat and as was previously mentioned she is doing her own thing to lose weight.

      As I am sure you know, you can preach Primal to people until you are blue in the face but it’s really up to each person on what they choose to believe and what they choose to eat. I am not on a mission to convert anyone nor do I condemn them for whatever diet choices they make. When people ask what I am doing, I let them know and typically send them a link to Marks Daily Apple.

      Our kids are healthy, however I am guilty of poor food choices for them, allowing them things they like that are obviously not good for them. I didn’t want to punish them with foods they do not like or do not enjoy, however I will make an effort to change that by being a bit more creative in what I prepare. My eating habits while growing up were pretty terrible so I can see getting them to be more primal will be beneficial.

      Thanks for the kind words and good luck with your challenge! :)

      Ronald wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • Ronald,

        Sounds like you’ve got some of that divorced dad guilt going on. I think you’re right that you need to focus on being more creative with the cooking to entice the kids to eat primal food, as at some point children will go on strike rather than eat what is unpalatable. Re: primal, I also believe children have a greater need for dairy products in their diet than you may have as an adult.

        Remember, it’s not “punishing” your children to provide them with nourishing, healthful food that helps set them up for good health throughout life. I suggest you Google “Nutrition and Physical Degeneration” and see what the good dentist had to say about child nutrition!

        Some tips: kids will want to eat what you eat, assuming it must be “better”, so you could cook at home and serve only yourself the “target” food. Use reverse psychology (“this sweet potato roasted in tallow is only for grownups”) until they’re dying to try it. (This trick has been around for generations.) Don’t go to places like McD’s where there is sugar or w6-high oils injected into everything. You literally can’t eat anything there that’s good for you (hell, they give the kids a choice of choco milk or skim!!) and the kids will go nuts at the smell of fries and reconstituted rib meat nuggets. It’s just not a good environment.

        Also, when you ask the kids where they want to eat, give them two choices pre-vetted by you, rather than letting them just scream “McDonald’s! or Ice cream!. There are plenty of independent eateries (often with a vegan slant, but who’s counting) which will have kid’s food that is appealing but still healthy(-er). Plus it can be exciting to try something new. Drive the kids to a town center they’re unfamiliar with, take ‘em to the park (kids love new parks), walking past the target eatery on the way, then walk back (better if no McD’s on the walking route). It becomes an adventure instead of an imposition.

        Another Halocene Human wrote on April 24th, 2011
        • Excellent advice! This weekend went better with food choices for the kids. No real garbage food as all that stuff got thrown away. We were at the beach all day Saturday and a few hours on Sunday and they mostly had fruit.

          Since I typically only have them Friday – Sunday morning I think Im going to try making some foods ahead of time to have them ready for the kids. That would make feeding them primal a whole lot easier. The ex (who believes me now that I wasn’t trying to blame her and since apologized for the comments) and I have a good plan to improve the foods they get both when they are with me and with her.

          We’ll see how it goes when I post an update to the story in July that I am finally at my goal. :)

          Ronald wrote on April 24th, 2011
  31. You look amazing…congrats!

    Donnersberg wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  32. Congratulations, Ronald! You’ll inspire many with your success, I’m sure :)

    belinda wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  33. Congrats from across the oceans!!

    What I love about you (and all the other success stories) is that you look so ALIVE – so full of energy. There’s a definate twinkle in your eyes that isn’t there in the before pictures.

    Bet the ex is kicking herself now!

    Debs wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • Bet she’s not. ;) Trust me, she lost about 285lbs herself.

      Again, the witchy (with a b) best friend to the ex.

      Lindsay wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • LMAO Lindsey

        carla wrote on May 15th, 2011
    • um, no I’m not. and this story is TERRIBLY misleading. For the record, I was a size 8 when I met Ron, at 20 years old. I had never eaten anything in quantities that we were suddenly eating.

      I was never anything but 110% supportive of his weight loss efforts, I wanted to loose weight and be healthier also. Whenever he came up with a diet scheme, I followed it, with exception of his Zone days when I was pregnant with our daughter. I changed everything about how the whole family ate when we went to Atkins. Only at the end of the marriage did I “make the kids and myself separate meals” and that was mostly because at that point he was refusing to eat with us, hiding in his office all day. The junky snack food? Ron bought about 99% of that “for the kids”….still does. I have also lost about 20 pounds since Ron and I split. What did I change? Not having to emotional eat to deal with his crabbiness and moodiness. My kids and I eat organic fruits and veggies from the farmers market as well as chicken and turkey. We do eat whole grain or rice pasta. I literally feel guilty even letting my kids have a natural fruit Popsicle because of all the crap Ron feeds them on the weekends.

      I do not say I’m blameless on our weight gains. I would definitely prefer to eat out than cook, esp at the end when being in our home was so stressful and horrible. It was not a comfortable place for myself or the kids. But, I was not the one buying him peanut butter cups “because they are your favorite” when he was trying to eat better. See I can play the non-blame game too.

      I’m EXTREMELY happy that Ron has lost all this weight. I’m EXTREMELY happy that he is not as crabby and moody lately as he used to be. Before this article blaming me, I had been thinking that we were finally friends again. This article and its comments are very saddening to me. My kids are super important to me, esp their health. I am the one that takes care of their every need. Ron is the one that gets to take them to the water park and feed them crap all weekend. :(

      Bonny wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • why don’t you both show the kids that you care about them by not airing all your business in a public forum?

        you two are supposed to be the adults here

        rbud wrote on April 22nd, 2011
        • I am not one to stand around letting people judge me and my parenting skills based on this misleading article. My kids will never hear about this unless Ron tells them. I have a right to stand up for myself.

          Bonny wrote on April 22nd, 2011
        • Agreed. Super tacky. The best friend isn’t helping.

          Back to the point of this all: congrats on your diet changes! An amazing success. You really, really look quite different.

          Catt wrote on April 24th, 2011
      • Hi Bonny. While Ron’s story is very inspirational and I am so glad for him to have changed his life for the better with his WOE and exercise program, I couldn’t help thinking about you because I am a Mom too and wondering if you were also able to find “extra” time to workout and change your life for the better.

        Sometimes relationships don’t work out and I don’t think it is really anyone’s business as to why (btw you and Ron). My dh also lost about 80 lbs living away from home (he was working out of state–no divorce) but he didn’t do it primally, just used SparkPeople and took up running. Now he is not running as much because of inflammatory pain in his legs –he was training for a marathon running 50 mil a week. He isn’t ready for PB yet and has also taken up gaming and still has episodes of garbage food eating.

        I have lost not as much weight but am getting there and d/t genetics, men just lose faster than women.

        It was definitely advantageous to my dh when he was living away from home as he had less stress and time demands in r/t the house, the family etc. He had work, running, and sleep and spent his day off planning his menu and cooking/getting it ready for the week. He was working nights so had more flexibility when it came to his day and his job was very low stress compared to at home.

        Anyhow, I’d love to read your success story as well.

        Kathy wrote on April 26th, 2011
  34. I so look forward to success story Friday! This one, like all others, is no disappointment! Keep up the great work! *note to self: try the coconut oil in the coffee. sounds weird, but interesting!

    Kathy wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • I haven’t tried the coconut oil, I’ve used the coconut milk and it is great.

      bbuddha wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  35. “the seed has been planted” That’s the most succinct summary of how the primal approach infects others, spreading by word of mouth and strutting personal health improvements in front of the eyes of friends and family. If there was a “Johnny Appleseed” health award (for the promotion of health), Mark, you would be the winner.

    Aaron Blaisdell wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  36. Congrats man! You looking amazing, and your last pic you look really happier. I know how hard it was to do all that but you stayed with it.
    What does the coconut oil in the coffee taste like LOL and why?

    vanillasugarblog wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • I am definitely much happier, and I am setting some pretty ambitious goals as I am not yet satisfied where I am. :)

      I typically put coconut oil in my coffee to get more calories from fat. It’s satiating and healthy. The protein I eat usually isn’t too fat as I like to eat a lot of chicken, fish, etc so the coconut oil helps to balance the macronutrients. I also read it helps keep people regular in the absense of a lot of fiber from grains and fruits. Seems to work for me! :)

      Ronald wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  37. Thanks for sharing your side of things Bonny, because there is ALWAYS 2 sides to every story!

    Ron, I hope you will come to realize that if you keep getting junk for your kids they will end up just like you before you lost all this weight! Dont set them up for failure. You look great now, just always remember your weight struggles when you want to give your kids a “treat”.

    Now…to get my butt in gear for a 30 day challenge!

    Liz G. wrote on April 22nd, 2011
    • This is true, and I’ve been doing a lot of research on how to make primal friendly foods the kids would be interested in eating. I do not have a lot of room to keep foods where I am living now and I only have the kids there on the weekends so its challenging to get groceries that wont go bad and foods they will eat. I am definitely mindful of this and will continue to work on it.

      Good luck on your challenge! =)

      Ronald wrote on April 22nd, 2011
      • Pick up Marks Cookbook, the coconut pancakes are kid friendly and very healthy. If they are old enough let them help cook, anything they helped to make is good

        bbuddha wrote on April 22nd, 2011
        • Good advice! I’ve been writing down recipes I’ve found and making grocery lists of things I’ll need to buy. I’ll pick up the cook book as wel.

          Ronald wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  38. based on the bathroom shot, dude works at cisco.

    xyz wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  39. Awesome! You look fantastic!

    Sonia wrote on April 22nd, 2011
  40. Wow… I can see how much healthier you are. How great for you! Congratulations for making the change

    Bevaboo wrote on April 22nd, 2011

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