Men and depression
My question is kind of random, but I realised recently that there's something of a difference between the way men and women experience depression, and it's something I'd like to understand better.
My bf suffers from mild depression. (He's never coined it as "mild depression", but I can recognise it).
But ironically; even though I suffered from severe depression in the past... I have no idea what to do.
I have male friends who are depressed, and they're very communicative about it, but my bf expresses his bad moods with a sense of frustration and helplessness, and it's like he's crying out for help, but simultaneously is afraid to reveal that he's down a lot. I want to support him, but I have the sense that this is a source of great shame for him, and so I don't want to probe.
Just wondering if any of the men out there who suffer from depression might be able shed some light on this? Do you associate depression with weakness and therefore not want to talk about it? If there was an ideal way that someone could support you, what would it be?
I know with women (and some men), you ask them about how their feeling, and gently encourage them to talk it out, but with him I feel like he does want to talk about it, but his feelings of guilt hold him back. I think it would require very specific questions for him to open up. Til now I just respond sympathetically, and then cheer him up with a funny conversation.
Thanks for your help! <3
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