As a woman, I agree...I have found that women do not, and never DID, like the super huge look....by this I mean like Arnold or the other mutants with either a strong mix of juicy-juice or outrageous amounts of time on their hands. As a guy that has, I would imagine, dated a lot, I have heard from a lot of women that size is kind of a "U-shaped curve" for a lot of them.
In other words, be big, but not TOO big. At a certain point you start to look like a gorilla, and lose the looping walk of athleticism. As one woman I dated once said, "I like a puma, not an orangutan"
Rote SIZE is not very valuable outside of intimidating other men. For this reason a lot of women view it, rightly or wrongly, as a sign of cockiness and overcompensation....even though getting a LOT of definition, if not on the juicy, takes more work than just getting big, IMO.
I think that the size obsession itself, and the "you are as fit as your 1RM's" mentality that goes with it, is a little bubble that guys fool themselves into thinking matters.....there are few things in my life more satisfying than being across the rugby field with some overgrown hulk that thought his squat weight alone made him fitter than me, and watching me wear him into being an exhausted little girl by the end of the game.
Women like athleticism more than size. Nothing wrong with that.
And yes, today I am going to go lift 3 rep, 5 set, near max deadlift....and then swim an 800m. Need both