It depends on what you want. If you just want to go have sex with a bunch of people, it really isn't worth it. However, if you want a reliable partner to clean up after you, raise your brats, change your adult diapers, bail you out of jail, accompany you to awkward family events, drop you off at the mechanic, help pay your bills when you are unemployed, take care of you during a man cold, still fuck you on your birthday when you are a gross 45 year old man with excessive hair and a beerbelly, then it might actually be important. Or maybe you can work something and have that support system that looks the other way, and as long as you don't mind that they have other partners... then maybe monogamy is not that important.
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This is going to vary by person, and also possibly by age. When I was in my 20's, I dated a lot. But at 28 I settled down with my DH and we've been together 13 years. I have zero desire to flirt with anyone else, let alone cheat on him. I find myself very content with him. I don't know that I would say he's my soulmate, but I think he's as close as it gets. We are excellent friends, good partners, have similar goals, enjoy each other's company, and most importantly can't see our future without the other being in it. In my early 20's I wasn't ready for that. Now, I am. And I hope it doesn't change.
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I think maybe a more accurate way to say it is that some people say that it works for them...
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The New York Times Misleads on Monogamy | Psychology Today
I'm about to start reading this book, Sex at Dawn, by Christopher Ryan and his wife. Ryan is the author of the above article. One of my facebook friends is obsessed with that book, and I'm intrigued. It's supposed to show that monogamy came into existence at a later time in human history--when women started to be treated as their husband's property. And hence the 9th and 10th Commandments. Coveting your neighbor's wife is really just like coveting his goods.
To the OP, no, I don't think there is any point to monogamy. I think it is unnatural. It is imposed by social and moral norms that are inconsistent with our species's natural inclinations. And that is why people cheat.
Back in the 50's, it used to be that people married for 3 big reasons:
1. To have children and do your best raising them,
2. To build an estate (capital) sufficient for your retirement and possible sickness. At that time it was considered really bad if you had to live with your children because you had insufficient capital to support yourself in old age.
3. To have the company of a long term partner until the end of your life.
I'm not sure that #2 is at all possible today
So it depends upon your own personal goals. You're young now with strong hormones and drives. That will change in time and your desires will change. It's important to determine your own life goals and stick to them.
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Additionally, I have older friends who got divorced, and they are of the strong opinion that it sets you back almost to square 1 financially. Losing your house and having to pay child support, good luck paying off the new house you buy in less than 10 years....
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