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    Guys: What should I wear on a date?

    I'm shamelessly using these boards to crowdsource some man opinions. This is mostly because somehow I keep dating douchebags and I'm looking to raise the quality level of my romantic escapades--and the guys on here generally talk and converse like the kind of guy I'd like to date, so I figure y'all's opinions will help me stop attracting clueless dudebros.

    Scenario: You're going on a first date with a girl you've met before but don't know all that well--or maybe it's a blind date. In an ideal world, what is she wearing? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY. What kinds of outfits on ladies light your fire?

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    Hurry up and answer guys, I'm DYING to hear what you say!

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    Guys really don't care. Seriously. Don't look like a slob or a crazy cat lady or something nutty and you'll be fine. Wear something that gives you confidence; confidence is the best thing to wear on a date.

    And if you have a habit of dating d-bags, it isn't because of your wardrobe. Change your mindset.

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    Oh right. I'm 28. The guy I'm seeing tonight is 29.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Anthony View Post
    And if you have a habit of dating d-bags, it isn't because of your wardrobe. Change your mindset.
    Excellent advice, very helpful. I'll just reach into my brain and flip that switch. There we go! Done!

    In all seriousness, I think it's just that the Venn diagram of "guys who lift/work out" and "guys who have more than two brain cells to rub together" is unfortunately narrow, out there in the real world. On here, everybody is generally fit and also smart, but IRL, that is not the case. And it's not like I'm only seeking ripped guys, just that my interests are largely fitness AND I work in fitness so I tend to mostly meet people from that world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RichMahogany View Post
    I'm not sure what it's called, but I have a serious weakness for girls in leggings under a shirt that's slightly too long (or is it a dress that's slightly too short?).
    Sorority chicks? Around here, they mostly wear yoga pants and XXL t-shirts.

    Quote Originally Posted by heatseeker View Post
    In all seriousness, I think it's just that the Venn diagram of "guys who lift/work out" and "guys who have more than two brain cells to rub together" is unfortunately narrow, out there in the real world. On here, everybody is generally fit and also smart, but IRL, that is not the case. And it's not like I'm only seeking ripped guys, just that my interests are largely fitness AND I work in fitness so I tend to mostly meet people from that world.
    I do 5/3/1 and study engineering. I am unfortunately not a douchebag...
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    Leggings / skirt, flats, funky top. Make sure you're comfortable.


    Quote Originally Posted by heatseeker View Post
    In all seriousness, I think it's just that the Venn diagram of "guys who lift/work out" and "guys who have more than two brain cells to rub together" is unfortunately narrow, out there in the real world. On here, everybody is generally fit and also smart, but IRL, that is not the case. And it's not like I'm only seeking ripped guys, just that my interests are largely fitness AND I work in fitness so I tend to mostly meet people from that world.
    Two words: martial arts! I think it attracts a really interesting kind of man... Fit, yet sensitive / spiritual in their own way. (Obviously this is a huge generalisation, and is mostly based on my boyfriend being into martial arts ) But I think men who are into a sport, as opposed to just pounding the gym, have an extra dimension to those who mostly just want to look good.

    I do agree with Mr. Anthony though - I don't think you wearing the right thing, or going to the right place will help you meet the right guy. It sounds like you're attracted to douches because of a subconscious reason. Maybe ask yourself why?

    (sorry for the two bit psychology).

    Oh, re. younger men: Weirdly, most of my female friends are in relationships with younger men. I think it's the new thing. I never dated a younger man in my life: thought it was a stupid idea. And now I'm 31 and my boyfriend is 28 He loves that I'm older. He thinks it means I'm mature
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    "I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.

    In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."

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    Quote Originally Posted by YogaBare View Post
    Leggings / skirt, flats, funky top. Make sure you're comfortable.
    Yes yes yes and yes. Please and yes. And yes.

    Quote Originally Posted by YogaBare View Post
    Oh, re. younger men: Weirdly, most of my female friends are in relationships with younger men. I think it's the new thing. I never dated a younger man in my life: thought it was a stupid idea. And now I'm 31 and my boyfriend is 28 He loves that I'm older. He thinks it means I'm mature
    I'm 31 as well, and I've been dating older women almost exclusively for the past 4 years. I find women in their mid-late 30's to be less clingy, more realistic in their expectations, and more libidoistically compatible and sexually comfortable with themselves. Obviously it becomes more important that they've made good choices with regards to taking care of themselves, but that's important to me anyway. So I +1 your manfriend's choice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RichMahogany View Post
    I'm 31 as well, and I've been dating older women almost exclusively for the past 4 years. I find women in their mid-late 30's to be less clingy, more realistic in their expectations, and more libidoistically compatible and sexually comfortable with themselves. Obviously it becomes more important that they've made good choices with regards to taking care of themselves, but that's important to me anyway. So I +1 your manfriend's choice.
    Does that mean I'm too young for you then? DAMN

    (I'm nearly 32? )
    "I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.

    In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."

    - Ray Peat

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    Quote Originally Posted by RichMahogany View Post
    Yes yes yes and yes. Please and yes. And yes.



    I'm 31 as well, and I've been dating older women almost exclusively for the past 4 years. I find women in their mid-late 30's to be less clingy, more realistic in their expectations, and more libidoistically compatible and sexually comfortable with themselves. Obviously it becomes more important that they've made good choices with regards to taking care of themselves, but that's important to me anyway. So I +1 your manfriend's choice.
    Hmmmm.....here I though I was too old for you. Maybe not
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    Is it a sitting down or a standing/moving date? Comfy, but stylish, shoes will ensure that you're not tottering or hobbling around. I'm a skirt/dress girl and therefore that's what I would wear on a date. Echo what others have said - don't wear something out of your usual style range, aim for comfort rather than discomfort - tugging at your clothes is not attractive. Style rather than sexiness. Understated rather than underdressed.
    Good luck and let us know how it goes!
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