I've finally started seeing someone semi-seriously and he is lovely. Problem is that he is very much carbs/CW-oriented in his food preferences (despite bloat, obesity and joint issues .....) and loves to cook.
I don't want food to become an issue but I also don't want to put all my effort and expense of eating primally to waste for the sake of a relationship.
He tells me he loves me 'just the way you are' but I am not the way I want to be and intend on being primal for the rest of my life in order to be as healthy as I possibly can, with a side order of slim.
He cooks to show affection and I don't want to stymie what could be a lovely thing for the sake of food but, at the same time, I don't want to give up a way of life which suits me.
I don't do 'diplomatic' and even after 6 months of seeing each other he still won't accommodate the non-processed, lowish carb, wholefoods approach. I tend to cook what I will eat and add pasta or potatoes or bread for him, but he seems incapable of doing the same thing in reverse. Problem is I have zero willpower when people play the emotional card with food.
I do feel neurotic agonising over this but this is the rest of my life I'm talking about (the food, not him). At the same time, though, my health is my health and I feel I'm putting my hard work to waste when I am presented with a big plate of carbohydrate affection ...... :-(
Ideas on how to approach this nicely (I'm not too good at 'nice') would be appreciated, along with any advice on how to live with a person who is non-primal to the point of sabotaging my efforts (no matter how unintentionally) would be very much appreciated. Thanks xx
I don't ask that you like me - all I ask is that you respect my life experiences and i will do the same.