a) I try to explain why I don't eat wheat.
b) If that fails I tell them I'm celiac and can't have gluten.
c) If that fails too, I tell them I have a very rare disease and I will DIE shortly after eating wheat.
Lying is bad. But so is being weird.
HOWEVER, unless I'm "forced" to eat pasta or something, I will not obsess over a little wheat in sauces...
"Right is right, even if no one is doing it; wrong is wrong, even if everyone is doing it." - St. Augustine
Not necessarily the same as my original post. But I hate it when people make positive changes to their lifestyle and other people tell them they don't need it. it's like people are overweight or incredibly unhealthy and they start eating better and exercising. Rather then encouragement, people tend to always be like "NO BABEZ, your beautiful the way you are. I mean, your going to die at 40 from heart disease, heart attack or stroke but that's ok, because your a stunner the way you are. You don't need to be/look healthy.
But yeah, I don't mind people thinking I'm weird, or thinking I'm plain wrong or anything, it's just that sometimes they get incredibly defensive/aggressive about it.
Sounds like you need to be looking for a new family. People who love & accept you for who you are, DON'T ridicule, shame or condemn you.
"The problem with socialism is you eventually run out of other peoples money"
Laughing commiseratingly, here...
Been through all that - one daughter is dairy-allergic celiac, the other long-term SCD, and now I am journeying along Primally. Try having folks find out you homeschool AND are arch-conservative in male-female relationships, on top of all that - might as well carry a portable fan everywhere you go...
Joanie - I love rebels of almost any stripe - mostly because, even if you do not agree, you recognize the other as not being a sheeple!
I have a mantra that I have spouted for years... "If I eat right, I feel right. If I feel right, I exercise right. If I exercise right, I think right. If I think right, I eat right..." Phil-SC
As far as food is concerned, there are two kinds of people, those who try new things and make such choices based on a variety of sources of information, and those who have trouble with that. The first sort of person can always find something to eat no matter what the situation or where they are. The second sort gets out of their comfort zone easily and may end up eating all meals at McDonalds on foreign trips.
Diet is psychologically different from other aspects of a person's life. It's one of the primary values many people base their identity on. For them food is not just a choice, it's their way of life. They've never thought about it, because they can't. Rationally considering their way of eating would be too threatening to them.
And they do feel threatened when encountering a person who has chosen to eat differently. Such a person's very existence challenges their values, even if the reason that person chose to eat that way was because wheat was making them sick.
The flip side of the "All-American food" list that includes things like burgers, pizza, pasta, pie, etc, is the idea that people who won't eat those things are somehow un-American or unpatriotic and deliberately so. Even if they were told eating wheat was making them seriously ill and would shorten their lifespan, they still can't imagine giving it up. They would make the sacrifice not to abandon their values. Lots of people who are ordered to stop eating gluten do make that decision and find ways to deny their diagnosis.
They feel threatened in the same way when encountering vegans, people who have also chosen not to eat burgers.
How else to explain all the "I'd die", "I'd rather die", or "I'd kill myself" reactions?
I know. I'm weird. I mean, people are always commenting on how wonderful it is that I lost the weight I struggled with for years. That I look younger. That my skin is glowing. That isn't it great that I don't need the meds they take. But if I reference my diet and exercise, they roll their eyes. Of course, good nutrition and exercise had nothing to do with it. I'm just lucky.
Starting Weight: 197.5
Current Weight: 123
Lost 75# eating low carb (20-40 g) and then MDA primal low carb. Tried many other options but only LC helped me lose weight and improve health. Now at a good weight, I find my body can tolerate a few more carbs but rarely go over 100 g.
I absolutely never get this response. Its all in the presentation I guess. Take on the mantle of teacher and begin lecturing them.... either their eyes will glaze over and they will never bring it up again, or they will be embarrassed by their complete lack of knowledge in the subject area..... the latter means they will leave you alone so as not to feel so inadequate OR (and this is better) they will actually look into things for themselves and become informed.
But I do hear that response a lot. "OMG, I'd rather die". Right.
My family doesn't comment on my diet or lifestyle because I've been doing things unconventionally for a long time, I"ve never gone along with common wisdom in any aspect of my life. For example my whole family loves watching sports and they know my husband and I couldn't care less about it. When we got married we had a very untraditional wedding. When we had our son, we had him at home, no one said anything to us. When we decided to unschool him no one commented. When we started eating primally no one cautioned us. It helps that I'm the healthiest of my siblings and that our 15 yr old son is intelligent and well mannered, if they think our lifestyle is odd no one says anything to us about it. They have asked us about eating a primal diet and I've tried to help them but so far only one of my siblings has had any success sticking to it.
Last edited by Urban Forager; 06-30-2013 at 08:14 AM.
Life is death. We all take turns. It's sacred to eat during our turn and be eaten when our turn is over. RichMahogany.