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    Quote Originally Posted by TheyCallMeLazarus View Post
    It is not new that women use ridiculous metrics to gauge their attractiveness. (Or, in my opinion, are told so by men) What I DO find new and kind of troubling is that there seems to be just a few distinct "camps" of women in regards to fitness, many of which are not healthy.

    1) Women (and many more men) that don't give a rat's behind, are on the SAD, and spend an inordinate amount of time deriding anyone that looks better than them out of jealousy. Make no mistake, this is the vast majority. You walked around lately? Ain't too many women that look remotely like anyone in any of those pics, skinny or ripped. Sad but true. I hear from some of my female friends that for them it's even more grim....

    2) Women that use genetic and diet freaks as metrics for their fitness. Yes, Hannah Davis is low body fat, has no "thigh gap", and has breasts. That is called a genetic jackpot, as is the case with some models. No, she isn't starving. She's just lucky. Get over it. Many others that MIMIC this genetic luck are concerned JUST with the aesthetics of the mainstream definition of attractiveness, which is unhealthy, unrealistic, then pushed upon them by insane women and insecure men. Some men and women can be healthy AND be low BF% AND attractive. It's genes. I say this because I have always found it silly when a woman or man can't just say "wow, they look amazing." Not every attractive woman plays with Mr. Pukey. Not every ripped guy is on roids. I'm a baseball fan, and I love the phrase "Sometimes, you just have to tip your hat to them."

    3) The "true health" camp of women, like the ones on here, or your local Amazon chick at the gym deadlifting 400#. They hate that group #2 gets any attention, whether that is from being genetic freaks or masochists. They see other women that are weak, prissy, likely unhealthy, and get pissed that men give them attention at all compared to them....to which I say relax! These women are just NOT crazy or genetic jackpot winners. They were probably headed down #1 or #2, didn't like what they saw, and DID something about it. That is the most attractive feature any woman (or likely man) can have: The drive to improve themselves in ways that don't just count in the mirror.

    Which is why I don't find it weird at all to ask on a first date: "So, what do you deadlift?"
    You sound very angry at women in general to feel the need to characterize us this way. We all "hate" or "are jealous" of members of your other groups, and especially of the ultra-slender women who won your genetic lottery. You are upset we won't compliment women we think look extremely unhealthy, whose body fat may be in the single digits. Why so?

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    *Slightly Off Topic Rant*

    I love live music so I spend a lot of time in bars. I see a lot of couples from the young to the old.

    I see a lot of thin guys with chubby gals. I see thin gals with pot-bellied men. I see thin with thin and fat with fat.

    It's all cool.

    What confounds me the most, however, is tall guys (6'+) with SHORT gals (5'3 or shorter). If this was an occasional phenomenon, I might not get so bent about it. But, I see it all the freaking time! And, as a 5'11 female, I'm jealous of those little ladies. I'm married now (he's 5'9!), but except for one or two notable exceptions, I've only seemed to attract the shorter guys. I always wanted to date someone I could literally look up to. Alas, it was not to be.

    I do love my husband, but I prefer for him to stand on the curb and me in the street when we kiss in public.

    I know - I went kind of off topic. But, if we're talking about what men find attractive in women, why do the tall guys like their women 8" inches shorter than they are? What's wrong with my long legs?

    *Done Ranting*

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    Something I've never quite understood is why it's considered acceptable to talk down about people being too skinny, yet people generally come to the defense of anyone considered 'curvy'.

    As an ectomorph growing up, I was constantly told I needed more meat on my bones, needed to eat more, needed to stop starving myself, asked if I was anorexic or bulimic. In spite of eating all I could, mostly things people considered highly fattening, and only vomiting in cases of severe illness. I was constantly being offered food at get-togethers, if I ever refused I was told I should eat more. Media constantly told me that aspiring to be as thin as I was already was dangerous and signaled eating disorders, that curvy women were sexier than matchsticks, that if I didn't gain weight I would always look like a prepubescent boy and who the hell finds that attractive? What made it even more demoralizing was seeing that people who were overweight were constantly given outs. Hormone problems, can't afford healthy foods, not enough time to exercise, they are just naturally 'big' or 'curvy'. No one ever came to my rescue for being naturally thin.

    I've gotten a lot more comfortable with my body over time, but I still flinch when I hear people saying those same things over and over.

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    I agree with TheyCallMeLazarus, and Quies. The funniest thing is when the same women throw out double standards when it comes to what an attractive male looks like(fit, rich, dresses nice), and will in the same vein call a fat or skinny poor male unattractive, but when the sword is turned against them, they will profusely claim all women are attractive, and they shouldn't have to be held up to the same standards
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    Quote Originally Posted by Incindiary View Post
    What confounds me the most, however, is tall guys (6'+) with SHORT gals (5'3 or shorter). If this was an occasional phenomenon, I might not get so bent about it. But, I see it all the freaking time! And, as a 5'11 female, I'm jealous of those little ladies. I'm married now (he's 5'9!), but except for one or two notable exceptions, I've only seemed to attract the shorter guys. I always wanted to date someone I could literally look up to. Alas, it was not to be.

    I do love my husband, but I prefer for him to stand on the curb and me in the street when we kiss in public.

    I know - I went kind of off topic. But, if we're talking about what men find attractive in women, why do the tall guys like their women 8" inches shorter than they are? What's wrong with my long legs?

    *Done Ranting*

    Tell me about it! I'm 5'9 1/2 and my last two boyfriends have been 5'6 and 5'8 respectively. I'm sure all the slouching has been terrible for my posture. Also, they were both really insecure about the height difference, and were always mentioning it. It didn't bother me at all at first, but gradually I started to feel weird because they seemed to have such a hang-up about it. Also, many men who claim to be 6' tall actually seem to be closer to 5'9 because I usually seem to be taller than they are when we stand next to each other, and I don't wear crazy heels or anything.

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    I hate the word curvy. I see it used as a euphemism for "overweight". Quies is right. A lot of women will come up with any excuse to put another woman down.
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    Quies makes a point about what may at times be a double-standard. I may not have gotten the degree of grief you describe but certainly got some of the same attitude from even well meaning family--it sucks.

    But when I saw that "thigh gap" link, it was on Pinterest, where people promote what they like or think is cool. As a goal being promoted out to other women, especially young women, it seems misguided. It seems arguably unhealthy. Like bound feet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quies View Post
    Something I've never quite understood is why it's considered acceptable to talk down about people being too skinny, yet people generally come to the defense of anyone considered 'curvy'.

    As an ectomorph growing up, I was constantly told I needed more meat on my bones, needed to eat more, needed to stop starving myself, asked if I was anorexic or bulimic. In spite of eating all I could, mostly things people considered highly fattening, and only vomiting in cases of severe illness. I was constantly being offered food at get-togethers, if I ever refused I was told I should eat more. Media constantly told me that aspiring to be as thin as I was already was dangerous and signaled eating disorders, that curvy women were sexier than matchsticks, that if I didn't gain weight I would always look like a prepubescent boy and who the hell finds that attractive? What made it even more demoralizing was seeing that people who were overweight were constantly given outs. Hormone problems, can't afford healthy foods, not enough time to exercise, they are just naturally 'big' or 'curvy'. No one ever came to my rescue for being naturally thin.

    I've gotten a lot more comfortable with my body over time, but I still flinch when I hear people saying those same things over and over.
    Seriously, you think it's considered socially unacceptable to talk down to women who are overweight or obese, and on the rare instances it does happen someone comes to their defense and puts down the critic? I'm wondering how it can be you and I live in such different realities. Media blankets us with the message that obese people are to blame for society's ills. It is socially acceptable to discriminate against obese people in hiring. "Fat-shaming" is considered a moral imperative, on the idea that people who are fat don't know it's universally considered disgusting and would simply choose differently if they were harassed enough.

    Even "curvy" women are constantly told they are an assault on the eyes of onlookers who think every self-respecting woman should have "thigh gap" and a concave belly.

    Society needs to keep women in their place, and the easiest way to do it is have an ever-moving standard that no one can meet for more than a moment in time.

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    Quies,I was the same way growing up, my Mom used to say "eat it's good for you" whether it was cake or meat. I wasn't trying to be thin it was just how my body was and trust me no one found it attractive, not the girls or the boys. I was always teased for having skinny legs and a flat chest. One time a friend of mine came to my defense and called the boy who called me "flat chested" dickless, boy did that shut him up. The girls were not much kinder I remember overhearing some of my "friends" referring to me as a late, late, late bloomer.

    My legs don't touch at all and as far I know no one is finding that irresistibly attractive, it could be because it's not offset by buoyant boobs.

    At any rate this thread comes back to the tired and worn out conversation of discussing women's bodies in terms of what is more attractive. The ideal form will always be unattainable for the majority insuring discontent in the majority. Discontent sells.
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