this is the most interesting comment in the thread so far and the only thing that made me pause and think. (from Kochin)
I think the problem is that, when you have sex for the first time outside an emotional relationship (which wouldn't have happened in a tribal scenario, where one-night-stands would be impossible, as you knew everyone),
you associate it with personal pleasure and not human interaction. And, when you have sex for the first time with someone you're bonded to, the oxytocin release will encourage you to stay with them. If that relationship fails, it then weakens the impact of subsequent sexually-released oxytocin, the same way exposure to porn, sugar or drugs numbs your reception of them. This means that when you start a relationship immaturely and have sex inside that relationship (be it a one-night-stand or a teenage relationship formed due to weak social bonding), you're "defusing" your natural potential for monogamy. This probably serves a purpose, otherwise we would have lost it. But it doesn't change the fact that humans (and females especially) have natural potential to be monogamous
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"Ah, those endless forests, and their horror-haunted gloom! For what eternities have I wandered through them, a timid, hunted creature, starting at the least sound, frightened of my own shadow, keyed-up, ever alert and vigilant, ready on the instant to dash away in mad flight for my life. For I was the prey of all manner of fierce life that dwelt in the forest, and it was in ecstasies of fear that I fled before the hunting monsters."
Jack london, "Before Adam"