My sister is six years my elder and she is needlessly jealous of me as well. She has a prestigious job, plenty of friends, but she's an extremely negative person and is constantly picking fights with me by putting words in my mouth or taking things I've said out of context or just bending them to fit her "needs". Your sister has a family which I hope keeps her busy and happy but she still needs to be competitive with you? I wonder if there's some sort of subconscious, elder sister rivalry that only the elder feels... It's a shame.
I'm an older brother and get along really great with my sister. We have a lot of the same hobbies/like the same music. I'm 22 and she is 18.
That's great Max! I shoulda had a brother. haha
Hahaha, sorry to hear about your situation though. Hopefully things get better in the future.
I think you're the exception, Mango You just seem like a kind person.. But I'm glad you two have a great relationship.
I think there's something to that as well, Brooke. I too needed a lot of care as a child. I was born with a non-correctable eye sight condition and I wasn't really able to do much on my own until I was well into my teen years. But I agree, you'd think she'd just be happy that she was a fully functioning human being that didn't need coddling her entire life. It's only exacerbated by the fact that my sister is naturally of the "victim" mentality. She feels "put upon" by life. I just roll my eyes.
I think the mere fact that you're the younger one would lead to a bit of jealousy for the elder sibling. That and the fact that you both needed extra care is probably just a recipe for a giant pot of resentment. Although I'd think that jealousy would fade as your sisters get older, since they should no longer have that childish "I need all the attention, how dare she take it away from me!" mentality. But I guess a lot of the time these feelings we have in our childhood years carry through.
In my case, I think the main reason I didn't have that jealousy is because of the fact that I really considered my sister as a present to me. I only had brothers, who were all older, and growing distant from me, as they moved further into the typical activities that males participate in. I really, really wanted a sister. So, like I said, she was like a gift to me. I find myself waiting for her to get older, so that we can be even closer. I kind of feel like a bit of a weirdo now, haha.
But I hope both your sisters figure out that what they're doing is silly. Life's too short to waste resenting your own blood for absolutely nothing.
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