i met my guy in a chatroom i'd been hanging out in for a few months. during that time i was subjected to many unwanted penises and weird people. for example, i was chatting about pets with a guy and he asked if i wanted to see his dog and i said sure, so he showed me his dog. and then he showed me his penis.
my guy was not a penis shower, and he was fun to talk to, and i liked him. and he liked me too. and happy ever after.
i imagine that dating sites will work much the same way, with many unwanted penises until you find someone you like
and i hate to break it to you, but if you think only socially inept people online date.. and you're online dating...................
in other words, all kinds of people go online now, it ain't a big deal