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    Quote Originally Posted by Zanna View Post
    The shyness you encounter is not always shyness, but caution due to the sheer amount of penis pics flooding most women's email. When 8 out of 10 guys open convos with innuendo and dick pics, you learn to proceed with caution. Humor, honesty and charm will get you what you want a lot faster. Don't promise anything you aren't going to give, relationship-wise or you'll attract the crazy.
    I think Zanna is right on about shyness.

    I met my husband online (OK Cupid). Before I met him I met about 50 other men in person and hundreds more online. I was clear from the beginning that I had no interest in a one night stand or FWB scenario though. I would have avoided any guy that said he wanted FWB and if a guy sent me a croch shot he was immediately ruled out. I ruled out many more men for similar icky behaviors which are plentiful online.

    I know lot of people who met their SOs online. My sister, best friend and several other friends all come to mind. None of them are crazy or socially awkward. So, to the original question, yes you can meet nice people online. I don't know if it really saves any time though. I usually emailed people between 2 and 6 times, arranged to meet, met them, then never spoke to them again. There were only a few people I wanted to see a second time. The whole process was quite time consuming. I often had 3 to 5 dates in a week and sometimes had more than one in a day. I knew what I was looking for and was going to look until I found it though... most people are not as intense as I am.

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    Well, if you're looking for open relationships, apparently OK Cupid is where they like to go fishing

    Just, for pete's sake, don't send an opening note of "Sex?" (yes, I got one of those), and make sure that you fill in the profile with full sentences and at least decent punctuation and spelling. Also, look for women that note an interest in casual sex, instead of relationships, since you'll probably have better luck.
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    I have had terrible experiences with specific online dating (eHarmony, okcupid, etc) but excellent experiences with 'dating people i happen to meet online.'

    in fact all my successful relationships came about by befriending people in video games, and all of them went from online relationships to real life in person dating, including my current one.

    it works great for me because it takes a looooooong time for me to trust people enough to be physical with them so the long slow burn is ideal for me. when i date men from actual dating websites, they were always super handsy and wanted to grope me on the first date, or lick my tonsils on the first date, and i was having none of that which led them to believe i was frigid or some such. dating the women i met online, they were often too much like myself - too shy to make any sort of move at all, even hug. which is sad because i felt much safer with the women and would have been more inclined to kissing, but am not very aggressive myself in that regard. =P (note, i am female, and bisexual. dating a woman very happily, currently. ymmv)

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    Quote Originally Posted by drssgchic View Post
    Well, if you're looking for open relationships, apparently OK Cupid is where they like to go fishing
    omg yes i got SO MANY invites to join couples on OKC. i was not interested in that, as i've tried it in the past and always felt jealous and or neglected and or generally not good in some way. i received many polite inquiries as well as some gross ones for this particular thing though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by qqemokitty View Post
    I have had terrible experiences with specific online dating (eHarmony, okcupid, etc) but excellent experiences with 'dating people i happen to meet online.'

    in fact all my successful relationships came about by befriending people in video games, and all of them went from online relationships to real life in person dating, including my current one.

    it works great for me because it takes a looooooong time for me to trust people enough to be physical with them so the long slow burn is ideal for me. when i date men from actual dating websites, they were always super handsy and wanted to grope me on the first date, or lick my tonsils on the first date, and i was having none of that which led them to believe i was frigid or some such. dating the women i met online, they were often too much like myself - too shy to make any sort of move at all, even hug. which is sad because i felt much safer with the women and would have been more inclined to kissing, but am not very aggressive myself in that regard. =P (note, i am female, and bisexual. dating a woman very happily, currently. ymmv)
    I have gotten more good stories than good dates from OK Cupid, and you're right about them being handsy. But now I put my foot down and say "just friends." It scares some away (and one notable exception took it for a challenge), but I have recently stumbled across a wonderful guy that is willing to take me at my word. Which means that if anything happens, it will be at my pace, and in the real world. (And it's a totally novel experience to have a guy call me hot and still keep his hands to himself.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by qqemokitty View Post
    I have had terrible experiences with specific online dating (eHarmony, okcupid, etc) but excellent experiences with 'dating people i happen to meet online.'

    in fact all my successful relationships came about by befriending people in video games, and all of them went from online relationships to real life in person dating, including my current one.
    ^This. I met my wife online but in a place where we both shared a common interest not in a random 'lets start a hookup/relationship' site. My buddy met his ex-gf through World of Warcraft. Hell, if nothing else at least they can both raid together (though her DPS was terrible ) I found that by being friends with my wife online first I got to know her really well. There was no pressure to hook up or do anything we were uncomfortable with and we were already friends before we met in person. Worst case scenario would could have remained friends...well, we have remained friends but it went beyond that.

    My advice if you go the dating site route is to be honest. That way you are not wasting time with women who want relationships when all you are looking for is a place to put the D (or vice versa if you are looking to settle down). Otherwise, try to meet people at places online where you might share a common interest. Is the primal hookup group still active?
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    I met my fiance online. Not through a dating site, though. Just a standard forum. We just got talking and realized we were made for each other.

    I'd guess that works well simply because we already have something we're mutually interested in, we weren't looking at the time and we could see each other for who we were. Past-stalk each other on the forums and the likes.
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    I only internet meet radicals and activists; it's way more fun because there is an element of, "Is he/she a secret policeman? What have I said or done that would make them think that about myself?"
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    I have been happily married for over 7 years (been together for about 9). My wife and I are together 24/7 (we work together, commute together, sit next to each other at work etc...) We met on hotornot.com. Romantic, huh?
    The above should be viewed as complete and utter nonsense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wiltondeportes View Post
    That isn't any different from the dating game as a whole though.
    I met my husband online. Past a certain age it became harder to meet single people in a town the size of mine without going online. I found online dating to be not a whole lot different than the old fashioned way. You still have to be careful about safety no matter how you do it. Unfortunately I lost my dear to a brain tumor after 3 and a half years of marriage. It's been long enough and I'm young enough that I am sort of contemplating going back online. Haven't quite made up my mind whether to get back in the pool or not...
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