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    Quote Originally Posted by kenn View Post
    that's not what he did at all
    Oh, really? Could have fooled me. The idea that women should be held responsible for rearing children and then should lose their careers for having done so hardly sounds like equal opportunity to me. But that's right, you don't support equal opportunity. Only for men.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kenn View Post
    So basically you want communism and only support feminism and that the white man is the bane of the world
    You might want to learn what communism is before you spout nonsense about it. It is clear you enjoy your white male privilege and feel threatened that women might want to have equal access.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eKatherine View Post
    You might want to learn what communism is before you spout nonsense about it. It is clear you enjoy your white male privilege and feel threatened that women might want to have equal access.
    So basically this is your way of agreeing with my statement.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eKatherine View Post
    Oh, really? Could have fooled me. The idea that women should be held responsible for rearing children and then should lose their careers for having done so hardly sounds like equal opportunity to me. But that's right, you don't support equal opportunity. Only for men.
    Actually I said, " Perhaps it is unfair that the woman is expected to shoulder the load (as cori points out) but again, woman-up and tell your husband/whomever it is their turn to take 5 years out of their career to raise junior."

    I encourage women taking charge and letting their significant other know that if they are having children then they (women) are not automatically responsible for raising them/sacrificing their careers. Also, what about childless women/men? Is it fair for them to lose out so others can take time out of the workplace to raise children without penalty to advancement etc?

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    Various research seems to be showing that more families are more 50-50 in terms of outside-home work/family-life work. So, there's some equity within households there.

    And, i know a lot of stay at home dads. there aren't as many as there are stay at home moms, but there are a lot of them (i would say more here in NZ than in the US in my experience -- but it could be that i'm just on the lookout for them).

    Also, there's a difference between "equal" and "equity." People get confused around the issue of "equal" vs "equity." Equal means that everyone, no matter their height, has the same box to look over the fence. The tall person doesn't need it, but takes the box anyway and stands on it. The medium sized person could use the box, even though s/he only needs to be lifted a few inches to see over the fence. A little person can barely see over the fence with the same sized box -- but that person shouldn't complain because it's "equal."

    The problem is that it isn't "equitable." If the first step to success is that each person can see over the fence (and then their success is dependent on what they do once they can see over the fence), then it makes sense that each person will be given an equitable share to see over the fence.

    The little person gets a big box; the medium person gets a little box; the tall person doesn't need a box, so they don't get a box. Everyone how has equal opportunity to see over the fence, but what created that equal opportunity was equity policy.

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    The idea that women should be held responsible for rearing children and then should lose their careers for having done so hardly sounds like equal opportunity to me
    My sister in law is working for her career while my brother sacrifices his to raise the kids. Sounds like someone gave her a choice. She had 3 choices: keep working as is, reduce her hours, quit working. My brother had the same 3 choices. My sister in law makes more than he does despite having less education.

    Women have choices. Now in some cases, due to the economy, both parents must work OR single moms obviously must work. But that isn't about gender equality, it's about economics.

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    I think we can look at a comparison with equity policy.

    In Denmark, for example, women and men both get maternal and paternal leave. Both leave their jobs, receive stipends (which are usually managed through their work environments) so that there's no loss in income/quality of life, and both return to their jobs. Child care and education is 100% provided for their children.

    Once they return, they are get their annual raises as if they had worked, and any promotions that they would have gotten should they have stayed.

    This is family-focused equity policy.

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    UK women in their twenties now earn more than UK men in their twenties. As a result the birth rate is dropping because those women don't want to give up their careers. I don't blame them. Why don't women combine nurseries with workplaces?. It should be law that any workplace can accommodate children. Why not do this? Thats how we lived for thousands of years!

    Women are now earning more than men in the growing communication-based economy that we find ourselves in. The agricultural and industrial eras played to male strengths, the communication era is the domain of the female. I am delighted to leave them to it and to go play golf, fish, learn to hunt, and develop woodsmanship skills that are badly paid but highly rewarding. Women are next to useless in outdoor pursuits - have you ever seen one try to use a slingshot? Ridiculous :-)

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    Denmark, for example, women and men both get maternal and paternal leave. Both leave their jobs, receive stipends (which are usually managed through their work environments) so that there's no loss in income/quality of life, and both return to their jobs. Child care and education is 100% provided for their children.

    Once they return, they are get their annual raises as if they had worked, and any promotions that they would have gotten should they have stayed.

    This is family-focused equity policy.
    I don't think this will ever happen in the US and as a woman, I'd be pissed if someone took time off, came back and received promotions and raises (*beyond cost of living). That said, I don't think it is the role of government to tell business how to operate.

    I work for a really small business and when my coworker had a baby, there was no one to do her work, no way to replace her at the same pay rate using a temp. So everyone had more work. Making regulations of child care at work would KILL small businesses.

    For big businesses, heck yeah, they can get great talent by offering excellent maternity leave and onsite childcare; many companies do.

    But I think it's unfair to mandate "family friendly" policy. Kids are a choice. Not a right.

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    I am the only person here who couldn't give a rat's a$$ about a career? My husband is the same way, neither one of really wants to work, we can think of plenty of things do with our time. I worked while he finished his degrees now I stay at home with our son. But honestly we would both be here if we could. We are not our "work".

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