You have paragraph after paragraph of excuses listed. That's fine. If it isn't a priority, then you made your bed. But don't for a second think it is impossible or even that remotely difficult. I'm 25 years old, so you can say I don't have "experience" in the world. But what I do have is a sound understanding of nutrition and the human body, something you very clearly lack. The weight is creeping back on you because you didn't create a new set point for your body, that is directly on you. Maybe it takes a bit more effort than just eating clean and whenever you feel like it... so what? Again, priorities. Not excuses/impossible.
I'm actually not an asshole regardless of my tone here, and I would never publically berate someone for being fat. That is their choice, and truly none of my business. Would I help an obese friend out to get healthy if they asked? Absolutely! But I don't go out of my way to do it. I respect them a lot less, through experience dealing with people the obese are usually more inclined to be more "easygoing" and less likely to work hard, not to be mention have serious confidence issues. And that is sad.
I'm sure you don't lift weights properly / routinely, get too little protein and too much fat, and consume more calories than you think you do... and that is why the weight creeps up on you. And always will unless you do something about it. But hey, what do I know... I'm just 25 right? I hope to become a messiah like yourself over the next 23 years.
And magnolia, you could definitely outlift some of my friends... great job. Not so much for them
Intermittent Fasting, Set-Point and Leptin | Intermittent fasting diet for fat loss, muscle gain and health
Quick summary... I'm sure this will ring true for some:
Fat loss in the single digit body fat-range needs to be slow and tempered. In my experience, this allows for a smooth transition into maintenance and minimizes muscle loss. I also believe it might lessen the negative effect of dieting on leptin, which ultimately makes maintenance of low body fat achievable. I think most people diet too hard, which has a profoundly negative effect on leptin - and this is part of the reason why the weight gain rebound is so common in folks who finally manage to reach their goal (and then screw up everything by binging).
Look, I'm an appropriate weight right now. The thing is, I don't look like a college coed and never have. I don't have that body type. I am not obese but I know that it offends people out there to see a body jiggle, to see rolls on the stomach and cottage cheese on the thighs and buttocks. I have that. I had it when I weighed 108lbs in my teenage years. There's not much I can do to not offend someone so I would like to exert my right to go about my business, not have my quest for fitness be solely measured by how much weight has or hasn't been lost and wear a bathing suit to go swimming without having to endure wrath and shame. That is all.
Female, 5'3", 49, Starting weight: 163lbs. Current weight: 135 (more or less).
Starting squat: 45lbs. Current squat: 180 x 2. Current Deadlift: 230 x 2