It's just that discussions of what 'real men' or 'real women should be' always get my dander up a bit, and the fact that this is the first thread that caught my attention after joining the forum didn't help matters. I'll either stay here or I won't, I have no desire to create drama. But regardless I'll still pursue the paleo lifestyle as best I can within my given constraints. I'm permitted to work out with two 25-pound dumbbells and do as much cardio as I can tolerate. I believe a real man is one who makes the most out of what they are handed in life, and by that definition I am doing just fine!
Granted, if I were born with this defective heart in the paleolithic I would be long gone by now.
But I'm not ready to off myself just yet.
Fortunately I've had the opportunity to be seen at one of the top heart hospitals (Cleveland Clinic) and my specialist is one of only a handful of doctors in the country who deal exclusively with this particular issue. The problem is that I was born with an extra thick heart muscle which impairs its ability to pump properly. Anything that strengthens (i.e. enlarges) it even more is bad news. In theory, working out with dumbbells should at least allow me to work on peripheral muscles (is that the right word?) without putting too much burden on the heart itself.
It's a shame actually because I've got a classic endomorph body type and I'd bulk up like nobody's business if only I could lift heavier weights.
At any rate, I'd rather concentrate on things that I can do rather than regret the things I cannot.
The classic weight training where you go into the gym, blast yourself continuously for 45 minutes (or an hour and a half), then leave red-faced and panting is clearly not for you. But I see no reason why you and your doctor couldn't set up something where you never went anywhere near your max, did short sets, and took lots of rest between sets. Perhaps wearing a heart monitor to make sure you don't elevate your heart rate would be a good source of data.
I feel the same way when I see fat women. Why, oh why do women get fat? When being attractive is her biggest card in the dating game. It is important for men too, but women see men's attraction as a combination of many things, looks but also social status, money, career, personality. All the things needed to protect and provide for her and her offspring. But women are attractive to men primarily because of their looks. It comes from our instinct to find healthy women who can bear children. And because men evolved to be quickly aroused by the visual, as these men passed on their genes more than the rest. The woman needed to display signs of youth and health: slim body, small nose and ears and a non-elongated face (as these grow with age, big eyes, lush and long hair (sign of health), youthful voice and laughter, a certain hip-to-waist ratio, smooth skin ... slim body! It's not so hard, for Thor's sake. Just don't eat those potato chips. I don't.
But I digress.
Last edited by Erik W; 06-11-2013 at 06:18 PM.
A solution to that is to buy dumbbells or a barbell and work out at home. It is cheaper than the gym and it gives great results. Instructions can be found at bodybuilding.com and in YouTube videos. It works perfectly fine! And you don't have to spend time traveling to the gym and back.
Some of us women never were attractive to begin with. I'm still surprised to this day anybody thinks I'm pretty.
Female, 5'3", 49, Starting weight: 163lbs. Current weight: 135 (more or less).
I can squat 180lbs, press 72.5lbs and deadlift 185lbs
You were never unattractive. You are beautiful. Let go of those feelings. Release them and enjoy yourself.