The process is simple: Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
Wine and cheese aren't necessarily your problem. I have 2 glasses (one third of a bottle) of red each night, sometimes more. I have it with cheese each night 1-200 grams. No crackers - no need. Just the wine and cheese. Weight has been steady around 72kg (I'm 180cm) for over three years.
Its easy to blame moderate consumption of wine and/or cheese but you may have to look elsewhere. You've said you have crackers. Where else do you fall shy of compliance to the ten primal laws?
Four years Primal with influences from Jaminet & Shanahan and a focus on being anti-inflammatory. Using Primal to treat CVD and prevent stents from blocking free of drugs.
Eat creatures nose-to-tail (animal, fowl, fish, crustacea, molluscs), a large variety of vegetables (raw, cooked and fermented, including safe starches), dairy (cheese & yoghurt), occasional fruit, cocoa, turmeric & red wine
You lousy kids! Get off my savannah!
I don't snack. I rarely eat cheese or nuts, except as a condiment. I treat primal baked goods as a treat to be counted more scrupulously than alcohol. I know my total calories every day. I seriously doubt moderate alcohol on its own is ever the culprit.
CW-125, part calorie counting, part transition to primal
GW- Goals are no longer weight-related
Drinking alcohol also makes me want to SNACK and lowers my primal inhibitions (and not in a good way, hehehe...), so I find that these days it's better if it's more of a "treat" once a week than an everyday sort of thing. I think if you're stalled out, it could be a good thing to cut back on, but everyone has to figure out the best course of action for themselves. Cutting the vino really helped me get out of a weight-loss rut and I'm down one size now. Hoorah!!!
"I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.
In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."
- Ray Peat