Try to see the world not through other people's intentions rather than seeing it as people always being in your way. All you have to do is say no thank you.
And if you are celiac or have celiac children, never go anywhere without bringing your own food or being prepared to not eat. Expecting other people to care about your requirements when other people live in their own self-obsessed universes is a recipe for constant frustration.
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I've noticed a lot of people tend to get freaked out if you don't eat the same things that they feel are "guilty pleasures" or whatever. I think on some level it scares them that someone is "able to say no" to a "delicious cake with frosting!". I just take a really relaxed approach: "Here have some cake!" "No thanks, I'm good. Looks tasty, though, thank you." Eventually most people figure out what you won't eat and it's no big deal.
A couple of you remind me of this girl in college. She was in PETA and was VEGAN and let the world know. We were all in an "earth" group that got together and discussed environmental issues. We had a potluck, and one of our members brought a bean dip made with lard. His grandma's recipe. She flipped.
If you don't want the cake that the nice lady in accounting made, just say "No Thank You!". If you have a gluten free child and someone is cooking for you, ASK what they are making to determine if it is gluten free. If someone makes you something gross that is gluten free... SAY THANKS.
How would you feel if some vegetarian bitched about going to your BBQ and not having a veggie burger? Or you inadvertantly thinking chicken works for vegetarian? Or if you made some tofu concoction with them in mind and they bitched about it being gross. You'd probably find them to be self centered assholes.
Face it, we exclude a food that probably 96% of americans enjoy regularly and many of them are healthy. It's not like offering someone a piece of cake is like offering a kid some crack cocaine. It's a part of life.
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Cooking vegan for a non-vegan is a breeze compared with the challenges of cooking gluten-free.
Glad you clarified.