I think y'all are taking this a little too seriously. Attraction is a natural thing. Flirting is fun. Feeling desirable is fun. That is all it is fun. My wife couldn't give two shits if I flirt or find another woman attractive because our relationship is strong enough that she knows I would not act on it. P, you have been married 21 years. If you were going to screw around you would have. Naiad, you and Geek have a great thing going, sure you are like the Nerd Queen of West Texas, but any dude coming into your house/life/whatever has to know he has no chance. There is no need to feel awkward or distance yourself or whatever. It is fun. Harmless fun. I'd have to enter a monastery, without internet, if I wanted to separate myself from every woman I found attractive.
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