I remember when I first read through your thread, you saying something about how you always have guy friends because it is hard for you to like/relate to/get along with other women. (If I am making this up because I've confused you with someone else, please ignore this ramble - or tell me, and I'll delete it!)
But I just got off the phone with my one (and only) girlfriend. She has a lot of guy friends herself, and likes to joke around and goof around a lot and do 'activities' like camp or hike when we get together, so I have been able to keep her as a friend. Whereas any other time when I have a girlfriend, they just always end up having some drama fit, or becoming really boring after they get married and all they want to talk about is Pottery Barn, or in the end, I just never really connected that well with them because I just don't care about what they care about (and they don't care about what I care about).
So this GF, the only one I've managed to hold on to, is engaged to be married in July. Now keep in mind that we have been close for several years, I have been through several of her breakups with her, each year we take at least a couple of trips together, and I drive out to Oakland almost 100 miles to see her as often as I can. Sounds like a good, grown-up friendship, right? Well, today she tells me that she is not going to have me be in her wedding, because I'm not that 'available' to her since I don't call to catch up every week, and we see each other only every couple of months.
This really hurts my feelings, since she is my closest/only girlfriend and I definitely planned on being on her wedding, and her being in my wedding. See, THIS is exactly why I am never friends with other women. They pull this shit. My guy friends would never exclude me from their weddings, probably for any reason, but certainly not because I was unavailable and didn't call them enough.
Really? THIS is the standard for chick friendship? No wonder I can't meet it. I hate to talk on the phone, and I prefer only to communicate with my friends in person, and that while we're doing something fun, preferably. I thought she felt the same...
Sorry for the rant on your page, instead of mine. Ack, I got my feelings hurt. Somehow, when a guy does something kinda 'off,' I figure he's just clueless and I don't worry about it. But with a chick, I know it's not lack of awareness ... it's drama. Blech.
OK, vomit over. Hope your day was a LOT better than mine.