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    Self Sabotaging

    Hi i really struggle with this topic! I cruise along doing really well and then someone says how great i look and that im losing weight and suddenly BANG!! Its almost like a green light to eat something naughty! Just wondering if anyone else has come across this, if so have your dealt with it and how. This stops me from meeting my goals, i get frustrated with myself and do the whole guilt thing.
    Any suggestions would be greatly received!
    Cheers

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    My specs wouldn't be considered great when told to people online:
    19 male
    5,10
    150 lbs
    10-12% BF

    But everyone I know around me says that I'm in a great shape and doesn't require any improvement, they always wonder why I keep going on more and more extremely diets and trying to improve. It's just the whole point of it of how badly you want to achieve what you want and once you have what you want, you keep wanting more and more! Just have to understand the concept and "Rule your mind" to the point of what you want to achieve.

    Do whatever you think it's right for you and that you're happy with it!

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    Put yourself in one of those situations mentally and walk through it. What is the little voice in your mind telling you at any given time? There is a sequential dialogue going on in your mind that you are able to change.

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    focus more on how you feel not how you look

    so when someone says 'you look great'

    reply with 'I feel EVEN better because I constantly make the right choices '

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katsuhiko the Rolfer View Post
    focus more on how you feel not how you look
    +1

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    I used to do exactly as you describe, Yogi. It is as though a compliment is permission to veer off track. Several years ago I shifted something in my brain and decided that nothing (even success!) was going to stop me. You can do that. Don't wait as long as I did.
    Starting Weight: 197.5
    Current Weight: 123
    Far healthier!

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    Hi Janie, can you give me some ideas on how you did this? I find i have an battle in my head quite often.
    Thanks, i appreciate your time

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    the compliments should serve as motivation to stay on track as the plan is clearly working!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katsuhiko the Rolfer View Post
    the compliments should serve as motivation to stay on track as the plan is clearly working!
    Okay, this kind of response just isn't helpful.
    You can't just tell someone how the should feel about and react to compliments if that person has l already stated that they feel/react a different way! There's a lot to the psychology of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by s-piper View Post
    Okay, this kind of response just isn't helpful.
    You can't just tell someone how the should feel about and react to compliments if that person has l already stated that they feel/react a different way! There's a lot to the psychology of it.
    it's called a reframe and I am a Master Practitioner in both Hypnotherapy and NLP and a both a weight management coach and a Physical Therapist with over 25 years experience in treating patients with all manner of issues - think I might have a few insights worth sharing

    I was subtly trying to get the OP to think about the moment they receive a compliment

    but as with most Americans everything has to be spelled out in letters as large as a building for the message to sink

    Think I will leave you all to it, there was that other one whining that she didn't get serious replies when her first ever post was about how much sex she's getting

    Yanks, sheesh

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