It's also true that bad habits often go back to earlier programming we learned. It's not our fault for not recognizing what is going on. Certainly when we acquired unproductive habits we were doing the best we could have done at the time.
So if your mother (as mine did) piled up your plate and forced you to eat it all, hungry or not, you were rewarded and called a good girl. You were encouraged to feel proud. If you didn't clean your plate, this was shameful. But then there's always a little voice telling me not to waste that food, encouraging me to eat when I'm not hungry, even though it won't help the starving children of India any more than it did when my mother used to say that to me.
There weren't really any other coping strategies when you're a vulnerable kid. These are hard habits to break, even if we are aware of them.
I was subtly trying to get the OP to think about the moment they receive a compliment
but as with most Americans everything has to be spelled out in letters as large as a building for the message to sink
Think I will leave you all to it, there was that other one whining that she didn't get serious replies when her first ever post was about how much sex she's getting
Thankyou all for taking the time to read and comment. This is my first time at going primal so its all very new to me today but i think i did make a step forward today!!
I have had compliments about my body changing shape/losing weight the last two days. Friday night was my first and i admitted that i hadn't been on the scales but yes i feel things are changing, straight after that i said to myself in my head "im doing this for my health" then changed the subject.
My husband commented on me this morning to the point of saying what parts of my body, i said thankyou and again, took my dog for a run and during that time my head started playing games, i actually even started thinking about how i could lose more (that is one of my biggest things to overcome) but something in my head snapped and i thought "im doing this for my health" "if i get weight loss as a side effect of my better health GREAT!" and i left it at that.
Thats a huge shift for me, i really believed it and that little voice in my head shut up!! Today we spent a day in the hot pools with the kids (in togs!!) and i felt ok, not as embarrassed as i normally would, my head will still play games from time to time but i feel ive got one step closer to closing the chapter on self sabotage.
I feel proud of myself, i am in week 3, and for the first time in 25 years food no longer controls me, i control what i eat and when.
an article on this. Have you read The War of Art?