Fear of failure is often just a cover for fear of success. There's a lot of responsibility with success. It means you really do have to make a change. It means you have to keep it up. It means you will lose all your comforting excuses for the failure you currently enjoy. It may mean that there are other things you know you could change in your life.
Female, 5'3", 49, Starting weight: 163lbs. Current weight: 135 (more or less).
Starting squat: 45lbs. Highest squat: 167.5 x 2. Current Deadlift: 190 x 3