The inability for you to control your consumption does not discount CICO.
A variable TDEE does not discount CICO.
They are entirely different arguments. CICO is always law. Enough with the straw men. You may be able to control your hunger better eating nothing but steak and eggs. So what? If you consume more than you expend you will gain weight regardless of food source. CICO every time.
Eat less, move more. Every time. Your definition of "eat smarter" is to eat more satiating foods so you eat less. You're contradicting yourself over and over.