Sorry for the late replies guys - the last few days have gotten away from me. I really appreciate your kind words and consolations <3
See, I wouldn't consider a "someone" to be just anyone that you could have a relationship with. There are tons of those people out there. I'd consider a "someone" to be a person that you can make things work out with: someone who's wavelength you are on. There aren't many of those out there: not in my experience. In fact, I think I've only met one guy who I felt like that about, and then I outgrew him...
Originally Posted by badgergirl
I'm actually an open book with most people, and I'm the kind of person who makes friends very easily, and for some reason I seem to be in many people's "top friends". I have a lot of people who I love. I'm also very, very close to my family. (There are certain things I find very hard to talk about, and these are the things I share on MDA: my ED, my wrinkles (though I just make a joke of this ) and the times I find it difficult to be single). So it's not that I want a partner because I need to be close to someone. Romantic love is another level of intimacy, and I want to share that with someone. I want to share all of myself with someone.
Originally Posted by ombat
And I agree that not only romantic partners can be soul mates: I also have a male friend who I consider a soul mate. We've travelled the world together: even shared a double bed for three months in India! He's absolutely the most magical, kind, hilarious person, and we totally get each other. My sister is definitely a massive soul mate too.
I guess the term "soul mate" comes laden with so many cliches and bad movie references. Perhaps it would be more apt to think of it as magnetism. Similar energies find each other: sooner, or later. The stronger the magnetism, the stronger the connection, and the harder it is to break.
You give back loads Ci! Who else could I bold my letters to? Kidding - I really appreciate your advice, and I think you're extremely insightful. I know I'm always suggesting potential careers to you, but I think you'd make a great psychologist.
Originally Posted by CiKi90
I agree with you about people evolving and hence there not being soul mates. There was one guy who I was sure was my romantic soul mate, but then we both changed, and it turned out we were / had always been, wrong for each other. I think a better way of describing it might be what I said to Ombat above. Getting in touch with your true essence might be the way forward.
And yes, I know I needed to be single for this period of my life, cos' I was such a mess before. I wouldn't have been able to share with another person. It just gets hard sometimes, not knowing when you will be ready, or how much longer you have to wait... I can bare it for the most part, and things are getting better now that I have my ED (and energy...? touch wood!) under control and I'm actually enjoying my life
Ha, the sexy yoga man is someone I dated before! He's super good-looking, but not a very genuine person so things could only go so far.
Thanks Serenity I've actually always felt older than I was! Since I was a child I felt really old. Now I'm getting younger mentally, which is nice... I was too serious in the past.
Originally Posted by serenity
I wonder if it is timing... if they were the perfect person, then surely it would work? There have been times when things didn't work out between me and a particular person, and at the time I thought it was timing, but in hindsight I could see that we simply weren't right for e/o.
What's come from this stream of thought is a realisation that "magnetism" is a better way of thinking of it all.
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