YB, I've had thyroid disease for 12+ years. I also have other hormonal issues and I seem to be permanently perimenopausal at 56. During the first 8 years of my thyroid mess I gained a great deal of weight, got sicker and sicker, and fired/changed doctor after doctor that said it was due to the stress I was under, depression(therapist disagreed) and that if I would just lose weight things would improve.
In desperation in 2008 I went to a new doctor. I told her I knew my issues were thyroid related. I begged her to increased my meds for 6 weeks to see what happened. She agreed to the smallest increase (12.5mcg). It made a world of difference.
At the end of 2008, about six months later, I felt better than I had in years and knew I had to make a change because I was still obese and, more importantly heading for diabetes-- a disease that runs rampant in my family.
I told myself I could stay obese (thyroid disease taught me I had no control over what I weighed) if I got and stayed healthy. I made a plan that outlined what healthy meant to me. I decided since low carb eating(didn't earn about primal until 2010) worked in the past that I would go that route.
I mentally prepared to implement my plan starting January 1, 2009. I was very clear about what I knew I would do and what I knew I wouldn't. Health, specifically avoiding diabetes, and daily choices were what I focused on.
I didn't count calories, I didn't track macros. I did track BGL. I weighed and measured myself but only as a way to record what was happening.
By January 1, 2010 my cholesterol, FBGL, insulin, HbA1c were stellar. I was off a ton of medications. I went from walking 5 minutes to being able to go for over 5 miles.
I was healthy. I had met my goal. And, the scale said I was down 50+ lbs.
There have been bumps in the road. Those bumps generally indicate a need for a thyroid med change. But I have maintained my health and my weight.
I tell you this to let you know that my experience has taught me that if you (general) really focus on health and daily choices success can/will follow.
You say: "Focusing on "health" is not the answer to all my problems. It's multi-factoral. I need to focus more on love, and less on the imperfections."
I say health is multi-factoral. I had many years of therapy before my journey started in 2009. During that therapy I finally learned my self worth and that it had nothing to with how I looked, how much I weighed, or what other people thought/felt about me.
I hope telling you my story helps in some way.