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    I personally think foreplay is good sometimes. I like variety. Sometimes tender and slow, some times 5 mins of wildness.


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    Quote Originally Posted by YogaBare View Post


    In a physical sense I desire him and want the sexual intimacy, but on an emotional level I'm not ready at all. Your message really hit home to me: you're right: I deserve a partner who can cope with something like this; otherwise I'm settling. I need someone with the emotional depth to process this, and who cares enough about me to take my hand. You've made me realise that needing someone to be understanding is not the same as expecting them to "fix me". Thank you!!!

    He's quite sensitive, so I think he knows something is up. When we first started seeing each other I told him I took a long break from dating, and when we talked last weekend about my needing to take things slowly he could see what a struggle it was for me to say the words, and he was concerned about me, and about his reaction to me telling him. So thinking about it, it probably wouldn't be a huge shock to him. Even though he seems to think I'm pretty 'together'.
    I don't think anyone can 'fix' us... maybe I am cynical, but I believe my issues have to be worked out on my own, and my partner is just support. My husband knows nothing about my emotional issues in the past. I never bothered to tell him because I wanted to get over those issues and not be defined by them. It's a choice I made and not everyone agrees with me. For awhile, most of my emotional support came from outside the relationship, from other women.

    I had a few boyfriends before my husband to whom I opened up to, but for some reason, I always felt disappointed.. not because they weren't supportive but because I had expectations that weren't met.. although what those expectations were I couldn't say. I dated this one guy whom at that time I was really in love with (lol, I laugh at my silliness back then), I just always felt because of my issues I wasn't good enough for him, and why would any guy want to deal with me. My low self-esteem killed the relationship eventually.

    I would give the relationship more time to see where it goes. Society makes us have all these expectations, but what matters is just you two.

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    Quote Originally Posted by badgergirl View Post
    I think that little by little or with enough time for the conversation to have breathing room. I think (hope) he will be okay with whatever you choose to tell him, but it is heavy stuff and his first reaction might not be the best one/one he would have liked to have given had he had time to think through his response. I can see the value in prefacing any conversation with sth like 'I have some things that I want to and need to say to you about stuff that happened a long time ago, but that is ripplingly through me now in ways I'm uncomfortable with. Some of this stuff might be difficult for you to hear, some of it you might have figured out already. I would like you to - hold me (or not - whatever you feel you would like him to do)/rub my back/ not look at my eyes - while I share this and - can you hold your questions for a while please. I'll understand if you need some thinking time before you respond.
    I think this is great advice - thank you! Possibly a mistake I made in the past was telling the guy at the wrong time, and telling him the heaviest thing first. I don't feel the need to do that this time: I think the best option is to first tell him that it's been a while since I had sex, and see where it goes from there.

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    I can't get off without foreplay, foreplay = most of sex for me. You do whatever works for you though.
    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisepassion View Post
    I personally think foreplay is good sometimes. I like variety. Sometimes tender and slow, some times 5 mins of wildness.
    I'm not disagreeing about foreplay before sex: what I mean is that I find it weird to do all those intimate things without it leading to sex. I don't know if I could just get raunchy with him without having sex... I'd feel like a teenager. Is that weird?!

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    I don't think anyone can 'fix' us... maybe I am cynical, but I believe my issues have to be worked out on my own, and my partner is just support. My husband knows nothing about my emotional issues in the past. I never bothered to tell him because I wanted to get over those issues and not be defined by them. It's a choice I made and not everyone agrees with me. For awhile, most of my emotional support came from outside the relationship, from other women.

    I had a few boyfriends before my husband to whom I opened up to, but for some reason, I always felt disappointed.. not because they weren't supportive but because I had expectations that weren't met.. although what those expectations were I couldn't say. I dated this one guy whom at that time I was really in love with (lol, I laugh at my silliness back then), I just always felt because of my issues I wasn't good enough for him, and why would any guy want to deal with me. My low self-esteem killed the relationship eventually.

    I would give the relationship more time to see where it goes. Society makes us have all these expectations, but what matters is just you two.
    I really, really relate to this. I was an idiot in the past: I kept looking for a guy to "fix" me and in the end I always felt let down because only I knew what I needed to heal. Then I went to the other extreme and tried to do it by myself, but what I'm realising through this discussion is that asking a guy to hold your hand isn't the same as jumping on his back when he's trying to cross the river
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    In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."

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    Quote Originally Posted by YogaBare View Post
    I'm not disagreeing about foreplay before sex: what I mean is that I find it weird to do all those intimate things without it leading to sex. I don't know if I could just get raunchy with him without having sex... I'd feel like a teenager. Is that weird?!
    Oooh I see. Well, even when I tell Hulky I don't feel like having sex, if we fool around, we almost always end up having sex . So definitely don't even both if you think you'll have impulse control problems! haha. I can understand why it seems silly, but if you think it will be helpful in making you feel more comfortable, I think it's worth talking to him about. Take it at whatever pace you need, even if you revert a little
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    Just going to place this down gently here...

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    Quote Originally Posted by namelesswonder View Post
    Oooh I see. Well, even when I tell Hulky I don't feel like having sex, if we fool around, we almost always end up having sex . So definitely don't even both if you think you'll have impulse control problems! haha. I can understand why it seems silly, but if you think it will be helpful in making you feel more comfortable, I think it's worth talking to him about. Take it at whatever pace you need, even if you revert a little
    Thanks.

    I think I'm going to invite him to stay over on Wednesday night. We're going to a film with a bunch of my friends, and it's close to my house. He's actually stayed over once before but I was plastered drunk and it was more to make sure I didn't die in my sleep

    If I ask him in advance then I can bring up that I'm still not ready to have sex, but if he wants to stay over I'd like him to. I think it would be really nice to bridge the transition that way...

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    Some early evening reading for me Thank you <3

    Friday, 4th Oct

    The first part of today was shitty. Then I napped in the afternoon and when I woke up, "it" was gone. I feel normal again. Oh, except that I gained an insane amount of weight over the last three days

    As grateful as I am that I have more good days than bad days, this was two big crashes in one week, which hasn't happened to me since last June. The last three months I got an energy crash with every period, which was a big improvement. I'm hoping that the last ten days have been a case of "moving backwards to move forwards". I had a longer cycle this month, so maybe it had something to do with this.

    I know some of you disregard the idea that hormones rule the mind and emotions but.... I believe that this is hormonal: there was no reason for me to have such a melt-down. According to menstrual tracking I've just come out of "winter" into "spring".

    It could be that the trauma of the past was surfacing, but I think that the hormonal flux actually forced me to look within; not the other way around. But then again, it doesn't really matter. What matter is that in the darkness I looked within myself, and decided I was ready to move on.

    I've said before that this journal on MDA is magic. I input things I want / want to change, and somehow... it happens. So we'll see what the next few weeks bring



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    - I've been on Raw Thyroid for a few weeks. Not noticing much of an effect anymore. Maybe I need to up the dosage?
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    "I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.

    In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."

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    I would get cynoplus, honestly. cut the dosages into 1/6

    read this too if you continue with raw thyroid:

    NutriPakNaturalThyroidHowTo.pdf - By Nitro PDF Software
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    Quote Originally Posted by Derpamix View Post
    I would get cynoplus, honestly. cut the dosages into 1/6

    read this too if you continue with raw thyroid:

    NutriPakNaturalThyroidHowTo.pdf - By Nitro PDF Software
    What would be the advantage of taking cynoplus over raw thyroid? It's stronger?

    That's an excellent article - thank you!

    Turquoise, if you're reading, this might be relevant to you:

    Most patients who are hypothyroid have a daytime oral temperature of less than 98.6 degrees F and a
    resting pulse lower than 75-85. A few patients have an abnormally high pulse due to excess adrenalin, the body's way to compensate for sluggish thyroid function. All hypothyroid people have from 10% to 40% excess adrenalin. The higher the adrenalin, the slower you must increase your dosage of thyroid.
    Why? Thyroid will make the tissues more sensitive to adrenaline and some patients feel hyper at the
    beginning due to increasing tissue sensitivity to adrenalin. But, as the tissues become more sensitive to adrenaline, less will be produced and hyperactivity will disappear. That's why you should heed my advice to increase slowly. It takes several weeks OR months to calm the adrenal glands
    "I think the basic anti-aging diet is also the best diet for prevention and treatment of diabetes, scleroderma, and the various "connective tissue diseases." This would emphasize high protein, low unsaturated fats, low iron, and high antioxidant consumption, with a moderate or low starch consumption.

    In practice, this means that a major part of the diet should be milk, cheese, eggs, shellfish, fruits and coconut oil, with vitamin E and salt as the safest supplements."

    - Ray Peat

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    because if you stopped noticing any benefit this fast, the product may not be good, depending on manufacturing techniques. it's all trial and error whereas cynoplus is a guarantee. how much are you taking, and how much at once?

    even two different grains in the same bottle can vary with desiccated thyroid, or two bottles from the same brand.
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    Bahh. I don't know anymore. I guess I should take my body temp. I never have characterized myself as hypo since I can eat a ton and eat very little basically be at around the same body weight. But it is possible. I am just so tired of worrying about what to eat when i should be focused on the patent bar and school.

    Why can't I just find something and coast (minus going to the gym regularly), I don't know.

    Just messaged you. be prepared for the length.






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