we aren't dogs without social structures, feminism and the media routinely vilify what you're describing as an "alpha male". brainwashing exists, and as human beings are domesticated and suckers for social status, the need for "being normal" outweighs whatever biological desire exists to go for the stronger, more dominant male.
you can see this is as rich and successful males are routinely sacked by women in the courts for paternity, divorce, false abuse allegations, etc;
fortunately i hate social structure and society as a whole, and deviations always exist. status lumberjacks piss me off.
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Last edited by wiltondeportes; 03-16-2013 at 01:22 PM.
I agree.... women can also use them as motivation as well as men. But my mom is a GREAT example of a woman who contained emotions and pushed through. It has gotten her far in life, but I think also maybe limited her. But I know the stereotype is helpless woman, crying. Or the raging bitch. Or any number of stereotypes, but there are plenty that have the "suck it up" cupcake down and are hard as nails. Like anything there is a balance you need to maintain between expressing yourself and not.There's a difference between repression with no goal and repression with a goal. It is those who are able to use these negative emotions as motivation that do great things. They lock it down in a box; they harness those desires, and no one is more dangerous or stronger at that point.
Interestingly, I think the sexes differ in the emotions they will express. I contain anger,dorrow, disappointment and sadly, joy to a strong degree. But I am very open to expressing fear (for example, "I am afraid to drive on ice".). I think men don't let you know about fear, but are fine about expressing anger.
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Last edited by wiltondeportes; 03-16-2013 at 04:03 PM.
Here's an example: in choosing mates, I believe women are more shallow than men are. (Disclaimer: if you're a woman in your late 30's or 40's, you're not choosing a 'mate'. Your period of fertility is almost over, so you're just choosing a friend that you may or may not suck money and resources from while having sex on occasion.) Women innately want genetic superiority for their children (typically using an existing hierarchy with alpha being at the top and preferable), while men innately want someone nice and sweet (research has proven men like smiles and happiness the most of all traits in women, while women like smiling and happy men far less than brooding, silent, even angry type) likely because they don't want a woman who will use her power to strip him of resources excessively and they just want to have a good time too.
So being more emotional, to me, is a less descriptive way of saying the women focus more priority on those initial needs: the food (how many women vs men are foodies?), the friendships and gossip of their circle, raising the babies. Meanwhile, men are more concerned with being creative enough, competent enough, and powerful enough to woo future mates. Men go out and do things to get females, while the females let the men come to them. Which do you think is going to be the recipe for success?
You could say men still desire the same amount of those lower level needs, but the difference is that they have to go higher in order to get them. They have to reach creativity, competence, and power in order to have sex. Women have to say....I'm ready. The act of sex happens because our genes want to reproduce themselves. Reproduction has a higher level of priority than even living or dying because all organisms die at some point. The number one goal of the organism is to reproduce so it did not die in vain. So, the fact that men are motivated to be creative, competent, and powerful in the name of reproduction is as great of a motivation as a person can have. The only time women experience the same level of motivation is if their kin is in danger. That motherly protectionary instinct kicks in because, again, there's no greater genetic priority than ensuring genes are sent into the future.
This 'protection' instinct is of the same order as the men's instincts, but men are called to meet those demands every day. They have to continually produce things technologically and artistically while gaining great wisdom of the world and maintaining physical dominance in order for women to see them as alpha characters and thus, a person they want to fuck. The women's experience of this instinct would never or rarely draw them to do anything technological, creative, experience-oriented, or even physical fitness-oriented. This is why men attain success more than women do.
Last edited by wiltondeportes; 03-16-2013 at 04:12 PM.
For a serious cliff notes to my previous post: women don't figure crap out because they don't have to.