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    It sucks being healthy!!!

    This is my first rant on a message board, and it will probably be my last. I just came here to vent and see if anyone has experienced some of these things.

    For yourself personally, healthiness is great. For the world, it messes everything up! I'll give a few examples:
    -intelligence
    -sleep deepness
    -vitality/sex drive/whatever you want to call it
    -wide feet and toes, way too big in the middle section to wear anything but baggy pants (I'm fit; I don't mean fatness)

    I used to just sluff off any problems that arised from my above characteristics, but I'm now taking total responsibility for my actions and my life. This means I have to legitimately attack "problems" that are really positive signs my body is healthy. Here's how the above has affected me.

    Intelligence: I could apologize all day for bragging and supply evidence so the reader knows this is not a delusion of my own, but I won't for the sake of brevity. Let's just accept I'm in the top 5 percentile of intelligence (could be anywhere in there; could be #1 ever, could be the last guy to make it). If I'm going to have a girlfriend and not a f*** buddy, that means we need to get along, laugh at each others jokes and be on the same wavelength. Let's just assume that means we need close to equal intelligence. I've already limited the field to 5% of women if we assume the distribution is the same for women and men. For one, women are generally more capable of dating a less intelligent persons because they are their lovable 'manly' men. For two, what are intelligent women my age (22) doing? Are they out having fun on Friday nights or even out on Fridays at 4 going to the grocery store? No, they're in school, working on something after school, or simply at work. And how many of that 5% are off the market anyways? That number means 5 in 100. Let's say 2 out of 5 are too busy to ever get out much (that might be very conservative), 2 out of 5 do have serious relationships, and 1 out of the 5 is physically unattractive to me (and 1 out of 5 are low standards...come on). So what are my odds of finding a girlfriend right now before we factor in anything else about the situation? Technically 0 in 100. Less than 10 in 1000. So essentially, I'm learning more and more that I have to just ignore the search for a great mental connection in the interest of at least getting laid and feeling some sort of intimacy at all. I'm 22...sh*t, I can't miss out on those good things while waiting for love if it ever effing comes. That's not a totally rosy path either though. How many ladies are just looking to hook up? And what percentage of them are weird or shady? Most of them are defected in some way, so I'm going waaay below my level just so I can get a little release.

    Sleep deepness: I literally can sleep anywhere and stay asleep. I'm always alert when awake, but when I sleep, nothing wakes me up until I am ready to be woken. Alarms never really worked for me. I need that 8 hours or whatever exact number my body is looking for. So, if I don't go to bed at least 8 hours before I have to get up in the morning for school or work, I'm not always screwed, but I am enough of the time to not be a reliable attender of school/work in the morning. Sleep deepness is a sign of great physical health for the system in your body that involves sleep, no? I always feel extremely refreshed upon waking.

    Vitality/sex drive/whatever you want to call it: I have energy all day and all night. That part about intelligence above just amplifies my difficulties here sometimes because if you don't have a girlfriend, you can't get a true release without a one night stand or f*** buddy. I sit in my bed very warmly with active & ready muscles and a racing mind. These indicate a fast metabolism, a fit muscular system, and an energetic mind. Those are good characteristics, no? Well, it keeps me up late at night, and it frequently leaves me feeling extremely full but unable to 'unload'. I'm trying not to make this dirty for the PC people who're disgusted by any mention of sex, but there's just no other way to put it.

    Irregular body size: This is not my main complaint, but I threw it in as I was thinking of other effects of being healthy. I have had to resort to custom shoes so I have something to wear besides Vibram Five Fingers. My feet just don't fit comfortably in anything else, even most of the "minimalist" shoes. As for my pants and most shorts, I currently wear a waist size 38 despite being waist size 32 or so. Anything else is skin tight and looks ridiculous on me. Yes, I have tried "loose" style Levi's and other brands. They were still skin tight. I basically wear a 38 pair of wool trousers, a 38 pair of shorts, and basketball shorts. At least most shirts fit me.

    Ok end of rant.
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    I used to have issues with constant eating and hunger too, but I fixed that with daily fasting. I was literally eating a whole chicken and half a loaf of bread for lunch a couple years ago, and I couldn't fit that into a 15 minute break I got on a work day. I was constantly hungry. Then at bed time, I just wanted to eat instead of sleep. You can't sleep on an empty growling stomach...

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    You sound sexually frustrated. For the pants, find a tailor to take in waists on your pants.

    For dating? If you advertise being in the "top 5% intellectually" any smart girl is going to roll her eyes and date the nice guy with a sense of humility and humor. Arrogance is not sexy. The ability to laugh at yourself is. I mean, don't get me wrong, arrogant men get some sexy pieces of ass, but they aren't generally the smart girls you want.

    Also, people are all smart in different ways. My husband is not the brightest at say, being well read, but he is an amazing photographer. I can't do finance, and "art" bores me, but I love history and sociology. Instead of advertising your overall intelligence, maybe think about looking for a girl with similar interests. Mostly you just want someone who isn't vapid and dull and those come in many packages.

    And ummm
    Most of them are defected in some way, so I'm going waaay below my level just so I can get a little release.
    Ick. That attitude is just really assholeish. Apparently, you can't get laid so you put down the women that will sleep with you? I hope you are getting them off with multiple orgasms....

    You need a good dose of humility and humble. There are a lot of guys with *very* nice bodies and nice personalities out there particularly in their early 20's. You have competition.

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    Quote Originally Posted by magnolia1973 View Post
    For dating? If you advertise being in the "top 5% intellectually" any smart girl is going to roll her eyes and date the nice guy with a sense of humility and humor. Arrogance is not sexy. The ability to laugh at yourself is. I mean, don't get me wrong, arrogant men get some sexy pieces of ass, but they aren't generally the smart girls you want.

    Ick. That attitude is just really assholeish. Apparently, you can't get laid so you put down the women that will sleep with you? I hope you are getting them off with multiple orgasms....

    You need a good dose of humility and humble. There are a lot of guys with *very* nice bodies and nice personalities out there particularly in their early 20's. You have competition.

    Yup, I pretty much quit reading after the "top 5% intellectually" bit. *eyeroll*

    I'm sorry, OP. You sound like a real douche. I wouldn't date you either.

    Edit: Ok, maybe I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that it doesn't translate well via the internet, but still... I just want to shake my head and say "OMG, your life is SO HARD!" (With sarcasm, of course.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Diana Renata View Post
    Yup, I pretty much quit reading after the "top 5% intellectually" bit. *eyeroll*

    I'm sorry, OP. You sound like a real douche. I wouldn't date you either.

    Edit: Ok, maybe I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that it doesn't translate well via the internet, but still... I just want to shake my head and say "OMG, your life is SO HARD!" (With sarcasm, of course.)
    Ok, I get it... First world problems, right? I guess princes aren't allowed to bleed. Only peasants can show their scars.

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    Hrm.

    I'm not an incredibly intelligent person or anything, but I am someone who is outside the norm. I have very little in common with my peers and thus have a really hard time making friends or relating to anyone. For the handful of friends I do have, I am usually putting on a show to some extent. Chances are, at any given moment I'd rather be alone, or alone with my boyfriend, with a book in my hand and music on and no constant chatter from the totally boring people around me. I'm pretty self absorbed in that way. :P I make up for it by being the best friend I can to the few I do have, who have been trained to understand that I am an introvert, that I don't do much small talk, and that if I decline to go out, it is not because I hate them.

    While our situations seem different, I totally grok (not caveman grok, Heinlein grok) where you are coming from. You have difficulty connecting to people. You have trouble making conversation with people outside your genre of work. People's eyes glaze over when I mention anything about the video game industry in which I work (my family assumed I was a checkout girl at game stop when I said I worked in the games industry) and I imagine in a field such as yours it is even more difficult to get the average person interested.

    My suggestion, then, is to develop interests outside of work. Do you have hobbies? Hiking? Horseback riding? Decoupage? Cooking? Movies? Bingo? I mean, there must be more to you than your job in the physics department (why do I feel like I am talking to the lost member of the Big Bang Theory cast? :P)

    Find a hobby that you enjoy, that other people can relate to. Find things in the world to talk about that are not obscure and archaic. Don't be 'that guy' and correct people all the time, even if with good intention.

    The right girl for you will be exceptional, not only because of her intelligence, and maybe not because of her intelligence at all. Maybe she is a high school graduate who has been working since then. Maybe she is a beautiful soul who will enrich your life in all the ways you can't do it yourself. That is, after all, the point of a relationship. You come together to form a partnership and provide to each other what is often lacking in yourself. It's a collaboration. She isn't there just to be a fuckhole, she's there to comfort you when you're anxious, maybe cook for you or with you, learn from you about what you know, and teach you about what you don't - and of course you do still have MUCH to learn, as do we all.

    I second the idea of going backpacking or at least taking a trip to another country (not England or similar). Several years ago, I spent a few weeks in Jerusalem and Jordan - boy was that an eye opener. It changed me, and for the better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by qqemokitty View Post
    why do I feel like I am talking to the lost member of the Big Bang Theory cast? :P)
    I was thinking the exact same thing. This is Sheldon's long lost twin brother.

    That said WDP, I do kind of get where you are coming from. I have always known that I was not in the middle of the bell curve too. (gifted classes as a kid, passed the Mensa test, 99th percentile SATs, ivy league scholarship, doctorate degree, yada, yada. All stuff not said as bragging, just tangible markers of the nebulous concept that is "intelligence")

    Yes, it does limit your dating pool a bit. So? Would you rather be average? No? Then deal with it. Quit whining. It's not sexy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wiltondeportes View Post
    Ok, I get it... First world problems, right? I guess princes aren't allowed to bleed. Only peasants can show their scars.
    Wow, you ARE a douche.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Diana Renata View Post
    Wow, you ARE a douche.
    he was actually kinda funny there
    beautiful
    yeah you are

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    Quote Originally Posted by magnolia1973 View Post
    You sound sexually frustrated. For the pants, find a tailor to take in waists on your pants.

    For dating? If you advertise being in the "top 5% intellectually" any smart girl is going to roll her eyes and date the nice guy with a sense of humility and humor. Arrogance is not sexy. The ability to laugh at yourself is. I mean, don't get me wrong, arrogant men get some sexy pieces of ass, but they aren't generally the smart girls you want.

    Also, people are all smart in different ways. My husband is not the brightest at say, being well read, but he is an amazing photographer. I can't do finance, and "art" bores me, but I love history and sociology. Instead of advertising your overall intelligence, maybe think about looking for a girl with similar interests. Mostly you just want someone who isn't vapid and dull and those come in many packages.

    And ummm

    Ick. That attitude is just really assholeish. Apparently, you can't get laid so you put down the women that will sleep with you? I hope you are getting them off with multiple orgasms....

    You need a good dose of humility and humble. There are a lot of guys with *very* nice bodies and nice personalities out there particularly in their early 20's. You have competition.
    +++1 my husband is a surgeon -- brilliant and a total slob at home. Does that make him in the top 5% intellectually -- yes. Does that make him easy to live with -- No! Intelligence is not the bee all and end all. Get over yourself. I don't give a royal crap how intelligent you deem yourself to be....if you are not liveable with...no one cares who smart you think you are.
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