You sound like you just wish you had a girlfriend. I think what you truly need is an adventure. Get out of your comfort zone. Go backpacking around the world. You will meet amazing, learned people from all over the world, people that will blow your mind and help you see that you aren't as close to the top 5% as you thought you were. I'm not trying to cut you down. I was once under the impression that I was really smart but a little world travel taught me otherwise. There's a huge world out there of stuff I've never imagined or thought of or learned about. There is SO much more to learn. I'm sure it would be the same for you.
Female, 5'3", 49, Starting weight: 163lbs. Current weight: 135 (more or less).
I can squat 180lbs, press 72.5lbs and deadlift 185lbs