Sadly, I only speak two languages - Bad English and Internet Slang
That said, Louisa655 did have a valid point; it just does not apply in your case.
This has been an interesting thread to read - OP is taking a lot of hits, which may stem from this part of the original post:
It's this bucketing of women you are lowering yourself to have sex with into a "defective", lesser species class that is bugging me. If they aren't meeting your standard for mental/emotional connections, you're not doing them any favors by working out your need for sex on them with that kind of attitude. Save yourself for the women who meet your standard, if they'll sleep with you, or just jerk off in the meantime. Having that kind of cruel, dismissive attitude towards someone you're sleeping with if really awful. If you genuinely feel that way about your current options for sex, do without. It's pretty despicable to just use someone like that if you really think they're trash. They might not be what you want in a woman long-term but some basic respect for them as human beings isn't a bad thing. That kind of respect tends to get into your character, making you more appealing to the kind of woman you say you want to find.So essentially, I'm learning more and more that I have to just ignore the search for a great mental connection in the interest of at least getting laid and feeling some sort of intimacy at all. I'm 22...sh*t, I can't miss out on those good things while waiting for love if it ever effing comes. That's not a totally rosy path either though. How many ladies are just looking to hook up? And what percentage of them are weird or shady? Most of them are defected in some way, so I'm going waaay below my level just so I can get a little release.
The women you meet who just want to have sex are, on average, not as fully developed or complex as the women who just want relationships. Those two examples of women could get the same amount of sex. The difference is there is a greater value transfer towards the second woman, and there is probably a reason for that; she is worth it.
What makes you think I am using them? That might imply that I don't even talk to them and just use them physically, but I do connect on whatever level they are able to communicate on. It's consenual, so both sides have agreed they are getting enough out of it that they want to continue. There's nothing I'm saying to appear like I want a relationship if I really don't. There's really no element of 'using' them.
Zanna, you are falling into the trap of everyone else who thinks I'm being inhumane in my descriptions. I feel I'm being direct and cutting to the core of what I'm talking about. You and many others are not willing to see the core of humans, so you use a "stop-think" whenever you get close, and anyone who does not is seen as inhumane.
Last edited by wiltondeportes; 03-20-2013 at 11:33 AM.
Using words like "defective" to describe less intelligent women who are apparently down to have NSA sex with you might lead to making assumptions of you using them or looking at them as lesser human beings. Maybe they just like sex. That's also a direct way at looking at it. Do you think they would be as willing if they knew what you thought of them? They might, if they just wanted to hook up and didn't have a lot of self esteem. That could be a useful screening tool to weed out the undesirables - be as honest and cutting with them as you are being here, and see who walks away. That girl might be worth pursuing for a relationship, though she is likely to not want one with you.
Did I say I was not an honest and cutting person in real life? I get why you feel the need to add something to the end of all of your posts. You want to add a call to action. Whether your motives be personal or benevolent, it's unnecessary if you have to make a bunch of assumptions before giving that advice.
Last edited by wiltondeportes; 03-20-2013 at 12:14 PM.
Yeesh. I was just wondering if the girls you think you are slumming with know that's what you think.
Except for the ones that otherwise don't need a man in their life. I know a LOT of smart, attractive professional women that don't care to deal with a man outside of the bedroom and don't need a husband or boyfriend to complete them... but still want sex.The women you meet who just want to have sex are, on average, not as fully developed or complex as the women who just want relationships.
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