What's wrong with soy sauce? Use tamari instead. I buy San-J tamari. Non-GMO, gluten free, naturally fermented. Nothing wrong with it if you're not allergic. I'd take it 100 times out of 100 over a tiny $9 of coconut aminos.
If you want a non-Asian inspired BBQ sauce, tomato paste makes a good base.
Cook onion and garlic in a small amount of butter, maybe a teaspoon or so, just to caramelize them a bit. Add tomato paste, thin it with some apple cider vinegar and maybe beef broth. Cook it low and slow for a little bit to reduce it. Add a drop or two of liquid smoke. That's essentially your base. Whatever else you flavor it with is up to you.
Add the honey at the very end while it's still warm. Don't cook it or you pretty much defeat the purpose of using raw honey.
Don't put your trust in anyone on this forum, including me. You are the key to your own success.