FairyRae. i understand your husbands pain all too well. I was diagnosed with PTSD and Fibro after my last deployment and it took me years to get where I am now. Mostly b/c my docs took so long to figure it out and I just let it get the best of me before figuring out what was actually going on. The knots, burning sensations on the inside of your elbows, knees down your sides suck worse then anyone can ever know. The pain can be unbearable if you let it but I have found ways to cope without meds. I was on Savella for about 6 months (Euro version of Lyrica) and it did okay but the pain and sleepless nights were still there. When I found Primal I really started to re-evaluate the way I workout, handle stress, the foods I eat, etc.
Exercise- great for staying i shape but also to get rid of stress
Yoga/Pilates is great for Fibro. It strengthens the core and releases a lot of the pressure in the back. Most guys will shy away but I can promise you with every fiber of my being that this has been the greatest thing for me since I took charge of this annoyance.
Swimming is another great tool.
I still lift weights but not as much 2-3 days per week depending. Living with Fibro has changed me from wanting to bulk up to staying in phenomenal shape. I treat my body as a machine and put only the highest quality foods to fuel it. I know it sounds completely asinine but it helps.
I now eat a lot of dark greens (Swiss Chard, Romaine, Kale) and cleaner protein sources (Hormone free, anti-biotic free). Fish oil supplements work great along with a strong multi-vitamin. Another important thing to do is cut way back on sugar intake. Insulin is the devil of Fibromyalgia. The body is already inflamed on a consistent basis and adding a high insulin responses only worsens the problem. I cut out soft drinks, fast food, most fried foods- an occasional piece here and there isn't too bad.
He also needs to focus on posture. When you have this afflicition it's far too easy to let yourself go and create bad habits. When you're back hurts you just want to sit down and relax. Well sitting down in a chair, lazy z boy recliner aren't the best things. Puts too much stress on your back causing more inflammation. Walk around a lot without shoes, stand up straight and just try to relax. I have friends who swear by meditating or breathing exercises as well.
Does he have any stress factors? A lto of cases of Fibro are related to traumatic events. If so the confront those head on. If he does than the best way is to not try to forget them but to face them and move on. Again it worked wonders for me.
Hope this helps somewhat.
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