he's fighting you.. about... bacon
I have to agree with the folks here that are saying he needs to RESPECT your right to eat as you wish. I also think it's a red flag that he appears to be trying to control how YOU eat. He has every right to control how HE eats. But he doesn't have the right to tell YOU how to eat. Frankly I wouldn't even try to justify the diet. I would tell him, "I'm following Primal Blueprint and if you want to learn more about why here's the website and here's the book. End of subject." I can't even imagine my OH trying to tell me how to eat. He loves his carbs- his bread, his pasta. Good for him. He also loves and respects me enough to let me be Primal. Your guy needs to do the same.
High Weight: 225
Weight at start of Primal: 189
Current Weight: 174
Goal Weight: 130
Primal Start Date: 11/26/2012
he's fighting you.. about... bacon
yeah you are
Build a man a fire and he's warm for a day. Set a man on fire and he's warm for the rest of his life.
Put it back on him. Make him be logical, though:
"I look better. I feel better. I've lost (a lot of) weight. I eat meat and vegetables and fruit. I am no longer obese/overweight. Everything about my body is better than before. For what reason should I change? Why should I go back to the way that made me into what I am trying so hard not to be anymore?
Honestly, if he can't be supportive and happy that you are healthy, then you may have to find some more deep-seated issues and work those out. (Why does he want you to go back to the way things were before?)
So I serve less fat and if I want to eat fatty things or big huge steaks, I make them for myself when he's not home. In fact, I make him lower fat, healthier stuff than he ever made himself. And I make sure to point it out so he notices. And now there is harmony.
Female, 5'3", 49, Starting weight: 163lbs. Current weight: 135 (more or less).
I can squat 180lbs, press 72.5lbs and deadlift 185lbs
I'm always shocked when I hear about people who eat that many grain products per day.
When I met my boyfriend, I was 215 pounds. At that time he thought I would look good if I put on more weight. Whenever I mentioned losing weight and getting in shape, he would put on a sad-puppy face and say things like "but round is a shape, too". At that point I had a gluten-free household due to necessity.
He eats and enjoys the food I fix (it's good) and has never tried to bring in gluten products. Serving rice, potatoes, or other starches with meat-and-vegetable dishes I fix for myself satisfies him and keeps him on even keel.
He respects the fact that I decided to lose weight and has been surprised at how good I now look as I approach 150 pounds. I guess he thought I would become spindly or skinny-fat.
If your boyfriend can't respect what you are doing for yourself, you can't change him. You can only change yourself.
He doesn't support you.
He eats like a child and acts like one too. You, however, eat like an adult. You eat and cook whole foods. How he can argue against that is beyond me. You are also growing in a lot of ways without him.
He's trying to exert control over you by trying to dictate what you eat.
Think back to other things in the relationship where he has shown this part of his personality. If this is part of who he is, then you don't need that. No one does.
You're strong enough and independent enough to do whatever you need to do without being in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect or support you.
Would he agree to the results of a cholesterol lipid panel test. If so, how about if you both take one and compare results. Part of the agreement would be that he says no more if your numbers are godd.