Ayla, may I ask, do you exercise? My mom was diabetic, and I was furious that the doctors never emphasized how important exercise is to a diabetic. Not heavy duty, just a 30 min walk per day can make a great deal of difference to TypeII folks.
I understand from living it, your reluctance to "feast" with issues to bingeing. But let's say you're eating around 1200 cal/day and you hit a plateau that lasts longer than 10 days. A controlled feast of 1700 calories might send a signal to your body that there is no famine, so go ahead and burn what I'm eating. (I know I'm anthropomorphizing one's body.) IOW stay primal, don't change the macro percentages that are currently keeping you from bingeing, just have a bit more food to shake things up a bit. The next day go back to eating the way you usually do.
I also believe in fasting on occasion - it doesn't have to be even on a regular basis. I love to eat. I would love to have a 15 year old boy's metabolism. I would eat big honkin' burgers with two pounds of duck fat french fries on the side as a midnight snack. Well I can't do that, but occasionally, even though it's fairly low carb, I do eat 2000 calories in a day. I try to balance those days out with one 400-600 calorie meal for the whole next day (plus coffee). Or even have a 1000 calorie day. (Because even at a thousand, 1000+2000 divided by the two days is only 1500 which isn't a bad daily intake at all.)
On the counting thing, you and I are on opposite ends of the spectrum. You don't like to count, and I feel out of control if I don't count.
Anyway, I hope you find the answers you seek.
"Right is right, even if no one is doing it; wrong is wrong, even if everyone is doing it." - St. Augustine