I have to disagree on this one. (After violently biting my tongue so far.).
Originally Posted by Ayla2010
The ONLY job of a parent is to train your children to be able to look after themselves as adults. Not enough people are doing a very good job with this either as evidenced by the number of 20 and 30 somethings living in their parents basements...
Really does the method really matter that much if the result is a well-adjusted adult who can (and does) look after herself? In a word, no.
A have a little story about violence and bullying for you just to bring things back to perspective. My daughter was severely bullied up until the age of twelve. My wife and I had been to the school on many occasions, but to no avail. The school is too weak to lay blame on the aggressor, and the aggressors parents refused to believe that their son is bullying a girl. The school's solution to an aggressive male bully? Bring the bully and the victim together, and have them talk it out!!! So in essence, the school is telling both parties involved that they are both to blame, and that my daughter is somehow responsible or at least complicit in her own bullying!!!
Anyway, to make the a long story short, I eventually told the school that if they continue to allow this to happen, then I would teach my daughter how to punch correctly. They were appalled to say the least. I reminded them that the criminal code allows for self-defense, (which they argued, lol) and that if they weren't going to help my daughter then she would help herself.
They didn't, and she did. After punching a few noses, the bullying stopped but she still suffers from the abuse that she experienced.
In a perfect world there would be no need for violence, but this world is far from perfect...
"It's a great life, if you don't weaken.". John Buchan