If you are smacking your child out of anger you are doing it wrong. Spanking should be done when you are calm and rational. You are not hitting them to make yourself feel better. You are spanking them as a consequence to an action. You seem to think it is different from what you do - it is but isn't. Ideally a parent would discuss why what the child did was wrong, get them to understand they should not do it again, and spank them as a consequence. Kind of like a judge says, "Mr. Canio, you were speeding. This is why you shouldn't do that. Oh, this is your fine." He isn't screaming at me or throwing the gavel.
Now do parents f*ck this up? Of course they do. That is because most people should not be allowed to breed. Most should just be sterilized. My wife grew up in a country where spanking was illegal, was never spanked in her life, yet, she was sexually abused for years and emotionally abused to the point that child protective services removed her from her home.
Abusers abuse no matter what.
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