There's a difference between cheating, and wanting to cheat. Obviously neither are ideal, but at least in the latter you've got self restraint! I'd consider kissing and above cheating.
I hear what you're saying Om. Spending a lot of time with someone you fancy, and feeling it build into physical cheating is premeditated cheating
I cheated twice. Once cos' we were doing long distance and I was... lonely? Another time cos' my relationship was falling apart, and I finally succumbed to advances from a guy who'd been chasing me for ages. I think I did it to test whether I really wanted to still be with my bf. (I broke up with him two days later).
In both cases I was absolutely fucked drunk but I don't think that's an excuse. I always knew what I was doing, but I said fuck it, and threw caution to the wind. ANd in both cases I cheated cos' something wasn't working for me in the relationships. But some people cheat cos' they're not sure, and once they cheat they have the opposite reaction I did - they realise what they might be missing.
ANd then there are some people who.. just cheat! I have two female friend who always cheat on their boyfriends. One of them does it for the thrill, I think. The other one does it cos' she's looking for something better than what she has..! SHe just got married and said she's under no illusions about the likelihood of being faithful in marriage.
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