Page 5 of 5 FirstFirst ... 345
Results 41 to 48 of 48

Thread: Advice please

  1. #41
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    Colorado
    Posts
    273
    Shop Now
    Quote Originally Posted by dizzyorange View Post
    But if she wants to go out, I guess to bite the bullet and ask her to drive
    You could always offer to drive the car (her car). She might appreciate that.

  2. #42
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Location
    Calgary
    Posts
    699
    Quote Originally Posted by PBNewby View Post
    You could always offer to drive the car (her car). She might appreciate that.
    Personally, I'd be way more okay with a home-cooked meal on a first date than letting someone I don't really know (and have never seen drive) drive me anywhere in my vehicle. And if she doesn't appreciate it, you put her in the awkward spot of saying no in the nicest way possible.

    Don't let the fact you don't have a car hinder you...if she isn't a flake, something like that shouldn't be a dealbreaker.

  3. #43
    canio6's Avatar
    canio6 Guest
    Quote Originally Posted by lemontwisst View Post
    Don't let the fact you don't have a car hinder you...if she isn't a flake, something like that shouldn't be a dealbreaker.
    True, but I would give her a heads up before hand or have something planned within walking distance.

  4. #44
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    Location
    New York City
    Posts
    509
    Just tell her that you don't have a car. I know people used to think that having a car was a big status symbol, but I think that is changing a lot. Speaking as a 20 something woman, if a guy was like, "Hey, I don't have a car because I use public transportation most of the time. I'd really like to take you to xyz place because it's delicious/fun/interesting/whatever, would you mind driving?" I would be totally fie with that. I would probably respect that you don't pay for a car you don't need, contribute to pollution, etc. Don't feel emasculated because you don't have a car that you don't actually need. If she is awesome, and I assume she is if you want to date her, she will not think less of you for making smart choices about your lifestyle.
    No disease that can be treated by diet should be treated with any other means.
    -Maimonodies

    The cure for anything is salt water - sweat, tears, or the sea.

    Babes with BBQ

  5. #45
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    Colorado
    Posts
    273
    Quote Originally Posted by lemontwisst View Post
    ...And if she doesn't appreciate it, you put her in the awkward spot of saying no in the nicest way possible...

    In the context of the original discussion, I offered the OP an out for the possible uncomfortable-ness of asking her to drive. If she doesn't appreciate his offer to drive her car, and prefers to be the driver herself, she can easily say so without saying "no".

  6. #46
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Posts
    593
    even just reading about all this tip-toeing around makes me anxious ! I think OP and date will be fine. Has it happened yet??

  7. #47
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Location
    NYC
    Posts
    147
    Quote Originally Posted by sjmc View Post
    even just reading about all this tip-toeing around makes me anxious ! I think OP and date will be fine. Has it happened yet??
    haha in a couple days

  8. #48
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Far Side of Hard
    Posts
    217
    Shop Now
    What about renting a car? Something basic and easy to get around in.

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •