Arrggggghhhh, how mad can one thread make you!
This is going to seem really arrogant but when it comes to talking about alcoholism, an addiction to a drug so powerful it can rip families apart and destroy lives, then only people from inside the issue should offer advice, seriously.
It took me 5 years, 2 rehabs (one for 11 months) to finally find freedom and begin my sober life. People confuse heavy drinking with alcoholism, completely not the same thing. I used to work with a guy who drank 10 pints of strong lager a night, every night, but alcohol did not control his life. He was just a social drinker who drank too much for his health. A few years ago the doctor told him to stop for a month and he did. No problem, no withdrawal, nothing.
AA is an answer for some, but others not. But please people stop with your 'just stop drinking, mind over matter, if you want to stop you will' bull-crap.
An alcoholic knows no rationale, we will do anything to drink, forsaking family, kids, money, law - anything. It controls every second we are awake, and we rarely sleep. The remorse chews at us, so we drink more to slay it. Alcoholism wants to get an alcoholic in a corner and kill them. It takes a massive effort to fight back, and this thread has wound me up for some people's lack of understanding for the ball breaking journey any alcoholic faces to recover.
If it was a quick fix, then we would all have loads of stories about people who are alcoholics one day and the next not. And we don't... in fact in 10 years of alcoholism and recovery and meeting thousands of addicts (a lot of them now dead) I have not met one person for whom recover and sobriety was a quick fix bumper sticker slogan.
All is good now though, huzzah.
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I built my life.”
- J.K. Rowling