Originally Posted by Zach
DAMN YOU, MOTHERFUCKING DONUTS!!!! It's all your fault for being so darned delicious
That kind of blame?
Seriously though, there's a big difference between habits, dependency and addiction. Habits and dependency are like crutches; addiction is like a cancer rotting you from inside. For most of my twenties I smoked every day, drank, took a lot of drugs. I gave up smoking without even trying, went a year without drinking cos' I just didn't want to (now i'll have a few drinks a week), and got sick of the party scene so stopped taking drugs. Why was it so easy for me to give up those things? I was socially dependent on them, but not addicted to them. Big difference.
I can't speak for every addict in the world, but I think those who know they have a problem only blame themselves, and carry a lot of guilt and self loathing, which continues to fuel the depression (because that's what's lying under the addcition. The addiction is just an escape). And most addicts will tell you that they want to stop, but one can never stop until they face what's hiding beneath the addiction. And that is usually a pretty dark, scarey place, and you're lucky that you don't have that lurking inside you.
Those who don't realise they have a problem are another matter, and maybe your step bro is like this? It makes sense that if you've got an alcoholic in your family that you find people like us frustrating but maybe this thread is shedding some light into it.
“I'm glad mushrooms are against the law, because I took them one time, and you know what happened to me? I laid in a field of green grass for four hours going, "My God! I love everything." Yeah, now if that isn't a hazard to our country..."
― Bill Hicks
"Sometimes eating the wrong food with the right attitude is a better choice than eating the right food with the wrong attitude... That’s how powerful the mind and the heart can be in the healing process."
- Chris Kresser