It's ok, you guys. I know that nobody here is really advocating child neglect. I was cringing the whole time I wrote my post and nearly deleted it, because I know that no one was doing or saying anything malicious. I just felt I should say something, because it was really triggering some of those old feelings I've fought so hard against, and I know I'm not the only one who has lived through that stuff, so it could have been triggering others too.
Thanks for not ganging up on me for being a spoilsport like I was expecting. I really didn't want to ruin anyone's fun or put a huge sadface damper on the discussion, I just wanted to use it as a teaching moment, if possible. So thanks for listening. You're all ok with me.