I mean, I don't want to be *that* person, but if your trying to peddle your diet gimmick on Facebook and call it a "healthier way of living" that's fair game, right? It's so hard to keep my mouth shut. So. Hard.
I have a Facebook friend that sells a whole fitness system, which includes shakes, workouts, etc. Granted, she had lost 60+ pounds doing the system for herself before becoming a sales rep. Now she works out like a fiend and always looks tired...anyway, she's been advertising a cleanse the last few days - "Lose 8 pounds in a week!" Several of my friends asked her to message them about it. I posted that I lost 8 pounds the first week I started Primal, and I get to eat real food. She messaged me to ask me nicely to please not advertise other diets on her posts. I guess I really shouldn't have done that
At work they have a table everybody has to walk past to get in or out of the area. There's always cake, cookies, donuts, candy, whatever -- usually more than one kind. They actually posted a sign recently that proudly declares it the "Carb Corner."
This is the same place where I snagged a single Pixy Stick and my coworker triumphantly declared, "Oh, eating sugar now??" and I said, "Yes, I'm allowed flexibility on my plan and I still lose weight. Anyway, this is less sugar than the five Snickers bars you just picked out." Yeah, I couldn't resist.
"Trust me, you will soon enter a magical land full of delicious steakflowers, with butterbacons fluttering around over the extremely rompable grass and hillsides."
Yesterday at family dinner my boyfriend kept insisting that he hates my "diet" (at least I know when he calls it that, he means it as "way of eating" rather than "way of temporary eating to lose weight") because he misses his carbs. I remind him that we eat carbs when I cook, it's just in the form of veggies & starches. So he corrects and says he misses bread & pasta & stuff and I remind him I'm not the one stopping him from getting them! I've even offered to get them with the regular groceries, but he just doesn't! Boyfriend's mom sounded very skeptical and worried (just like my mom) when I said I wasn't eating grains because they aren't necessary and they upset my stomach/BMs. Yet she's doing Atkins...
Boyfriend's laziness & reluctance to admit that he likes eating all this meat (not to mention the bacon) is working in my favor. I don't know if it's that he doesn't notice the constipation and bad BMs he gets after eating grains or he just refuses to acknowledge them.
I just wish I could find the miracle cure for his back problems, but even with the best chiropractor in the world, one bad lift and his back is back to 10 on the pain scale and he has to "take it easy" like he has been so it will stop hurting because the pain meds are inefficient.
I fell head first down a flight of stairs several years ago, cracked a couple vertebrae in my lumbar spine and knocked the wings of my pelvis close to 15 degrees off center. I saw MDs, back specialists, pain specialists, did physical therapy, and two years later I still couldn't sleep more than an hour or two at a time, all propped up with this elaborate pillow arrangement. I couldn't walk up or down an incline, or do pretty much anything physical. Getting into and out of a car was a serious problem.
The first big "fix" came when all the studies showed up about HFCS activating inflammation pathways. We stopped taking in HFCS in any form and my back stopped aching all day. Physical therapy after this really, really helped stabilize my spine and teach me how to strengthen my core, but my back still wasn't "healed", just managed pretty well.
Then I read about grain foods and the body's inflammatory response. I'd had heartburn, nausea, and IBS type symptoms pretty much all my life. Plus my back still hurt. We went primal and never looked back. Now every once in a while I'll tweak my spine wrong or sleep in a funny position and need to do a little strategic stretching/flexing to loosen up, but between eliminating inflammatory foods and using the PB movement guidelines for exercise, plus "floor pilates" with the Miracle Balls, I haven't had any real back pain in a very long time.
Pain meds won't help him, and neither will taking it easy. I took it easy for two years and was in worse condition (even though I was managing it better) than immediately after the accident. Tell him to stop lifting, find a good physical therapist, and get a set of Miracle Balls--I don't know that I'd call them a "miracle", but they really are a very handy tool ;0).
Cheers for you both, and good luck.
Last edited by mixie; 10-24-2011 at 10:54 AM.
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Let me talk about myofascial trigger points.
They cause chronic pain.
They cause pain that comes and goes.
They are muscular in nature and can be worked out by a therapist.
If you want to do it yourself and massage him for mega bonus points, I have no problem explaining what you can do.
Plus I know a few coconut oils that totally rule just for this purpose.
Of course, there are a few steps and it has to be practiced, because you can't just learn it over night.
Okay just cause, here's the background:
Boyfriend did martial arts as a teen. Tried to do some fancy kick and failed, landing smack on his hip bone. Voila: cracked. Doctor's said nothing to be done. And this was the start of his woes.
Queue graduation and joining the army. During a training exercise, back suddenly goes GTFO while trying to pull someone over 100lbs heavier than him out of a car. He tries a couple more times just to see how bad it's hurt (yeah, I know, dummy). Can't sit, stand, lie down, exist without pain over 10 on the pain scale. Docs give him drugs and he does a couple years of regular physical therapy (with the ball, stretching, everything) in the Army. So he WAS on opiates for a while, but docs now won't give him them and he doesn't mind because he got used to them before and then they weren't effective, and needs to be able to function, go to class, and coach a soccer team.
Chiropractor (I made him start visiting over a year and a half ago) with a background in sports medicine helped a LOT and moved him down to maybe under 5 on the pain scale for day to day pain. That's a BIG DEAL after years of daily pain hovering around an 8, or 10 on bad days. But then he pulled it again and it's the same thing all over. He does the exercises & the stretching and everything. Chiropractor determined that the degenerative disc disease he was diagnosed with is only because of spinal misalignment and not just going to get progressively worse and the pain is due to his pelvis being out of whack for years and his muscles and body compensating for it. Getting things straight has been a long process and his hips still go back to how they were (granted, I think he could be working out more to help support the adjustments) periodically.
Also I can't massage him because he has the densest muscles in the world. If you ask him to relax and feel his muscles, you will think he's flexing. It's just how he is. Doctors shrug at this and tell him he needs to learn how to relax, but he's like this when he's sleeping! And I have no doubts that reducing grain consumption and increasing fat would help him quite a bit esp. in regards to inflammation, but we take that a day at a time. He's a bit of a baby about changing the way he eats, but I think he'll come around. He's kind of screwed until he decides to change. He does not understand how to exercise without inducing chronic cardio so lifting heavy isn't going to happen and that's probably the only thing that would help at this point.
I think I'm making a lot of excuses for him...I don't mean to be. He makes his own excuses. If I was going to prescribe him a well-back regimen, I would tell him to go lift heavy at the gym 3x a week. I would tell him to do sprints with his soccer team 1x a week. And I would tell him to cut out the sugar & grains! But I will only do this if asked. I know these things would help him and I realize a proper diet would probably prevent future "accidents", but unfortunately he won't recognize this (yet). At least he's already a master at IF, which is probably part of how he stays so friggin' lean.