Welcome, I am a newbie as well. You are doing great, because you have decided to take charge of your life. I didn't start until my life was almost over.
You have some great resources now that I didn't when I was younger. This forum, the internet and so on. . .
I am also diabetic and started improving my life a couple years ago when I was diagnosed. I went to a dietitian at a diabetic clinic, was so excited, cuz I was going to get ALL that help from the experts!!!!! WRONG!!! She told me to cut back on the bacon or egg and add a piece of whole wheat toast, portion control WHAT?!?!?!?! are you serious. I had already learned (on my own, from testing), that bread, no matter what sent my bs way high. OMG I couldn't believe it, but started right there doing my own thing. I finally found a great doctor that believes that if I get this weight off, I can get off the meds.
My oldest is also MO and has medical issues, I am pleading with him to join this forum. His thoughts (excuses) are he is broke and this kind of food is expensive. I agree, but at least start and go from there, it doesn't have to be expensive.
It is doable. I fell of the wagon (or rather my wheels fell off), BUT I am starting a new day, a new year and hopefully a new life. IF you get an urge, take a bite, maybe two, three the max. OR spit it out. Just a minute a go, there was some leftover cheese (processed) from breakfast (not mine). What did I do? Popped it in my mouth, chewed a couple times and spit it out. It didn't even taste good. I have already broken my sugar & bread habit from my diabetes learnings. I think that is the hardest. It takes about THREE weeks to break a bad habit/craving Experiment with food a little at a time. I think I read somewhere it takes 7 times for you to start to like certain foods. So keep on trying, fixing different ways.
Good luck and I am here if you need to talk.
Height - 5'8" (1/2")
SW - 255.8
CW - 251.4
GW - 155