When making friends do you prefer quality or quantity? page 2

[valmason01]

Oh phigment I am so much like that. The older I get the more I hate it but I can't figure out how to change. I prefer quality but even that seems hard to come by. Or maybe it is just me

[JoanieL]

I'm a gregarious introvert. When people meet me, they think I must love socializing because I'm a gabber and I also know that if I get people to talk about themselves, they'll just keep talking. But in truth, my favorite company is me. I also like going out alone, especially things that most people don't like going out alone for like bar hopping or out for dinner. I invariably meet interesting people.

Occasionally, I get the feeling that I should like people more because all the "science" says that good social interactions are one key to long life. So I make these efforts to talk more to the neighbors or whatever. This usually results in me locking myself in my home for a few days. Can't help it, people in real life are like energy suckers.

[JEL62]

I much prefer quality over quantity. I turned fifty yesterday and there was a scant few friends who even remembered my birthday... but as I'm not twelve years-old anymore it didn't bother me. I don't need cake. Really.

[valmason01]

Happy Birthday! I would bake you a cake if I were closer

I much prefer quality over quantity. I turned fifty yesterday and there was a scant few friends who even remembered my birthday... but as I'm not twelve years-old anymore it didn't bother me. I don't need cake. Really.

[Kochin]

Quality.
I interact with a lot of people, but only those closest to me are "friends". The rest are "acquaintances". If I don't feel strongly for them, they're not a "friend".
I think my three closest friends were two of my dogs and my fiance! lol

So yeah, I'm social. But I wouldn't call even a hundredth of the people I socialize with my "friends".

[JEL62]

Happy Birthday! I would bake you a cake if I were closer

That's nice of you to say. I'm caring for a parent with Alzheimer's and even she didn't realize that yesterday was my birthday. But it was kinda cool... the role reversal... and we had a nice day together nonetheless. We played cards together which she loves. It was just another day for me, and perhaps that was best. No need for cake. We all just do what we can.

[Damiana]

I don't think anyone would prefer quantity over quality when it comes to friendship unless you're a movie star who depends on social networking status with millions of followers on twitter and Facebook.

[phigment]

Valmason, i'm not sure how to change, but i know it is normal for me. We should meet up some time, we could always stare at each other uncomfortably over lunch or something trying to figure out something to say that's not totally lame. Joaniel that is generally how i feel, drained. On my days off i stay at home a lot to recharge. Jell62, happy belated birthday. Generally i don't celebrate anymore.

[JEL62]

Jell62, happy belated birthday. Generally i don't celebrate anymore.

Thanks... interestingly my 30th and 40th birthdays were much worse... 50 was a breeze...

[Rojo]

A mix is preferable. I have bar buddies, people I don't know real well but I can hang with at the bar. And I have few really close friends. I have trouble with people in between.

The bar buddies are zero maintenance. The close friends aren't really high-maintenance either because I want to hang with them. But there are some folks that I was closer with at some point or have moved away or have a family and I have to really work to make time for them.