It all comes down to personal preference and body type. Some people have the natural ability to be ripped while others carry higher body fat. To me as long as you feel good I could care less. I would love to have my 6 pack back for vanity reasons but more importantly to decrease my back pain.
I think people focus too much on body fat % instead of how they feel. If you feel better at a little higher body fat then stay there, if you feel sluggish then drop the precentage down to a more manageable level. As for picking up women or men, looks will only get you so far. If you have the personality of a door then not many ladies or men will be lining up to hang out with you.
Today is a new day. You will get out of it just what you put into it. If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. And supposing you have tried and failed again and again, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call 'Failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down.