Originally Posted by LauraSB
Hubby and I have also been together for 25 years, raised 3 children, and he was military special ops--so his job was always #1 priority--or so it seemed at times.
I want to stress what Laura wrote: I think it can be hard to tell whether you're really not "in love" anymore or whether life has just sucked the life out of you. It's hard to be excited about anything when you're emotionally exhausted.
If you want romance, excitement, anticipation, you have to make them possible. That's MUCH harder to do when you physically and emotionally exhausted. I don't know if it's possible to recreate that first love/lust/blissfully staring into each other's eyes type feeling. IMO, though, the sense of security and depth of commitment you feel after enduring the crap times more than makes up for not having that breathless emotion.
With us, sometimes it was just a matter of putting up with the crap. We're both stubborn about making our relationship last, so there's no way we would have ever considered divorce. And Laura is correct: ride it out because what's on the other side is sweeter than you can imagine!
You make your choices, and you live with them. In the end, you are those choices.
"Strength is the mental and physical fortitude to endure, resilience to bounce back, and force to create change, allowing you to thrive in any circumstance and through any adversity." TrPAssassin